Collaborative Couple Therapy

Collaborative Couple Therapy, developed by Daniel Wile, Ph.D., is a therapeutic approach that takes the couple’s immediate concern (usually a fight or a period of withdrawing from each other) and tries to turn it into an intimate conversation. A therapist practicing Collaborative Couple Therapy will, at times, speak for one or both partners in an effort to show them what it would sound like if they were having an intimate and productive conversation rather than the fight or withdrawal they are experiencing.

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Fighting and withdrawing are inevitable in a couple relationship, but partners can become increasingly skillful in reducing their frequency, duration, and damage, and even turning them into opportunities. In couple therapy, I reframe for partners, translating their fighting or withdrawing into intimate conversations. These conversations help to illuminate a healthy direction for the partnership.

Collaborative Couples Therapy addresses your goals...you guessed it, as a couple. While the outcomes may be different for you both, collaborative couples therapy shifts from compromising outcomes involving sacrifices and losses to ways in which you both can get what you want in your relationship with each other.

Collaborative Couples Therapy helps couples learn to attend to one another\'s natural emotional reactions with empathy and compassion, rather than becoming adversarial with each other. I have studied intensively with Dan WIle, who developed this method and who john Gottman, a renowned researcher in this field, has called \'our greatest living marital therapist.\'

Collaborative Couple Therapy (CCT) starts from the belief that problems in relationship are also opportunities for increasing intimacy and connection. Intimacy includes understanding what you feel underneath your fear or anger and communicating that deeper truth to your partner. CCT structures repeated experiences for you to have these intimate and heart-felt conversations about painful topics.

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