The decision to end a marriage can be upsetting and filled with a number of opposing emotions. Though common in the U.S. (fifty percent of marriages end in divorce), each divorce is unique and usually an emotional and painful process for all the parties involved. During and after a divorce, you might experience feelings of loss, anger, depression, rejection, shock, regret, doubt, guilt, betrayal, bitterness or fear. Seeing a therapist can really help an individual to manage these and other tough feelings. While going through a divorce, some couples choose to see a therapist together, which can help them to work together to end the marriage in a constructive and practical way. Therapy is also beneficial for children experiencing divorce. Children often feel a strong sense of loss in the aftermath of a divorce and a mental health professional can help them to cope in healthy ways.
Local Experts in Divorce
Since my training in 1993, I have been fortunate to sit with couples and families through the difficulty of rearranging their family unit. I believe that the divorce legal proceedings are a time limited moment but the enduring nature of a family persists no matter who lives with each other. I work hard with families to create a collaborative divorce and positive coparenting relationships.
Divorce can be devastating. Like any major change in life, as divorce has a beginning, middle and an end. Divorce opens new doors with new possibilities to the future.
When parents make the difficult decision to divorce, the entire family system is thrown off center, especially when there are children to consider. Whether a family is intact or undergoing the transition of becoming two or more families and households, all children and families deserve the support of an objective third party to help facilitate communication and cultivate understanding.
For couples who are divorcing, I recommend therapy to create an objective forum in order to address issues such as living arrangements, finances, and parenting responsibilities. If children are involved; they may feel guilt, loss, self blame, and overwhelming confusion during the divorce. Therapy can provide a supportive and safe environment that is crucial for children to move forward.
Having experienced the trauma of divorce first hand, I had to find ways to protect my children from the deleterious effects it can have. So I studied, and I practiced, and I took risks both professionally and personally until I could co-parent harmoniously and coach others in how to achieve that outcome. The result is a satisfying co-parenting family life where children flourish!
I\'ve worked extensively with couples who are struggling with separation and divorce and I am sensitive to the issues surrounding this transition.
The Caring Discipline approach provides researched-based, yet simple guidelines, tools, and practical examples that explain specific ways to help you feel in control of the adult/child relationship so both adult and child will feel respected, secure, and loved. Our classes are appropriate for children ages 2-18, and help parents going through a divorce keep consistent with their parenting.
Enduring a divorce can be disorienting and exhausting. Nothing can prepare you for the range of emotions involved in ending a marital contract, and the subsequent life changes. There is absolutely no reason to go through this alone. I have supported couples and individuals find peace and respect for themselves and their partners before, during, and after divorce.
Transitions into, through, and on the other side. Learning how to forgive both the other person and yourself as well as effective communication and peaceful parenting. (Did I mention forgiveness?)
Much of my work has been supporting individuals who are currently in the throes of a change in their family dynamic. Helping a client balance the challenges of being a single parent and reestablishing a relationship with former spouse and navigating supporting their children after divorce are aspects that I feel where the life coaching perspective can be greatly beneficial.
There is a great amount of cultural attention and significance paid to couples who are wanting to partner and marry one another. I want to support you in creating meaning and ritual to the ending of your marriage. I want to guide partners to reflect and say goodbye to one another in a respectful and loving manner.
Divorce counseling is couples/individual counseling with a particular focus on processing through the baggage that divorce brings. This can include learning to co-parent, restructuring the family dynamics, or learning how to be to individuals again outside of the marriage.
Trained in Gottman Method Couples Therapy
I have significant educational and training experiences in Attachment Theory and Psychodynamic Therapy. They have all included significant work with treating separation and divorce issues.
Our emotional partnerships often form the core of our sense of safety in the world. When our emotional partnerships are threatened or dissolving we feel groundless, cast adrift. I work with individuals to examine their state of mind and emotion when divorce is impending or in process and to help them move toward new goals and safety.
Divorce is one of the most stressful events a person can experience. I know because I've been through it. Because of that, I'm passionate about helping people through the divorce and finding healing. On the other side is a happy life - I know because I've seen it so many times. I typically start by processing the pain and loss of divorce before focusing on building a new life that you love.
Each divorce is the death of a small civilization. -- Pat Conroy
Society does not teach us how to break up well and can treat this process as a source of shame. I help you find wholeness in separation and enjoy helping couples go through what is called conscious uncoupling, where you have the opportunity to seek closure, ask questions, grieve and honor the relationship with compassion and respect. We also discuss finances, mutual relationships and coparenting.
Women contemplating divorce may feel confusion, guilt, isolation, or pressure - yet therapy can help you to find your center and cultivate clarity about what is the best path. When you must go through a divorce, you come face to face with a range of intense emotions. Therapy can offer you a safe place to decompress; to receive support, and to engage in the process of healing, and growth.
The decision to end a significant relationship can be a difficult and challenging process that leaves everyone depleted, confused and anxious about the future and how to move forward. Therapy can assist in working through those feelings, make sense of the end of ones relationship, and obtain a new perspective and healing.\n\n
Deciding to end a relationship can be a confusing and fearful process. People often feel stuck and unsure of their future. Confronting those what ifs through a therapeutic relationship can help individuals clarify emotional wants and needs as well as learn to communicate those needs in the now and for future relationships.
I have helped many couples determine if separation/divorce is appropriate. I can educate you regarding parenting schedules, single parenting, grieving the end of the relationship and how to navigate the various options like mediation vs hiring a lawyer.
The capability to heal from a divorce and adjust to change can feel overwhelming, but children & teens have a remarkable ability to heal when given the support and consistency they need. I offer a safe space for children & teens to process the changes they may be experiencing, provide tools for them to create personal coping skills and support them throughout the process of separation & divorce.
In family therapy, I have helped divorced parents to talk to their children about divorce and navigate the many emotional challenges that can come with co-parenting after divorce.
Divorce can be one of the most difficult experiences we can go through, even if it is \'amicable.\' It can often induce a kind of existential crisis causing one to examine all areas of their life and their decision-making capacity. This is not something we are supposed to go through alone. I have extensive experience supporting clients through this to find greater authenticity and wholeness.
The hurt and anger around divorce can be difficult to overcome. After divorce there are often still many decisions that need to be made together. If there are children involved the two parents will need to work with each other in the best interests of their kids. We will work to create respectful communication patterns that will reduce stress and anxiety around these interactions.