Self-Esteem

The term self-esteem is used to describe a person's overall sense of self-worth and value. Most people's feelings about themselves change somewhat based on mood and daily life. Your self-esteem, however, is more fixed than the normal ups and downs. Low self-esteem can negatively affect your life and manifest itself in many different ways.  Individuals with poor self-esteem are extremely critical of themselves and may be perfectionists, hypersensitive, jealous, defensive, withdrawn, hostile or clingy. They often have trouble making decisions and care excessively about pleasing others. A mental health professional can help you develop tools to boost your self-esteem and inner confidence.  

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Self-esteem is essential for a sense of well-being. I have worked extensively with clients dealing with low self-esteem. I utilized various resources and a strength-based approach to assist clients with taking steps to increase their self-esteem.

I have experience and training in attachment and developmental theories that I rely upon to treat self-esteem issues.

Not many topics have produced as much advice and conflicting theories as self-esteem. How do you feel about who you are? This is the question I help clients answer in a healthy way. Healthy self-esteem is a balanced accurate view of yourself, including strengths and weaknesses. Alignment with your values in action contributes as well.

Low self esteem is a classic symptom of those diagnosed with clinical depression. Since treating depression is my specialty, I have shared a number of tools with my clients that have helped them to enhance their self-esteem. I devote an entire chapter to self-esteem issues in my book, Healing From Depression: A Body, Mind and Spirit Recovery Program.

Difficulty building and maintaining self-esteem is at the root of many varied symptoms and diagnoses. Often, it is not a skill that is highly valued in our culture. My humanistic and relational style focuses heavily on identifying and removing blockages to self-esteem, while providing the space, empathy, and empowerment that a client might need to experiment with building self-compassion again.

Self-esteem is the cornerstone to many mental health issues. Depression and anxiety find both their roots in low self-esteem. Being able to feel confident and good about one\'s self can be challenging, but with my help we can rebuild a positive self-image.

Your true self should not be obfuscated by the societal pressures that come from people of privilege and power. Becoming aware and prioritizing your values is essential to getting your needs met. Whether it's sexuality, intelligence, creativity, or confidence, we must find ways where you exude and embody those values. In that way, you are closer to connecting to people that invigorate you.

Sometimes we face problems that are not easily categorized or labelled. We simply know we are unhappy or that we are not reaching goals we desire. To see me, you do not need to have a particular issue. I see people who are searching, moving into mid and later life and finding purpose and meaning. You are invited to call.

Self Esteem is critical to how we interact with those around us and the fulfillment we get in life. But often people have trouble seeing the good in themselves, and expressing it to others. Let me help you find your wise, unique and confident self, and share it with those around you.

Understanding yourself is the best way to feel whole and self-assured. People often feel stuck in self-defeating patterns and relationships which makes them feel self-critical. It can be particularly difficult to feel confident in times of transition. Therapy can help you know and access an authentic sense of self which is the best way to honor and value your strengths.

Messages about being & loving yourself abound these days, but to feel a sense of authentic self-worth these messages must be supported with deeper meaning! In my practice we focus on gently cultivating a greater awareness & acceptance of what makes you YOU, while exploring how to put those qualities, ideas, & concepts into self-caring practice that nurtures empowerment, compassion & integration!

How do we feel like we are enough? It’s a simple idea that’s complex in the real world. I have experience helping clients navigate these murky waters to the source of low self-esteem and begin the healing process. Together we can discover, accept, and celebrate your authentic self while learning how to work with shame, self-criticism, and low confidence.

Self-acceptance combined with a growth mindset means everything in terms of your success and your happiness. Using strengths-based assessments and coaching I can help you achieve a sense of self-love and help you to feel passionate about who you are becoming.

Our self-esteem is the foundation on which our sense of possibility and personal power is built. My approach to therapy is always to build on existing strengths and build new supports where we are still growing. I take it as a core principle to pay attention to self-esteem, and self-concept, in my work with all my clients -- including those challenged by a severe mental illness.

Self-esteem is the key to authentic engagement with oneself, interpersonally, and with the greater world

Self-esteem and identity are siblings. How we view ourselves and how we feel about ourselves are inextricably intertwined. So much of my work with clients involves an intentional untangling of all the threads that make up identity—what parts of ourselves do we like? What parts of ourselves are not serving us well? Taking an objective view of our identity helps solidify self-esteem.

They say, \'If you cannot love yourself, you cannot love another.\' I can help retrain your brain on how to achieve self-esteem and self-love.

Self esteem allows you to follow your interests and passions, to live a full and rich life. Together, we'll deconstruct your self defeating thoughts. You will learn new ways of thinking, seeing yourself, and ways of interacting with the world. Imagine learning how to be a true friend to yourself. Imagine believing in yourself and your right to follow the life that calls to you.

Confidence issues often go hand in hand with my other areas of specialization: anxiety, depression, and OCD. These issues can make you feel that you\'re flawed. I work with you to help you develop compassion for yourself and to measure your worth in a more accurate and realistic way.

I find that an inner critical voice often roars loudly in those who suffer from self-esteem problems. I work with softening that critical voice, and add in self-compassion techniques. Studies show that self-compassion can be even more effective than self-esteem at feeling better about oneself.

Who are you beneath who everyone tells you, you are? Together, we will unfold the layers of negative conditioning and rebuild the authentic self through, thought awareness exercises, values exploration and empowerment visualizations in a safe, non-judgmental space.

I provide a safe and affirming place to heal from current and past pain that has lead to low self worth. I come from a personal empowerment perspective helping each client to discover and express their authentic selves.

I believe that counseling is a collaboration, and much of that means finding hidden strengths and building skills. Knowing more about yourself and feeling stronger in who you are helps to build self-esteem, self-acceptance, and self-compassion.

The act of bullying (for both kids & adults) seems to be existing at an all-time high. Self-esteem plays a huge role with the culture of bullying, both for 'the bullies' and their victims. Learning how to understand and accept ourselves instead of only comparing ourselves to others, is an important start to decreasing this culture of bullying and low self-esteem.

The client is invited to openly and honestly share about the situation which is causing difficulties, and/or causing pain or dysfunction. Then utilze depth psychotherapy approaches that focus on helping the client access and better understand thoughts, feelings and images that are not fully conscious as way to improve self-aceeptance and esteem.

Many mental health issues contain elements of low self-esteem, and many diagnoses can contribute to feelings of low self-esteem. Thus, I investigate and explore issues of self-esteem with every one of my clients. Additionally, working with teenagers has provide hours of work focused solely on exploring self and identifying how individuals interact with the world around them.

Despite our best efforts, self-esteem is not something that we can \'will\' into place. It cannot be bestowed upon us from outside. And it doesn\'t magically appear when we whisper affirmations to ourselves. Rather, self-esteem develops when we feel genuinely seen and cared about and can begin to practice compassion and forgiveness toward ourselves. Therapy can support this process.

What a person thinks about themselves can hugely impact every aspect of their life. I enjoy helping folks explore where these stories about themselves come from and then write new stories.

Many people in our culture have a nagging feeling that they are not good enough, or that they are unlovable or flawed in some major way. I help people work through these negative beliefs and develop new, supportive, and self-affirming feelings about self and others. Everyone has the ability to feel good about themselves and to feel confident about life.

Low self-esteem is a common issue presented in therapy. I utilize narrative and CBT approaches to help clients identify recurring negative self-talk that impacts feelings about oneself. Identification of feelings/needs and building assertiveness skills can also boost self-esteem throughout the process of therapy.

I work with girls and their families to help them see and believe in their abilities, strengths, and values, despite the messages they receive from the world.

Feeling like we are not enough - essentially not good enough usually indicates some layer of shame underneath -- something's wrong with me. When we feel like this, we need someone who can help us face these vulnerable feelings with compassion and gentle curiosity - who leads us down a path that eventually cultivates a sense of self-acceptance and self-love.

I help clients stabilize their view of themselves, so that their identity is not rooted in their failures or their accomplishments. I help them gain a sense of grounded-ness in their lives that will stand the test of time through the good and the bad times of life.

This concept is frequently ridiculed. However, when one feels confident and that they have value - great things happen.

In childhood, we learn to value ourselves according to how others such as our parents value us. As adults, we can learn that true self-esteem derives from being our own authentic selves.

Learning to trust that you are good enough is a powerful step in finding your peace and happiness. Understanding the effects of shame, self-doubt and perfectionism and how to free yourself from these binds can open up a whole new experience of life.

Training in developmental theory and contemporary psychoanalytic theories provide a solid base of information and experience working with the complexities around vulnerabilities of self-esteem. There are different ways these problems manifest and having a broad understanding and flexible therapeutic style helps me meet the patient where they are to strengthen self esteem from the inside out.

True Self-esteem comes from facing ourselves and realizing that we are deeply connected to the world around us. We are all here to walk the earth, and finding and discovering your particular way of walking is a life-changing experience.

Relational, attachment based treatment to increase insight into self and build strong sense of identity and self worth

The dreaded 'shame voice'. We all have it, and lets admit, it gets in the way at times. I work with clients to learn to identify when shame has taken over and now in control, as well as learning to quiet that piece of ourselves and allow us to move forward in life feeling more confident and secure.

When we have low self-esteem we experience anxiety, unhappiness, we may feel inferior, or have goals that are based on other’s expectations of us rather than expectations we hold for ourselves. My approach is to build on clients’ personal strengths and create structured support in areas where they are still growing.

Self-esteem is an aspect of the way we view ourselves. Self-esteem refers to the overall opinion we have of ourselves and the value we place on ourselves as people. Low self esteem may originate from narcissistic parenting, childhood abuse, sexual abuse, physical abuse, bullying, racism or sexism. To overcome low self esteem the internal critic must be silenced.

Many people feel paralyzed with shame and perfectionism. I help clients build shame resilience and learn to respond with self-compassion.

I prefer \'self-worth\' and \'self-compassion\' when building confidence, inner peace, and self-care. It is deeply satisfying to work with other introverts, as well as those who are shy, insecure or highly self-critical and watch them claim their space and place in the world. I combine my training in mindfulness and somatic awareness, shame and self-compassion, and EMDR to help develop self-worth.

We come in as joy. Watch any toddler. But over time, we learn shame, inadequacy and comparison. We feel lesser-than, which undermines our sense of self-worth, worthiness and happiness. The mind turns on itself, and we plummet. What we were taught wasn\'t true! Therapy helps you recover your true self, and reclaim the enjoyment and sense of well-being that is your birthright!

Most of us have an inner critical voice that keeps us in line, but for some of us that voice is punishing. Maybe your inner voice tells you that you're not good enough, that you look bad, and flings other criticisms at you. It's hard to live with a voice like that. I work to listen, to understand, and gradually help this voice soften so you can feel better in your life.

If you are feeling down on yourself and your life, know that this is something you can change and counseling can help. Life often leaves us feeling confused and not good enough, and learning to work through these periods will help restore integrity and esteem. I am here to help you work through this.

Self-esteem requires action, awareness, and acceptance of parts of self that once seemed undesired or unacceptable. Often, low self-esteem follows loss of agency...learned helplessness, oppression. We work together to reconnect parts of self, identify and separate from judgments, find peace with felt purpose, and gradually pursue that purpose.

I use mindfulness, CBT and psychodynamic approaches to explore root causes of low self-esteem, working with you to create strategies to feel and appear more confident.

Feelings of self-worth depend on the meaning we’ve given our life experiences. Exploring what we’ve come to believe about ourselves can be an exciting and rewarding journey. I bring a wealth of tools and strategies useful to creating the strong sense of self that underlies positive self-esteem, including creative strategies like journaling and collaging and body-centered tools like mindfulness.

I believe that self-esteem plays a huge role in who we are as individuals and how we see ourselves in this world. Individuals struggling with concerns of their self-esteem will journey together with me to uncover where a self-esteem injury occurred, and evaluate how to move past the injury. Through self inventories and discovery a new you will emerge.

Poor self-esteem is a negative judgment about self, and can be the root of many problems in life. It can result in self -defeating behaviors and failure to achieve what you want in life. Self-esteem was learned in our families of origin, and can be improved. I can help you identify triggers of low self-esteem, and learn tools to deal with negative feelings and thoughts.

Self-esteem and confidence affects so many aspects of our lives, from our self image, to work, to relationships, to child rearing, etc. Many of us speak much worse to ourselves than we would tolerate from others, or do unto others. If you would like to be free from this self-torment, and feel more confidence and connected with your true self, I would love to help guide you in this.

My favorite line in the Desiderata poem (Max Ehrmann, 1927) is: 'Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here.' It is a profound and powerful notion that you, as you already are, are valuable and worthy of love and respect. I am committed to helping others to realize and embrace this.

Identity, compassion, strengths, finding SELF, being heard, discovering values, (re)discovering who you are, women, teens, children, understanding past trauma

I have found that softening the way we judge ourselves is the most critical step toward building self-esteem. I work by building awareness around the inner critic, and helping clients tap into self-compassion through gentle practices.

I believe that we can only have good relationships with others if we first have a good relationship with ourselves. Through research, training, and my own growth work, I have a rich understanding of some of the common ways we lose our connection to ourselves and how to get it back.

Self esteem (or lack of) is inherent in so many of our lives. My role is to help people identify the fears, beliefs (negative thoughts) that effect one\'s sense of self; and to help challenge the negative thoughts/beliefs with more accurate \'stories\'/ interpretations. The goal is to identify one\'s negative thoughts of self, and provide skills for the client reconstruct with healthier realities.

Low self esteem can make it hard to believe that you even deserve to feel good, and to have support in getting to a stronger, happier place. Maybe you don't even believe it's possible. I have seen these positive changes happen many times, and I believe it can happen for you, too. I invite you to schedule a free half hour meeting to talk about working together to make things better.

When we don\'t feel good in our own skin or feel how deserving of love, respect, and joy we are, it can feel scary and almost impossible to move through the world. Together we will unearth the negative beliefs held in the mind and body and create new ways of relating with yourself that support all of who you are.

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