relationship and family
Three Ways to Live with Less Resentment
Posted: February 09, 2015 by Jesse Johnson LPC
It’s no mystery to most that holding onto anger for long enough can be as exhausting as it is painful for people in relationships. In couples and families, some people call this holding in a “cold war” style of conflict. Righteousness burns as loud as the fear that keeps us from speaking up and, if it doesn’t end up making us physically ill, resentment like this can be quite toxic to the organism of a relationship. With very few of us taught healthy and effective skills for conflict and emotional regulation in our early years, I believe there is a desperate cultural need for better ideas, skills, and modeling. With that spirit in mind, here are three ways to practice releasing resentment.
Tags: mood and feelings, relationship and family, anxiety
Read MoreShortcut to Love?
Posted: January 16, 2015 by Jeff Guenther
Want to be in love but hate the tediousness of getting to know someone? Try asking your date this question: “Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?” According to one (decades old) study, you’ll be 1/36th of the way there.
Tags: relationship and family, news
Read MoreHoliday Attunement
Posted: December 04, 2014 by Nani Waddoups
Imagine an old-school radio with a dial. A certain subtlety was needed to tune in just right to a radio station: a little to the right, a little to the left, until you tuned in just right and got it. In very much the same way, we project ourselves out into the world on a certain frequency, and others out there are broadcasting themselves on their own stations. The psychological use of the word “attunement” refers to being able to hone in on the “tune” of another person, and to have others tune into us. Much relational discord, both minor and major, is due to a lack of attunement between people. And much personal distress is due to a lack of attunement with ourselves.
Tags: mood and feelings, relationship and family, anxiety
Read MoreHappy Holiday Stress!
Posted: December 04, 2014 by Chad Ernest, MS, LPC
The holidays can be extra stressful for everyone. Whether you are having visitors, seeing family and friends, or even spending time alone, each situation brings its own brand of stress. There are ways to prepare yourself and your family for the holidays so that everyone can deal with the stress in the most effective way. Here are a few things to consider that may help you get through the holidays unscathed….
Tags: mood and feelings, relationship and family, anxiety, addiction and behavior
Read MoreHoliday Tips for the Grieving Heart
Posted: November 16, 2014 by Dannette Muselman
It’s that time of year, the holidays are finally here! Everywhere you turn holiday spirit is found in parties, foods, media, shopping and gift giving. After all, isn’t this supposed to be the best time of the year, filled with wonder and cheer? Yet, if you are grieving the loss of a loved one the holidays can feel anything but “merry.”
Tags: mood and feelings, relationship and family, life transition
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