Gary Alexander

Gary Alexander (he/him)

Licensed Marriage Family Therapist


After nearly 20 years of practice, I have found a relatable, engaged, and honest approach are foundations to achieving growth and balance.

Client Status

accepting clients



108 SE 124th Ave

Vancouver, WA 98684

At a Glance


Rate: $150-$200

Provides telehealth services

Practicing Since: 2002

Languages: English


  • Individual

Insurances Accepted

  • Out of Pocket
  • Out of Network

Our Ideal Client

I work primarily with adults over 30 years of age. A few of my specialties include: depression, grief, codependency, loss of meaning, relationship/family conflict, major life transitions, infidelity, and anxiety issues. I have advanced specialty working with GLBTQ+, gender non-conforming/transgender development as well as poly & non-traditional families. In addition, I have a passion for those who identify as Highly Sensitive and Anxious Attachment styles.

My Approach to Helping

While some of the issues leading us to start psychotherapy might be relieved relatively quickly, I have found that most of our issues are more complex and require time and the right attention for us to effectively work through them. I believe the best work we have ahead of us isn’t merely to alleviate your negative symptoms, but to help create real, deep, and lasting change; change that helps elevate us closer to our greatest potential. I strive to create the connection, bond, and sense of care needed for us to do this work together. Clients have described my approach as honest, real, and interactive. I believe a relatable and engaged interaction with thoughtful feedback are the foundations to working through such an important process. Ultimately my goal is to be a strong and reliable guide, helping you to further hear your true voice and in turn discover your direction and find balance.

Techniques I Use


  • Depth Therapy External link

    The field of Depth Psychology we know today came from the original works of Carl Jung and Sigmund Freud. Both Jung and Freud sought awareness and examination of all things human, in particular our unconscious selves. A Depth approach looks across a wide field of knowing, from direct personal experience to culture and human existence as a whole. Image, dream, and metaphor can be helpful components in uncovering our true selves.

Issues I Treat


  • LGBTQ Issues External link

    Helping to develop healthy, happy lives and relationships within the queer, poly, lifestyle, and sexual minority communities.

  • Relationship / Marriage Issues External link

    I believe relationships are the cornerstone of all human development. Our health has everything to do with our ability to have trusting, stable, loving, and overall fulfilling relationships.

  • Codependency External link

    Codependency can be defined as the tendency to put others needs before your own; accommodating to others to such a degree that you tend to discount or ignore your own feelings, desires and basic needs. In codependency our self-esteem depends largely on how well we please, take care of and/or solve problems for someone else (or many others). In a sense, then only really know yourself through your role with others. Moving towards greater balance between self and others is possible!

  • Depression External link

    Depression can show up in many different flavors and intensities. It can affect our sleep, our appetite, motivation, and certainly our relationships. Some types of depression makes us feel sad and hopeless, while others can feel agitating, even rageful. Regardless, depression takes over our lives and negatively impacts our functioning. Getting to the root of what's pressing down on us is key to recovering.

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