Jeremy McAllister

Jeremy McAllister (He/Him)

Licensed Professional Counselor


Providing mindful-somatic therapy for complex trauma: anxiety, shame, stuckness, repeated relational patterns. OREGON ONLY. WAITLIST ONLY.

Client Status




Lifekey Counseling

4838 NE Sandy Blvd Suite 210

Portland, 97213

At a Glance


Rate: $70-$170

Provides free initial consultation

Provides telehealth services

Practicing Since: 2012

Languages: English


  • Individual
  • Relationship

Insurances Accepted

  • Out of Pocket
  • Out of Network
  • Aetna
  • BridgeSpan
  • Cigna
  • ComPsych
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My Ideal Client

If your childhood memories include abuse, physical or emotional neglect (intentional or not), abandonment, oppression, bullying, confused roles or boundaries, If your family has history of trauma or mental health struggles, or if your mother experienced anxiety during pregnancy... If a caretaker is recalled as 'always angry', distant, needy/dependent, or... If you struggle with anxiety (social or general), depression, shame, stuckness, or seem to repel others... Please read on.

My Approach to Helping

Much of the process of therapy – even meeting a therapist for the first time – can feel overwhelming. This is a process, and it isn't perfect. It's a place to be human, real – to connect again, in little bits, first with self and then with others. Safety comes first – learning techniques to regulate your nervous system in session and out. Culture in the therapy room includes attunement and alliance, relaxation versus pressure, curiosity versus judgment, experimentation that leads to revelation. Together, we are studying the ways in which you organize your self, making use of whatever windows lead to your core beliefs – the beliefs that influence your every word and motion. We can't undo the past. We can change beliefs formed by past experience – a process that leads to integration and a core sense of stability in your own skin. [Note: No immediate sessions. WAIT LIST ONLY. 16 months for individuals. 6 months for couples.]

My Personal Beliefs and Interests

Following a dual degree in psychology and social science and then receipt of my Masters in Counseling from Lewis & Clark in 2012, I went on to complete specialized trainings including Trauma Work and Hakomi Body-based Psychotherapy. My focus on complex trauma applies to a broad range of issues. Many clients find reduced internal conflict, reconnection with parts of self, and a new capacity to receive and take in 'missing experience'. This often facilitates subtle character change: moving from rigid/automatic reactivity to compassionate and mindful response to self and to others.

Techniques I Use


  • Hakomi External link

    Hakomi presents a nonviolent, collaborative framework and a mindful-somatic process to unearth, meet, and release long-held beliefs/patterns. This, working easily in tandem with theories of multiplicity and attachment, provides and gradually instills a full-experience witness to reduce the unnecessary suffering of fighting against our own internalized rules and childhood structures.

  • Internal Family Systems (IFS) External link

    IFS and other parts-work modalities facilitate direct reduction of internal conflict, providing a last and felt sense of internal support, confidence, and awareness.

  • Attachment Theory External link

    Attachment theory helps us understand our relationship to relationship and to emotions based on internalized experience. It fits well with IFS and multiplicity, helping us provide for unmet needs that show up directly in states triggered by relational conflict. While useful for individuals, this theory plays a primary role in couples work and allows us in the therapy room to directly translate one another in ways that partners will really get so each side feels fully witnessed.

Issues I Treat


  • Historical Trauma External link

    It's rare to find someone not affected by historical trauma, though few recognize it as such. It could be a grandparent's death or alcoholism - something that directly affected a parent's view of the world, which then gets passed to you. It may be a cumulative wounding, or strategies and beliefs passed through generations, either implicitly or explicitly.

  • Self-Esteem External link

    Self-esteem requires action, awareness, and acceptance of parts of self that once seemed undesired or unacceptable. Often, low self-esteem follows loss of agency...learned helplessness, oppression. We work together to reconnect parts of self, identify and separate from judgments, find peace with felt purpose, and gradually pursue that purpose.

  • Relationship / Marriage Issues External link

    External integration coincides with internal integration. By focusing on differentiation we develop a more complete awareness of parts required for integration. To put the puzzle together, we first define the pieces and provide for individual needs, decreasing dependency and increasing mutual respect, freedom, and curiosity within the relationship.

  • PTSD External link

    Post-traumatic stress disorder is generally considered to stem from a single identifiable event. Complex trauma – including developmental trauma, attachment trauma, Disorders of Extreme Stress (DESNOS) – develops as a result of prolonged or ongoing interpersonal trauma.

  • Codependency External link

    Codependency coincides with attachment trauma and ongoing struggles in intimate relationships. This shows up as automated reaction loops with partners and can often prove to be an unbreakable pattern in the absence of calm and regulated external intervention.

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