Dasia Star

Dasia Star (she/they)

Marriage and Family Therapist Associate

Master of Arts in Marriage, Couple, and Family Therapy

Supervisor: Stephen Keeley, LPC & Deah Baird, ND, LPC

Find hope, empathy, and care for your relationship(s)

Client Status

accepting clients

Contact

503 974 0120

At a Glance

Me

Rate: $115-$135

Provides free initial consultation

Languages: English

Services

  • Individual
  • Group
  • Relationship
  • Teen

Insurances Accepted

  • Out of Pocket

My Ideal Client

I focus on relationships. I am passionate about bringing empathy, hope and care to couples, nonmonogamous partnerships, gender-nonconforming, and kink identifying folks. I am here to join you and affirm all parts of your identity and experience.

My Background and Approach

My relationship with counseling began when I entered therapy for an addiction that shaped my early adulthood. Therapy offered me a space where I felt genuinely grounded, supported, and seen for the first time in my life. My inspiration for becoming a therapist was rooted in the love and safety I found in the therapeutic relationship. My theoretical foundation is trauma informed, attachment based, and draws from Emotionally Focused, Person Centered, and Somatic therapies. Additionally, I have completed professional training in Emotionally Focused Therapy, am currently a Teaching Assistant and am in ongoing consultation for this modality. In session I use mindfulness as an instrument to help clients increase self-awareness and self-compassion, move through painful and immobilizing places, and journey within to regain access to concealed or restrained inner magic.

Social Justice Issues I Care About

My Identity: In terms of my own identity, I am a white, queer, polyamorous, non-binary femme. I love working with everyone from monogamous and cis/het folx to people with diverse and fluid relationship styles and identities. As an activist and systemic thinker, issues of equity and justice are always on my mind. Given our current cultural and political landscape, many of us are in real need of de-stigmatizing and non-shaming therapeutic spaces where we can fully be ourselves. My hope as a therapist is to give folks a space where they don’t have to edit or disown any of their parts. I am body positive, sex positive, kink positive, LQBTQIA affirming, anti-racist, and spiritually open. I value working with couples and families of all kinds, including with non-traditional and non-monogamous relational orientations. Everyone is welcome here!

Techniques I Use

Specialties

  • Emotionally Focused External link

    We all get into patterns based on our attachment histories. Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) supports relationships (couples, nonmonogamous partners, friends) in getting to the heart of what is causing ongoing conflicts or difficult stuck points. Using EFT, we can slow down and uncover our attachment dance, find more authentic connection, and move toward relationship repair.

  • Mindfulness-based External link

    Mindfulness can mean a lot of different things. In therapy, I will invite you to slow down and notice different parts of your experience: thoughts, emotions, body sensations, impulses, etc. Cultivating mindfulness will help us to explore and welcome all parts of you. Mindfulness-based care will work to increase self-awareness, self-compassion, resiliency, and strength.

  • Hakomi External link

    Using this mindful, somatic approach, we will connect with conscious and unconscious parts of your experience. As we explore your experience, I may invite you to experiment with different approaches to connecting with yourself and your emotions. This method of care can help you connect to deeper core material and change limiting beliefs.

  • Nonviolent Communication External link

    When we discover and learn to honor our needs, we are able to bring more authenticity into our relationships. When we discover the needs of our partners, we are able to be in true collaboration with them. I will use tools from NVC in order to support you in finding your relational autonomy, communicating your needs, and learning how to collaborate around your stuck points.

Issues I Treat

Specialties

  • Relationship / Marriage Issues External link

    When stuck in a challenging pattern of conflict, it can be hard to maintain hope. I am passionate about supporting monogamous and ethically non-monogamous partners in rediscovering connection, trust, communication and care. Whether you're facing an affair, or can't seem to figure out why you keep fighting about the dishes, or are struggling with sexual intimacy, or are facing metamour anxiety, I am here to help you get unstuck. I truly believe that intimate relationships can be life-affirming.

  • Polyamorous and Open Relationships External link

    It can feel so hard to find a space to get support for your non-monogamous identity/relationships - as a polyamorous therapist, I know that first-hand. I am committed to affirming your identity as we work together to support and heal your relationships. Whether you're facing attachment insecurity in your non-monogamy, or just can't seem to figure out why you keep repeating the same arguments, I am here to help.

  • Gender Identity External link

    As a nonbinary therapist, I am so passionate about uplifting, empowering, and validating your gender and experience. It can feel impossible to find a safe and affirming space to get support around your gender identity. Whether or not you feel that your challenges are connected to your gender identity, it might feel important to know that your therapist supports and affirms all of you.

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