Collaborative Couple Therapy

Collaborative Couple Therapy, developed by Daniel Wile, Ph.D., is a therapeutic approach that takes the couple’s immediate concern (usually a fight or a period of withdrawing from each other) and tries to turn it into an intimate conversation. A therapist practicing Collaborative Couple Therapy will, at times, speak for one or both partners in an effort to show them what it would sound like if they were having an intimate and productive conversation rather than the fight or withdrawal they are experiencing.

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Couples Clinic of Portland

Licensed Professional Counselor

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Kate McNulty

Licensed Clinical Social Worker

Collaborative Couples Therapy helps couples learn to attend to one another's natural emotional reactions with empathy and compassion, rather than becoming adversarial with each other. I have studied intensively with Dan WIle, who developed this method and who john Gottman, a renowned researcher in this field, has called 'our greatest living marital therapist.'

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Andrew Elmore, MSW,CSWA

Licensed Professional Counselor

Fighting and withdrawing are inevitable in a relationship. However, partners can learn tools to work through the damage they create; turning opposition into opportunities. In couples therapy, I reframe conflict for partners, transforming fighting or withdrawing into productive conversations. These conversations help to illuminate a healthy direction for the partnership.

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Kelly Washam (she/her)

Marriage and Family Therapist Associate

MA, MAC, LMFTA

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