Jeremy McAllister (He/Him)

Hakomi

Hakomi presents a nonviolent, collaborative framework and a mindful-somatic process to unearth, meet, and release long-held beliefs/patterns. This, working easily in tandem with theories of multiplicity and attachment, provides and gradually instills a full-experience witness to reduce the unnecessary suffering of fighting against our own internalized rules and childhood structures.

Internal Family Systems (IFS)

IFS and other parts-work modalities facilitate direct reduction of internal conflict, providing a last and felt sense of internal support, confidence, and awareness.

Attachment Theory

Attachment theory helps us understand our relationship to relationship and to emotions based on internalized experience. It fits well with IFS and multiplicity, helping us provide for unmet needs that show up directly in states triggered by relational conflict. While useful for individuals, this theory plays a primary role in couples work and allows us in the therapy room to directly translate one another in ways that partners will really get so each side feels fully witnessed.

Historical Trauma

It's rare to find someone not affected by historical trauma, though few recognize it as such. It could be a grandparent's death or alcoholism - something that directly affected a parent's view of the world, which then gets passed to you. It may be a cumulative wounding, or strategies and beliefs passed through generations, either implicitly or explicitly.

Self-Esteem

Self-esteem requires action, awareness, and acceptance of parts of self that once seemed undesired or unacceptable. Often, low self-esteem follows loss of agency...learned helplessness, oppression. We work together to reconnect parts of self, identify and separate from judgments, find peace with felt purpose, and gradually pursue that purpose.

Relationship / Marriage Issues

External integration coincides with internal integration. By focusing on differentiation we develop a more complete awareness of parts required for integration. To put the puzzle together, we first define the pieces and provide for individual needs, decreasing dependency and increasing mutual respect, freedom, and curiosity within the relationship.

PTSD

Post-traumatic stress disorder is generally considered to stem from a single identifiable event. Complex trauma – including developmental trauma, attachment trauma, Disorders of Extreme Stress (DESNOS) – develops as a result of prolonged or ongoing interpersonal trauma.

Codependency

Codependency coincides with attachment trauma and ongoing struggles in intimate relationships. This shows up as automated reaction loops with partners and can often prove to be an unbreakable pattern in the absence of calm and regulated external intervention.