Polyamorous and Open Relationships
Polyamorous and non-monogamous relationships are increasingly common. People who identify as non-monogamous or who are in non-monogamous relationships often have unique perspectives and needs. Having a mental health professional who is educated about various aspects of non-monogamy can help you and your partner(s) to negotiate challenges to intimacy and reach informed decisions. This can be especially true for couples who are in the initial stages of "opening" their relationship. Seeing a mental health professional with your partner or partners can also help you develop strategies to improve communication, increase intimacy, and navigate relationship conflicts as they arise.
Local Experts in Polyamorous and Open Relationships
I specialize in relationships that fall outside of the conventional models, and love helping individuals in those relationships explore and communicate their needs, learn to navigate challenges in a healthy way and build stronger bonds of trust and connection.
Supporting the creation, growth, and cycles of polyamorous, non-monogamous, and open relationships is deeply important to me as an anti-oppression focused therapist. I have experience working with those who are just learning of non-monogamy and opening up their relationship for the first time, as well as long-term polyamorous individuals navigating the ebb and flow of multiple relationships.
I chose to become a Marriage and Family Therapist not because I hold any dogma around those traditional words, but because this path allowed me to study relationships and their complex beautiful intersections. My own experience as a person outside of the mainstream sexuality and relational path paradigm informs my excitement for multiple human possibilities.
Consensual non-monogamous relationships can be very complex! I have extensive personal experience navigating them and can offer guidance on decision-making to preserve health and sanity.
Exploring your relationship values can help you ground into what you really want and need, and create the relationship orientation that is right for you. I have knowledge of many different types and styles of polyamory, non-monogamy, and open relationships. I hold the belief that any type of relationship can be healthy with the consent and honestly of all partners.
I approach this work with a focus on unpacking beliefs about roles and rules in relationships often internalized from our families and larger cultural narratives. I am particularly attentive to the power and control dynamics intertwined with all emotional relationship and that are often amplified through the practice of non-monogamy.
I have over a decade of experience working with non-monogamous clients and have been non-monogamous myself for most of my adult life. I also recently published my first book, Building Open Relationships: Your Hands-On Guide to Swinging, Polyamory, & Beyond. In particular, I look at figuring out how to practice non-monogamy in a way that is ethical and in alignment with your own values/boundaries
Oh snap. Welcome to the world of possibility and also crazy emotions! But for real....I like to start with what needs to be unlearned and what might be holding you back individually before jumping into the realm of expectations/boundaries/etc. Again - I do not claim to be an expert...and I am also VERY willing to navigate areas that promote honesty, connection, authenticity, and trust.
Opening up a relationship or re-contracting an existing one can be daunting. I have experience working with polyamorous individuals and couples on issues such as contracting, jealousy and emotional transparency.
I help individuals and couples explore what relationship dynamics are right for them. Monogamy is never a given and can sometimes be destructive to the well being of those trying to force themselves into it.
Relationships can be difficult. It\'s not uncommon to wonder sometimes if they\'re worth all the work! There are so many variables and possibilities to explore; let\'s figure out what works and what doesn\'t. Your intimate life deserves love. We can work toward finding it in as many forms as are available to you.