Marriage and Family Therapist
MA, MARRIAGE AND FAMILY THERAPY
Everything starts with the courage to be curious, about ourselves, about others, & about our basic need to learn, grow, & find meaning.
ONLINE OR I CAN COME TO YOU.
Provides free initial consultation
Provides telehealth services
Practicing Since: 2007
Faith: Agnosticism, Atheism, Judaism, Interfaith
Are you struggling to find meaning and purpose in your life? Do you feel like life is not working out the way you dreamed it would? Do you find yourself battling against the forces of self-worth, meaningful identity, and expectations? I know what that’s like. I have been there myself. It took me years to figure out who I truly wanted to be and how to make that happen. I wish someone had been there to help guide me through my own pain and struggles. I would like to be that person for you.
This is about shifting away from seeing each other as the problem and seeing the problem as the problem. What does that mean? It means learning a new way to turn toward each other instead of turning away from each other. It means working with each other against whatever problems are impacting the relationship.
Narrative therapy is about finding meaning without judgment. It is about looking at how the culture in which you were raised and currently live shapes how you think and feel and act. It is about understanding that problems are the problem, not the people who struggle with them, as we all do. And it is about seeing identity through the lens of relationships and community and hopefulness.
Coaching is about figuring out what you need and what is stopping you from getting it.
As a former stay-at-home dad, teacher, and children's art center and gym owner, I have spent 2 decades working with kids and their parents.
Divorce is about making peace with the past and deciding what kind of future you want. It is about pain and loss , and yet, it is also about hope and possibility.
My work with couples is very different from traditional couple's work. Instead of seeing each other as the problem and turning away from each other, I am helping you shift into seeing each other as a team and reconnecting with what brought you together in the first place.
I have both led and been a member of men's groups in the past. I help men who are struggling to make connections and build meaningful relationships. As men, we have not been taught that it is both ok and vital to share, to be vulnerable, and to be curious. To do these things we need to ask new questions and be open to new answers that often contradict the basic teaching we were given as kids.
How do you build a relationship with yourself? It's not something that we were taught as kids and yet it may be the most important thing we can learn in order to have a happy, healthy, and meaningful life. Self-esteem is often held out as a burden that you can't live up to, it can be exhausting to "always" have to "love" yourself, even when life sucks, and sometimes it does. You need a new definition of self-esteem that is both reasonable and accessible for you.
Loss or Grief
There is no "right" way to grieve - no "right" time to move on or "get past it". We will look at loss with compassion and curiosity, not judgment
Led by former stay-at-home dad, preschool teacher, children's art center and gym owner, and Marriage and Family Therapist. This group deals with how to make sense of being a dad in our world.
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