Self-Esteem

The term self-esteem is used to describe a person's overall sense of self-worth and value. Most people's feelings about themselves change somewhat based on mood and daily life. Your self-esteem, however, is more fixed than the normal ups and downs. Low self-esteem can negatively affect your life and manifest itself in many different ways.  Individuals with poor self-esteem are extremely critical of themselves and may be perfectionists, hypersensitive, jealous, defensive, withdrawn, hostile or clingy. They often have trouble making decisions and care excessively about pleasing others. A mental health professional can help you develop tools to boost your self-esteem and inner confidence.  

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Self-esteem is the key to authentic engagement with oneself, interpersonally, and with the greater world

I find that an inner critical voice often roars loudly in those who suffer from self-esteem problems. I work with softening that critical voice, and add in self-compassion techniques. Studies show that self-compassion can be even more effective than self-esteem at feeling better about oneself.

Self-esteem is essential for a sense of well-being. I have worked extensively with clients dealing with low self-esteem. I utilized various resources and a strength-based approach to assist clients with taking steps to increase their self-esteem.

The client is invited to openly and honestly share about the situation which is causing difficulties, and/or causing pain or dysfunction. Then utilze depth psychotherapy approaches that focus on helping the client access and better understand thoughts, feelings and images that are not fully conscious as way to improve self-aceeptance and esteem.

Not many topics have produced as much advice and conflicting theories as self-esteem. How do you feel about who you are? This is the question I help clients answer in a healthy way. Healthy self-esteem is a balanced accurate view of yourself, including strengths and weaknesses. Alignment with your values in action contributes as well.

Our self-esteem is the foundation on which our sense of possibility and personal power is built. My approach to therapy is always to build on existing strengths and build new supports where we are still growing. I take it as a core principle to pay attention to self-esteem, and self-concept, in my work with all my clients -- including those challenged by a severe mental illness.

The act of bullying (for both kids & adults) seems to be existing at an all-time high. Self-esteem plays a huge role with the culture of bullying, both for 'the bullies' and their victims. Learning how to understand and accept ourselves instead of only comparing ourselves to others, is an important start to decreasing this culture of bullying and low self-esteem.

Working with hypnosis for self-esteem is very powerful, as it allows you to access the memories, feelings, and beliefs that form your sense of self worth, and bring additional resources and understanding to those moments, and shift your feelings and beliefs towards more empowering ones. I work with this frequently, and have a program both for groups and individuals to increase core confidence.

What a person thinks about themselves can hugely impact every aspect of their life. I enjoy helping folks explore where these stories about themselves come from and then write new stories.

How do we feel like we are enough? It’s a simple idea that’s complex in the real world. I have experience helping clients navigate these murky waters to the source of low self-esteem and begin the healing process. Together we can discover, accept, and celebrate your authentic self while learning how to work with shame, self-criticism, and low confidence.

Feeling not good enough seems so prevalent in today\'s culture. I have successfully worked with individuals to recognize that they possess basic goodness within.

Feelings of self-worth depend on the meaning we’ve given our life experiences. Exploring what we’ve come to believe about ourselves can be an exciting and rewarding journey. I bring a wealth of tools and strategies useful to creating the strong sense of self that underlies positive self-esteem, including creative strategies like journaling and collaging and body-centered tools like mindfulness.

We come in as joy. Watch any toddler. But over time, we learn shame, inadequacy and comparison. We feel lesser-than, which undermines our sense of self-worth, worthiness and happiness. The mind turns on itself, and we plummet. What we were taught wasn\'t true! Therapy helps you recover your true self, and reclaim the enjoyment and sense of well-being that is your birthright!

I help clients stabilize their view of themselves, so that their identity is not rooted in their failures or their accomplishments. I help them gain a sense of grounded-ness in their lives that will stand the test of time through the good and the bad times of life.

Self esteem allows you to follow your interests and passions, to live a full and rich life. Together, we'll deconstruct your self defeating thoughts. You will learn new ways of thinking, seeing yourself, and ways of interacting with the world. Imagine learning how to be a true friend to yourself. Imagine believing in yourself and your right to follow the life that calls to you.

I use mindfulness, CBT and psychodynamic approaches to explore root causes of low self-esteem, working with you to create strategies to feel and appear more confident and feel more 'heard' in the workplace. Root causes can include post-work trauma, anxiety, stress, imposter syndrome, and fears around interviewing and public speaking.

Low self-esteem can be caused by a wide array of different life experiences. I guide people to identify the different aspects of their lives which have contributed to feeling bad about themselves, and I help them gain a new perspective where they can begin to welcome imperfection and accept self-love.

My favorite line in the Desiderata poem (Max Ehrmann, 1927) is: 'Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here.' It is a profound and powerful notion that you, as you already are, are valuable and worthy of love and respect. I am committed to helping others to realize and embrace this.

Self-acceptance combined with a growth mindset means everything in terms of your success and your happiness. Using strengths-based assessments and coaching I can help you achieve a sense of self-love and help you to feel passionate about who you are becoming.

If you are feeling down on yourself and your life, know that this is something you can change and counseling can help. Life often leaves us feeling confused and not good enough, and learning to work through these periods will help restore integrity and esteem. I am here to help you work through this.

We often take on other people\'s criticisms of us and use them against ourselves, over and over again. I support you with becoming aware of patterns of self-abuse and offer ways to create a more compassionate way to relate to yourself.

Many mental health issues contain elements of low self-esteem, and many diagnoses can contribute to feelings of low self-esteem. Thus, I investigate and explore issues of self-esteem with every one of my clients. Additionally, working with teenagers has provide hours of work focused solely on exploring self and identifying how individuals interact with the world around them.

Self-esteem issues may arise in all of us at some point in our lives. Many of us come into counseling with negative schemas that we struggle to let go of. These are thoughts we have been battling for years sometimes and my hope is to support my clients to delve deep into these and access their inner strength so that they can tap into their internal joy and be inspired to attain cadence.

Understanding yourself is the best way to feel whole and self-assured. People often feel stuck in self-defeating patterns and relationships which makes them feel self-critical. It can be particularly difficult to feel confident in times of transition. Therapy can help you know and access an authentic sense of self which is the best way to honor and value your strengths.

Learning to trust that you are good enough is a powerful step in finding your peace and happiness. Understanding the effects of shame, self-doubt and perfectionism and how to free yourself from these binds can open up a whole new experience of life.

We live in a cultural paradigm that conditions us with all sorts of fear-based, limiting and destructive beliefs. Many of us internalize these fears and beliefs, and are convinced that it is about us- that somehow we are wrong or bad. Let's unlearn this false conditioning and access the truth of our wholeness and organicity.

Self-esteem and confidence affects so many aspects of our lives, from our self image, to work, to relationships, to child rearing, etc. Many of us speak much worse to ourselves than we would tolerate from others, or do unto others. If you would like to be free from this self-torment, and feel more confidence and connected with your true self, I would love to help guide you in this.

Sometimes we face problems that are not easily categorized or labelled. We simply know we are unhappy or that we are not reaching goals we desire. To see me, you do not need to have a particular issue. I see people who are searching, moving into mid and later life and finding purpose and meaning. You are invited to call.

Self-esteem can be a tricky issue to address. There are many things that can be affecting it. I am very proficient at working with clients to explore all possible reasons your self-esteem, self-worth or confidence feels low. If it's situational we will figure out how to move through it and if it's rooted in past experience we will bring it to the surface and learn how to leave it in the past.

I believe that counseling is a collaboration, and much of that means finding hidden strengths and building skills. Knowing more about yourself and feeling stronger in who you are helps to build self-esteem, self-acceptance, and self-compassion.

When you transform your limiting beliefs, negative emotions and mental states that form your ego patterns, you become a positive, life enhancing, creatively active and consciously aware personality ready to show up with a sense of genuine self-confidence, self-trust and self-worth.

Most of us have an inner critical voice that keeps us in line, but for some of us that voice is punishing. Maybe your inner voice tells you that you're not good enough, that you look bad, and flings other criticisms at you. It's hard to live with a voice like that. I work to listen, to understand, and gradually help this voice soften so you can feel better in your life.

I don't know of a more pervasive and common human dilemma than low self-esteem. Can we accept ourselves as human and deeply flawed. Can we simultaneously take responsibility for making changes that will allow us to live in abundance and gratitude rather than despair and shame? We certainly can, but not without empathy and compassion walking beside us.

Shame is a killer of the self-esteem. Gaining awareness of how shame is personally impacting you and learning to love yourself is what we will work on in therapy.

Self-esteem and identity are siblings. How we view ourselves and how we feel about ourselves are inextricably intertwined. So much of my work with clients involves an intentional untangling of all the threads that make up identity—what parts of ourselves do we like? What parts of ourselves are not serving us well? Taking an objective view of our identity helps solidify self-esteem.

Feeling like we are not enough - essentially not good enough usually indicates some layer of shame underneath -- something's wrong with me. When we feel like this, we need someone who can help us face these vulnerable feelings with compassion and gentle curiosity - who leads us down a path that eventually cultivates a sense of self-acceptance and self-love.

Messages about being & loving yourself abound these days, but to feel a sense of authentic self-worth these messages must be supported with deeper meaning! In my practice we focus on gently cultivating a greater awareness & acceptance of what makes you YOU, while exploring how to put those qualities, ideas, & concepts into self-caring practice that nurtures empowerment, compassion & integration!

In childhood, we learn to value ourselves according to how others such as our parents value us. As adults, we can learn that true self-esteem derives from being our own authentic selves.

Self-esteem requires action, awareness, and acceptance of parts of self that once seemed undesired or unacceptable. Often, low self-esteem follows loss of agency...learned helplessness, oppression. We work together to reconnect parts of self, identify and separate from judgments, find peace with felt purpose, and gradually pursue that purpose.

Despite our best efforts, self-esteem is not something that we can \'will\' into place. It cannot be bestowed upon us from outside. And it doesn\'t magically appear when we whisper affirmations to ourselves. Rather, self-esteem develops when we feel genuinely seen and cared about and can begin to practice compassion and forgiveness toward ourselves. Therapy can support this process.

Our internal and external sources of praise and criticism form complex networks of motivations and self-evaluations. It is a difficult task for many to locate and feel the realistic, innate sources of self-esteem that constitute who you are, buoy your spirits, and provide you with energy for your work and relationships. Self-esteem issues are common and important components of therapy for many.

Low self-esteem is a common issue presented in therapy. I utilize narrative and CBT approaches to help clients identify recurring negative self-talk that impacts feelings about oneself. Identification of feelings/needs and building assertiveness skills can also boost self-esteem throughout the process of therapy.

I work with girls and their families to help them see and believe in their abilities, strengths, and values, despite the messages they receive from the world.

Confidence issues often go hand in hand with my other areas of specialization: anxiety, depression, and OCD. These issues can make you feel that you\'re flawed. I work with you to help you develop compassion for yourself and to measure your worth in a more accurate and realistic way.

High sensitivity, gender or cultural marginalization, emotional abuse and other factors can lower self esteem to the point that movement forward is very difficult. I can help you connect with your displaced whole self.

The dreaded 'shame voice'. We all have it, and lets admit, it gets in the way at times. I work with clients to learn to identify when shame has taken over and now in control, as well as learning to quiet that piece of ourselves and allow us to move forward in life feeling more confident and secure.

Everyone has challenges with how they feel about themselves at one time or another, but sometimes the negative feelings can be overwhelming and take over our lives. In therapy, we will work together to explore where the negative messages come from and strive to create a new story that is marked by you feeling more like the confident and competent person you want to be.

I have learned specific interventions to help aid people in addressing self-esteem issues. I have experience over the last 5 years in helping people enhance self-esteem.

Finding your self-worth. It\'s there, right inside. Your worth is buried under the voice that says mean, horrible things that may feel true, but just aren\'t. Self-understanding, self-compassion and faith in yourself is what we will seek together.

Having a healthy sense of self is vital to feeling worthy and capable of manifesting the life you long for. We all experience wounds and hardships that serve to invalidate or diminish our sense of value. It is important that you understand the unique qualties that you possess and learn to move through the world holding your power, this is a process that can be reclaimed in our work together.

Your true self should not be obfuscated by the societal pressures that come from people of privilege and power. Becoming aware and prioritizing your values is essential to getting your needs met. Whether it's sexuality, intelligence, creativity, or confidence, we must find ways where you exude and embody those values. In that way, you are closer to connecting to people that invigorate you.

Self Esteem encompasses so many areas of our lives...communication, relating, making plans/goals in our close relationships and in our communities of work, family and play. I am certified in Brene\' Brown\'s curriculum of Shame Resilience to help us sort out the details and live our fuller and happier life.

Training in developmental theory and contemporary psychoanalytic theories provide a solid base of information and experience working with the complexities around vulnerabilities of self-esteem. There are different ways these problems manifest and having a broad understanding and flexible therapeutic style helps me meet the patient where they are to strengthen self esteem from the inside out.

Crappy, painful thoughts about yourself roll through your mind all day and you don\'t know how to make it stop. You tell people \'it\'s fine\' when it\'s really not but being disappointed or hurt seems better than possibly disappointing or hurting someone else. You want to like yourself and believe you\'re likable but it seems far away, maybe even impossible. Check out my website, let\'s bust the shame.

Relational, attachment based treatment to increase insight into self and build strong sense of identity and self worth

Self-esteem is an aspect of the way we view ourselves. Self-esteem refers to the overall opinion we have of ourselves and the value we place on ourselves as people. Low self esteem may originate from narcissistic parenting, childhood abuse, sexual abuse, physical abuse, bullying, racism or sexism. To overcome low self esteem the internal critic must be silenced.

Problems with self-esteem--the deep conviction that you're just not good enough--underlie so many of the symptoms I see in my clients. By addressing and challenging this core belief, I can help free you from the cycle of constantly having to prove yourself and coming up short.

Difficulty building and maintaining self-esteem is at the root of many varied symptoms and diagnoses. Often, it is not a skill that is highly valued in our culture. My humanistic and relational style focuses heavily on identifying and removing blockages to self-esteem, while providing the space, empathy, and empowerment that a client might need to experiment with building self-compassion again.

Through loving self-compassion you will find the clarity of your own true voice, one that resonates with truth and vitality.

Self-esteem is the cornerstone to many mental health issues. Depression and anxiety find both their roots in low self-esteem. Being able to feel confident and good about one\'s self can be challenging, but with my help we can rebuild a positive self-image.

I believe that we can only have good relationships with others if we first have a good relationship with ourselves. Through research, training, and my own growth work, I have a rich understanding of some of the common ways we lose our connection to ourselves and how to get it back.

You deserve to feel good about yourself. The way you perceive yourself is the foundation for how you function in your world. However, your shame core can keep you stuck. It is very difficult to feel good about yourself when you are under stress, unable to achieve your goals, or when others treat you badly. As you work on building your self-esteem you will notice that you feel less shame.

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