Kir Rian

Kir Rian (she/her)

Professional Counselor Associate

MA, MFA, LMHCA, LPC Associate

A trauma informed collaborative approach to counseling, providing a compassionate space to process, be heard, and move your story forward.

Client Status

accepting clients



Telehealth throughout Oregon & Washington

At a Glance


Rate: $75-$125

Provides free initial consultation

Practicing Since: 2020


  • Individual
  • Group

Insurances Accepted

  • Out of Pocket
  • Out of Network

My Ideal Client

Whether recent circumstances are challenging, or aspects of the past need to be reconciled and faced, my clients are wanting to process and cope and move toward holistic healing. They want to own their lives and feel better. They want clarity, meaning, understanding, collaboration, and support reaching that place through their challenges, traumas, or grief. Their capacity for resilience and vulnerability and insight humbles me daily, and I meet them where they are with respect and empathy.

My Background and Approach

These beautiful, unpredictable, messy moments of life shape us, and I've learned that defining who we are through these moments helps us build the life we want. It's hard work. I help people navigate and sift through it all, and I believe in a collaborative approach. I hold a Master’s in Clinical Mental Health Counseling, and am certified in Trauma Response Services. I am trained in grief and loss counseling, and have worked in community mental health, and led processing groups and classes internationally, and with a variety of nonprofits, working in the grief and trauma realms for 20 years. I'm an adult grief group facilitator with the Dougy Center. I am an advocate for equality and social justice, and an ally for marginalized groups. I utilize an integrated theoretical approach based in person-centered, strengths-based, EFT, and CBT. I work with a wide range of individuals and diagnoses including codependency, and I specialize in grief and loss, chronic illness, and anxiety.

Why I Became a Therapist

I believe we all hold the capacity to grow and move toward a life of health and happiness. Social, cultural, and family systems influence our perspective. Sometimes our bodies betray us. Sometimes we need to heal from-or at least learn to carry-past traumas or losses. In other words, context matters. The mind, heart, and body are all interconnected, and tools like breathwork and mindfulness can help improve our quality of life. Prior to becoming a therapist, I worked for years with marginalized and trauma-affected individuals through various nonprofits. That work, combined with chronic illness issues, and a sudden death in our immediate family all combined to lead me to do this work. There are tools for coping, and insight to be gleaned from what we've been through. There are connections to be made within ourselves, our community, and even our DNA through things like epigenetics. I help my clients see their light.

Techniques I Use


  • Humanistic  External link

    Fundamentally, I believe in your worth and your capacity--even if you can't see that in yourself. This premise is the foundation of the humanistic approach and it is paramount to my work. I also believe you are responsible for building your life and knowing and owning who you are. I am here to support, but also to be real with you. The humanistic approach assists people with improving their functioning, their symptoms, their self awareness and self acceptance, personal responsibility, and power

  • Mindfulness-based External link

    One of my favorite aspects of mindfulness therapy is that the awareness and processing strategies are easily applied inbetween therapy sessions, and help with a huge range of challenges, from anxiety and depression to PTSD to grief to daily stress management. True healing is integrative, and mindfulness is an important, well-researched tool to help facilitate ongoing health, growth, and stability. Sometimes this is meditation, but also breath work and other grounding exercises.

  • Cognitive Behavioral (CBT) External link

    Learning coping tools to improve functioning, changing underlying thought patterns or perspectives we've held that don't serve us, and re-evaluating our motivations or circumstances, can help us see or understand our challenges in a different way, and respond effectively. Tools like mindfulness techniques and other reframing and CBT exercises have been shown to be hugely effective with anxiety and depression, as well as with trauma and a wide array of mental health issues.

Issues I Treat


  • Loss or Grief External link

    Grief can stem from a death close to us, or be lingering and unresolved from our past. Grief can be about things other than death, like loss of the life you pictured, or grief for the impacts of trauma and abuse. It can be all consuming and isolating and nonlinear. If there was a death in the family and we're parents, we're also managing the grief of our kids. Compounding it, most of the time people near us don't know how to support, and that can make things worse. Counseling and groups can help

  • Chronic Pain or Illness External link

    Managing fears, unknowns, and the healthcare and medical systems is exhausting and can be frustrating. Often, we are also managing the emotions of those around us. We are continuing to work, raise kids, deal with financial implications, and trying to live a "normal" life despite physical or physiological manifestations, and despite a myriad of other factors unique to everyone's specific circumstance. As with grief, it can be isolating and our community often doesn't support in the way we need.

  • Anxiety External link

    Anxiety can look like so many things--a steady, constant worry all the way to full-blown panic attacks. It can be restlessness or a tense jaw or neck muscles, your body is holding all that stress and trying to protect you. Learning tools for anxiety and fear management can help minimize how these symptoms interfere with your life. Often, there are underlying root issues that can be processed through counseling, as well.

  • PTSD External link

    As a trauma-certified therapist, PTSD, adult survivors of sexual abuse, and medical trauma are a focus of my practice. Trauma manifests holistically, affecting the nervous system, other aspects of our physiology, as well as our emotional state. At the same time, it can be managed holistically and with a trauma-informed approach. A safe therapeutic healing space conducive to restoration and processing can help with symptom management and overall wellness.

  • Codependency External link

    The imbalance within ourselves manifesting in codependency has to first be recognized, and then the roots of it explored. Issues of self esteem and anxiety and emotional neglect can be related, and codependent behavior affects not only ourselves and our own happiness, but also our interpersonal relationships and those around us. Often codependency is rooted in childhood, so therapeutic approaches usually involve looking at those relationships and behavior patterns, and boundaries, and control.

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