Marriage and Family Therapist Associate
Master of Arts in Marriage, Couple, and Family Therapy
Supervisor: Sharon Chatkupt-Lee, PsyD; Pilar Hernandez-Wolfe, PHD, LPC, LMFT.
Find hope, empathy, and care for yourself and your relationship(s)
503 974 0120
Provides free initial consultation
I focus on relationships (including your relationship with yourself!). I am passionate about bringing empathy, hope, and care to teens, individuals, and partners as they navigate transitions, cultivate more trust with in themselves and their relationships, discover greater intimacy, improve communication, practice boundary setting, explore their attachment styles, and find greater relational security. I am here to join you and support you in your personal growth and/or partnership(s).
We all get into patterns based on our attachment histories. Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) supports folx (individuals, couples, nonmonogamous partners, friends) in getting to the heart of what is causing ongoing conflicts or difficult stuck points. Using EFT, we can slow down and uncover our attachment dance, find more authentic connection, and move toward deeper connection with ourselves and others.
Mindfulness can mean a lot of different things. In therapy, I will invite you to slow down and notice different parts of your experience: thoughts, emotions, body sensations, impulses, etc. Cultivating mindfulness will help us to explore and welcome all parts of you. Mindfulness-based care will work to increase self-awareness, self-compassion, resiliency, and strength.
Using this mindful, somatic approach, we will connect with conscious and unconscious parts of your experience. As we explore your experience, I may invite you to experiment with different approaches to connecting with yourself and your emotions. This method of care can help you connect to deeper core material and change limiting beliefs.
When we discover and learn to honor our needs, we are able to bring more authenticity into our relationships. When we discover the needs of our partners, we are able to be in true collaboration with them. I will use tools from NVC in order to support you in finding your relational autonomy, communicating your needs, and learning how to collaborate around your stuck points.
When stuck in a challenging pattern of conflict, it can be hard to maintain hope. I am passionate about supporting monogamous and ethically non-monogamous partners in rediscovering connection, trust, communication, and care. Let's together cultivate compassion for the places you get stuck and learn new ways of relating that better serve your relationship. I truly believe that intimate relationships can be life-affirming and hope to help you foster more love and authenticity in your partnership.
As a nonbinary therapist, supporting folx in exploring their gender identity is some of the most rewarding work that I do. I want you to feel empowered to show up as your whole self, regardless of the context. Let's work together to unpack the blocks to expressing yourself more fully. For NB, trans, and gender fluid folx seeking gender affirming surgery, I am happy to offer you a letter writing session. Gender affirming care should be a human right.
If you find yourself getting stuck in anxiety that prevents you from sharing your authentic thoughts, feelings, boundaries, needs, etc., I am interested in working with you! Let's slow down and gently examine the fear that makes it feel impossible to voice your concerns from an empowered place of confidence. I want to study the origins of your anxiety and work together to cultivate the skills to ground you through it. Let's better understand what your anxiety is needing to feel soothed!
Is your kiddo struggling with feelings of insecurity about their body? Are you a pissed off femme, wondering why all of the years of unpacking/unlearning patriarchy still have not left you feeling secure in your body? Are you NB/GNC and needing a space to process what it is like to simply live in your body? I never want you to feel shamed of your body again. I want to support you in finding peace, safety, and ease in your body. I genuinely believe that is everyone's birthright.
Are you intellectually on board with ethical non-monogamy, but find yourself experiencing anxiety, conflict, or emotional exhaustion in your polyamory? Perhaps you've never experimented with polyamory and are wondering if it is the right relationship style for you. I am enthusiastic about non-traditional relationships. Regardless of where you are at in your ENM journey, I want to support you in finding the clarity and ease you need continue healing and growing in your radical relationships.
Personal Growth, Polyamorous and Open Relationships, Relationship / Marriage Issues
Maybe you’ve tried Ethical Non-Monogamy and encountered personal, emotional, and relational challenges. Maybe you’re figuring out if alternative relationship styles are right for you. PolyCurious is a support group that provides valuable information around engaging in ENM while embracing your unique lived experience. This group is designed for folks who want support, skills, and insight into navigating the natural, and sometimes painful, emotional responses that can emerge from nonmonogamy.
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