Marriage and Family Therapist
MA, MARRIAGE AND FAMILY THERAPY
Life is defined by our relationships with ourselves and with others. We all need a little help sometimes - that's what makes us human.
ONLINE OR I CAN COME TO YOU.
Provides free initial consultation
Provides telehealth services
Practicing Since: 2007
Faith: Agnosticism, Atheism, Judaism, Interfaith
Do you want a better relationship with yourself and others? Do you find yourself battling against the forces of self-worth, identity, and expectations? Do you wish you had the language and the tools to make things better? You may have similar experiences to others, but your unique life requires solutions that are specific to you and you alone. We all struggle with something and we all need a little help.
This is about shifting away from seeing each other as the problem and seeing the problem as the problem. What does that mean? It means learning a new way to turn toward each other instead of turning away from each other. It means working with each other against whatever problems are impacting the relationship.
Narrative therapy is about finding meaning without judgment. It is about looking at how the culture in which you were raised and currently live shapes how you think and feel and act. It is about understanding that problems are the problem, not the people who struggle with them, as we all do. And it is about seeing identity through the lens of relationships and community and hopefulness.
Coaching is about figuring out what you need and what is stopping you from getting it.
As a former stay-at-home dad, teacher, and children's art center and gym owner, I have spent 2 decades working with kids and their parents.
Divorce is about making peace with the past and deciding what kind of future you want. It is about pain and loss , and yet, it is also about hope and possibility.
My work with couples is very different from traditional couple's work. Instead of seeing each other as the problem and turning away from each other, I will help you shift into seeing each other as a team against whatever problems you face as a couple.
I have both led and been a member of men's groups in the past. I help men who are struggling to make connections and build meaningful relationships. As men, we have not been taught that it is both ok and vital to share, to be vulnerable, and to be curious. To do these things we need to ask new questions and be open to new answers that often contradict the basic teaching we were given as kids.
How do you build a relationship with yourself? It's not something that we were taught as kids and yet it may be the most important thing we can learn in order to have a happy, healthy, and meaningful life. Self-esteem is often held out as a burden that you can't live up to, it can be exhausting to "always" have to "love" yourself, even when life sucks, and sometimes it does. You need a new definition of self-esteem that is both reasonable and accessible for you.
Loss or Grief
There is no "right" way to grieve - no "right" time to move on or "get past it". We will look at loss with compassion and curiosity, not judgment
Led by former stay-at-home dad, preschool teacher, children's art center and gym owner, and Marriage and Family Therapist. This group deals with how to make sense of being a dad in our world.
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