Michelle Garfinkel

Michelle Garfinkel (she/her)

Holistic Sex Coach

VITA certified

I help Recovering Catholics/Evangelicals/Mormons/Whatever to reclaim their sexual birthright using sacred sexuality.

Client Status

accepting clients




At a Glance


Rate: $167

Provides free initial consultation

Provides telehealth services

Practicing Since: 2018

Languages: English

Faith: Agnosticism, Atheism, Buddhism, Christianity, Judaism, Mormonism, Wicca/Paganism


  • Individual

Insurances Accepted

  • Out of Pocket

My Ideal Client

Was your childhood... weird? Were you taught all sorts of stuff about sex, bodies, gender, and pleasure that's not in alignment for you anymore? Do those messages echo in your sex-life today? If so, you're probably a good fit for my work. Through learning sacred sexuality, you'll release old conditioning, heal deep wounding, reset your relationship with your body, and expand your capacity to feel pleasure (to the edges of the Universe!)

My Approach to Helping

It's so important to me that you get all the time and attention you need. Because of this, I steeply limit how many clients I see so I can give you as much of my focus as possible. I generally work in a package model of 12, 60-min sessions and email support in between. In addition to the sessions, you'll get life-time access to an online course with over two dozen practices and meditations to deepen your process. All sessions are strictly no-touch and non-explicit. I'm a coach, not a therapist, so I do not diagnose or treat mental illness. As such, I also do not take insurance.

My Personal Beliefs and Interests

I'm a holistic sex coach, certified by the incredibly rigorous VITA method (as taught by Layla Martin.) My methodology incorporates neuroscience, somatic experiencing, breathwork, and many other healing modalities, all while grounded in the Tantric philosophy of wholeness and integration through compassion. Safety is central to my work. I work in a consent-driven, no-touch, non-explicit way with my clients. I do everything I can to make our work together effective, collaborative, and in integrity. Plus, I do lots of professional and personal work to be sure my own issues stay out of our work together. I got started on this path because of a Mormon upbringing that was not in alignment for me. In seeking to heal my sexual repression, I discovered the world of Tantra and holistic sexuality and have been in love ever since. Sharing this work and helping others heal is my life's work.

Techniques I Use


  • Holistic External link

    There is so much more to you (and your problems) than just the left-half of your brain. So I use 'everything and the kitchen sink' to help you. From neuroscience to deep Tantric wisdom, I work with and combine many modalities, but only ones that consistently get results for my clients. I see you as a whole, from your thoughts and imagination to your body and sensations.

  • Somatic Therapy (Body Centered) External link

    Your issues are in your tissues. Thoughts and feelings, though important and informative, are not complete without the lived, sensory experiences of your body. That knot in your solar plexus, the tension in your pelvic floor, the clenching in your jaw... all of those point to experiences that need to be heard, felt, and processed through your system. This allows for a bone-deep healing that lasts.

  • Mindfulness-based External link

    You are already whole. You do not need to be fixed. By using mindfulness (hanging out in the present moment), I help clients explore what's alive inside with curiosity and compassion. Through accepting what's there, whether it be terrible fear or exquisite joy, deep healing and integration happens. There is so much in your past and so much in your future but the good stuff is happening right here.

Issues I Treat


  • Historical Trauma External link

    Moments of stress, overwhelm, or trauma can haunt us years if not generations later. Because these experiences get stored in the tissues of the body you can still feel the weight of the trauma you carry even if your mind is 'over it.' My coaching is deeply trauma-aware and gets beautiful results. Using embodied/somatic techniques, I help people heal themselves by reconnecting to their own bodies.

  • Personal Growth External link

    The last-frontier of personal development is sexuality. This realm has so many taboos, traumas, baggage, and miseducation. Focusing on this area as a path for deeper growth leads to new levels of pleasure and joy in all areas of your life. As taught by the Tantric tradition, stronger connection with the most sensitive parts of your body leads to unbelievable growth and thriving.

  • Spirituality External link

    Navigating the realms of the Great Mystery can be difficult, especially if you've experienced spiritual abuse or other harmful religious behavior. But after decades of exploring spirituality in many shapes and forms, and getting a certification in Tantra, I can tell you nobody's got the monopoly on truth. But I'd love to collaborate with you as you discover your own.

  • Women's Issues External link

    There can be so much pain and difficulty in being a woman. Even if there have been some changes in recent decades, there's still a lot there. Fortunately, we have an incredibly powerful tool to heal ourselves, and it's right between our legs. Reconnecting to your sexuality is an incredible way to heal and thrive as a woman... no matter what the patriarchy says.

  • Sexual Problems External link

    Your sexuality is the canary in the coal mine. So much of what we experience, our stress, our trauma, our heartbreak, gets locked between our legs and strangles our desire. Using a holistic approach that takes everything from the physical to the imaginary into account, I help people explore and heal the hurts that keep them from their deepest pleasure and intimacy (in a safe and non-explicit way.)

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