Kathy Hardie-Williams M.Ed MS NCC LPC LMFT

Kathy Hardie-Williams M.Ed MS NCC LPC LMFT

Licensed Marriage Family Therapist

M.Ed MS NCC LPC LMFT

I'm licensed teacher turned therapist who specializes in working with high conflict clients who are ready to embrace a strong sense of self.

Client Status

accepting clients

Contact

503.206.5578

9600 SW Oak St.

Suite 325

Tigard, 97223

At a Glance

Me

Rate: $175-$160

Provides telehealth services

Practicing Since: 2010

Languages: English

Faith: Buddhism

Services

  • Individual
  • Family
  • Relationship
  • Teen

Insurances Accepted

  • Out of Pocket
  • Out of Network
  • Aetna
  • First Choice Health
  • MODA
  • Regence Blue Cross/Blue Shield
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My Ideal Client

My objective in working with you is to use a direct approach in helping you identify what keeps you stuck in your personal relationships with yourself and/or others. Whether it is learning to improve your relationships, increase self understanding, improve your parenting skills, clarify your value system, or put your life into perspective, you have the power to take charge of your life and the quality of the relationships you build. I will hear you and relate to the challenges you face.

My Approach to Helping

Knowing what makes you tick lays the groundwork to help you achieve your authentic life. Within each person there is passion. Failing to identify that passion and use it denies a key part of who you are. It impacts relationships, partner choices, and how you spend your time. Before you can understand someone else, you must know who you are and what you need. Whether it is learning to improve relationships, increase self understanding, clarify your value system, or put your life into perspective, you have the power to take charge of the quality of your relationships, identify your goals and achieve them, and break the cycle to stop repeating the same mistakes of the past. I can help you get there. I will hear you, relate to the challenges you face, and will help you move past your obstacles so that you can live the life you are meant to live. My objective in working with you is to help you identify what keeps you stuck in your personal relationships with yourself and others.

My Personal Beliefs and Interests

After teaching for 10 years and teaching special education for six of those years, the desire to engage on a deeper level with families is what drove me to pursue a Master's degree in Counseling with a Marriage and Family specialization. I believe that is the the dynamic in our family of origin and early attachment that lays the foundation for how well we are able to navigate our relationships and our lives. I take a structural family systems approach to therapy, and what that means is this: The role we take in the family system and the structure of the family system impacts the way we function in our lives, particularly in relationships. Individuals cannot be understood in isolation from one another, but rather as a part of their family, as the family is an emotional unit. Families are systems of interconnected and interdependent individuals, none of whom can be understood in isolation from the system. My role becomes one of asking questions and pointing out harmful transactions.

Techniques I Use

Specialties

  • Couples Counseling External link

    I facilitate you, your partner, or other family members in identifying and communicating your needs and wants to each other. Conducive to this process is the ability to experience a reasonable degree of conflict in your relationships and the willingness to believe that your relationships can improve. You are responsible for articulating what you need and want to your partner and others from a direct and non-judgmental perspective that includes self awareness and the desire to know yourself.

  • Family Systems External link

    The way we are perceived by our family members is the mirror in which we see ourselves. Individuals cannot be understood in isolation from one another, but rather as a part of their family, as the family is an emotional unit. Families are systems of interconnected and interdependent individuals, none of whom can be understood in isolation from the system. I believe that is the the dynamic in our family of origin and early attachment that lays the foundation for navigating our relationships.

  • Attachment Theory External link

    Attachment can be defined as a deep and enduring emotional bond between two people in which each seeks closeness and feels more secure when in the presence of the attachment figure. Attachment theory explains how the parent-child relationship emerges and influences subsequent development. There are four basic characteristics that basically give us a clear view of what attachment really is. They include a safe heaven, a secure base, proximity maintenance and separation distress.

Issues I Treat

Specialties

  • Parenting External link

    Through professional and personal experiences, I am familiar with the broad range of emotional and behavioral challenges parents often face. I work directly with the parents, children, and the overall dynamic within the family system. I am familiar with the life transitions that families often face , such as divorce and blending families. I also use play therapy and sand tray therapy. I find that working with parents is the most effective way to help with parenting unless the child is a teen.

  • Family Conflict External link

    The key to strong and enduring relationships is the development of a strong sense of self. I facilitate families in increasing their capacity to accept and tolerate differences, a process that must occur prior to increasing the emotional bond. I facilitate family members in identifying and communicating their needs and wants. Conducive to this process is the ability to experience a reasonable degree of conflict relationships and a willingness to believe that relationships can improve.

  • Child or Adolescent Issues External link

    Drawing on my 10 years as a special educator at the elementary and middle school levels, I am familiar with the broad range of emotional and behavioral challenges parents often face. Using a structural family systems approach, I work directly with the parents, adolescents, and the overall dynamic within the family system. I can provide insight and practical strategies for effective parenting while supporting you on your journey as parents and in the overall dynamic within the family system.

  • Self-Esteem External link

    You deserve to feel good about yourself. The way you perceive yourself is the foundation for how you function in your world. However, your shame core can keep you stuck. It is very difficult to feel good about yourself when you are under stress, unable to achieve your goals, or when others treat you badly. As you work on building your self-esteem you will notice that you feel less shame, that you are enjoying your life more than you did before, and that you are doing more of the things you want.

  • Relationship / Marriage Issues External link

    While the goal for most couples is to create a deep sense of intimacy, developing a strong sense of self is a prerequisite to creating emotional connection. Initially, the primary focus in my work with families and couples is the individual growth and differentiation of each person in order to increase a strong sense of self. My work with clients then moves toward increasing their capacity to accept and tolerate differences, a process that must occur prior to increasing the emotional bond.

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