Dasia Star (she/they)

Emotionally Focused

We all get into patterns based on our attachment histories. Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) supports folx (individuals, couples, nonmonogamous partners, friends) in getting to the heart of what is causing ongoing conflicts or difficult stuck points. Using EFT, we can slow down and uncover our attachment dance. Once you see where you're getting stuck, you can find more authentic connection, and move toward deeper connection with yourself and others.

Mindfulness-based

Mindfulness can mean a lot of different things. In therapy, I will invite you to slow down and notice different parts of your experience: thoughts, emotions, body sensations, impulses, etc. Cultivating mindfulness will help us to explore and welcome all parts of you. Mindfulness-based care will work to increase self-awareness, self-compassion, resiliency, and strength.

Hakomi

Using this mindful, somatic approach, we will connect with conscious and unconscious parts of your experience. As we explore your experience, I may invite you to experiment with different approaches to connecting with yourself and your emotions. This method of care can help you connect to deeper core material and change limiting beliefs.

Internal Family Systems (IFS)

IFS enables us to heal the fragmentation of ourselves that occurs from past experiences of overwhelm, neglect, abuse, and developmental trauma. As we age, we develop different parts (survival startegies) to help us cope with the context we are in. As adults, we often no longer need these strategies, but they have become the default settling. Using IFS you will learn more about these survival strategies ("parts") and how to untangle yourself from them.

Relationship / Marriage Issues

Let's together cultivate compassion for the places you get stuck and learn new ways of relating that better serve your relationship. I believe that intimate relationships can be life-affirming and hope to help you create more love and authenticity in your partnership. If you're struggling to communicate verbally - emotionally - sexually - spiritually - I'd love to help you. I am also available to help you uncouple, should you make that decision.

Gender Identity

As a nonbinary therapist, supporting folx in exploring their gender identity is some of the most rewarding work that I do. I want you to feel empowered to show up as your whole self, regardless of the context. Let's work together to unpack the blocks to expressing yourself more fully. For NB, trans, and gender fluid folx seeking gender affirming surgery, I am happy to offer you a letter writing session. Gender affirming care should be a human right.

Anxiety

If you find yourself getting stuck in anxiety that prevents you from sharing your authentic thoughts, feelings, boundaries, needs, etc., I am interested in working with you! Let's slow down and gently examine the fear that makes it feel impossible to voice your concerns from an empowered place of confidence. I want to study the origins of your anxiety and work together to cultivate the skills to ground you through it. Let's better understand what your anxiety is needing to feel soothed!

Body Image Issues

Unlearning body shame has been a huge part of my life's work. I am very familiar fears of abandonment or rejection based on the shape or texture of a body. I share this to normalize how deeply pervasive cultural body shame is, regardless of the way you look. If you're struggling with body shame attached to weight, gender, sexuality, or working to integrate a new disability - I want to support you in finding peace, safety, and ease in your body. I genuinely believe that is everyone's birthright.

Polyamorous and Open Relationships

Want to explore polyamory? Are you intellectually on board with ENM, but find yourself experiencing anxiety, conflict, or emotional exhaustion in your polyamory? Regardless of where you are at in your ENM journey, I want to support you in finding the clarity and ease you need around it! Our relationships styles need to work for us! And if you're very comfortable in your polyamory and just want to trust your therapist won't pathologize you for it, I'm here for you too.