Polyamorous and Open Relationships

Polyamorous and non-monogamous relationships are increasingly common. People who identify as non-monogamous or who are in non-monogamous relationships often have unique perspectives and needs. Having a mental health professional who is educated about various aspects of non-monogamy can help you and your partner(s) to negotiate challenges to intimacy and reach informed decisions. This can be especially true for couples who are in the initial stages of "opening" their relationship. Seeing a mental health professional with your partner or partners can also help you develop strategies to improve communication, increase intimacy, and navigate relationship conflicts as they arise.

Local experts in Polyamorous and Open Relationships

Gemma Baumer (she/her)

Professional Counselor Associate

Master's in Counseling

There is no right way to be in relationship. We may be balancing the tension between a desire for freedom, with a craving for novelty. I believe we can feel most empowered and connected to our deepest selves and can define relationship for ourselves, whatever those configurations and boundaries may look like. There is no solution but the one that is best for you. I love working with intimate partners in defining and exploring what relationship means to them and supporting their choices.

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Alana R. Ogilvie (she/her)

Licensed Marriage Family Therapist

LMFT, CST

Opening up a relationship or re-contracting an existing one can be daunting. I have experience working with polyamorous individuals and couples on issues such as contracting, jealousy and emotional transparency.

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Naomi Painter (she/her)

Licensed Professional Counselor

LPC

I have lived experience of open relationships and the structure of poly and swinger community. To avoid ethical conflicts and dual relationships, I have not been active in the Portland open relationships community in several years.

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Morgan Fitz Gibbon (she/her)

Licensed Marriage Family Therapist

OR #T1128

I have been working with poly and open relationships for a decade and have two decades of lived experience in ethically non-monogamous relationships. Whether you've just started talking about opening up, struggling with jealousy, in a conflict with a metamour, or navigating complex relationship issues within your polycule I'm here to help.

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Dasia Star (she/they)

Marriage and Family Therapist Associate

Master of Arts in Marriage, Couple, and Family Therapy

Are you intellectually on board with ethical non-monogamy, but find yourself experiencing anxiety, conflict, or emotional exhaustion in your polyamory? Perhaps you've never experimented with polyamory and are wondering if it is the right relationship style for you. I am enthusiastic about non-traditional relationships. Regardless of where you are at in your ENM journey, I want to support you in finding the clarity and ease you need continue healing and growing in your radical relationships.

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Matthew McCullough (He/His, They/Their)

Licensed Professional Counselor

LPC, CADC-I

I have a wide knowledge of different ways people relate to each other and strive to create a non-judgmental environment where the unique situations one may face are treated with respect. I am also familiar with the range of gender identities, and have been with several friends through their transitioning experience.

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Paula Emerick (she/they)

Licensed Marriage Family Therapist

LMFT

Oh snap. Welcome to the world of possibility and also crazy emotions! But for real....I like to start with what needs to be unlearned and what might be holding you back individually before jumping into the realm of expectations/boundaries/etc. Again - I do not claim to be an expert...and I am also VERY willing to navigate areas that promote honesty, connection, authenticity, and trust.

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Kelly Rees (she/her)

Clinical Sexologist

Certified, ACS, QMHA

Consensual non-monogamous relationships can be very complex! I have extensive personal experience navigating them and can offer guidance on decision-making to preserve health and sanity. Finding the right type of relating can make the difference between chaos and richness. We will consider which boundaries serve you best and how you can maintain them.

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Emily Palmgren (she/her)

Marriage and Family Therapist Associate

M.A. Marriage, Couple, Family Therapy

Maybe you are cognitively on board with consensual nonmonogamy, but in practice are experiencing fear, anxiety, and even physical pain. I celebrate radical relationship structures, and understand how complex these ways of loving can be to our attachment systems. I can help you create your own unique roadmap to navigate multi-partner relationships.

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Lolo Haha (he/him)

Somatic Practitioner

M.A., Diploma of Process Work

As a non-monogamous practitioner, I work with polyamorous, non-monogamous, and relationship anarchist individuals, couples, and polycules to deepen their awareness and communication strategies toward greater autonomy, deeper relatedness, and more intentional decision-making in relationship. I believe that it is important as someone from these identities to work with someone who has lived and understand these experiences, and can help with the different challenges along the way.

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Melissa Hartley ((she/her))

Professional Counselor Associate

MS, NCC, Professional Counselor Associate

In my practice, I celebrate and affirm diverse relationship styles and structures. I believe the process of finding your ideals and learning along the way is unique to each person. I am here to offer support and a safe place to process in a non-judgmental setting. At Integrated Core Counseling, you can expect to be welcomed and affirmed in regard to your relationship style/structure.

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Matthew Geraths (They/Him)

Licensed Marriage Family Therapist

LMFT

I help individuals and couples explore what relationship dynamics are right for them. Monogamy is never a given and can sometimes be destructive to the well being of those trying to force themselves into it.

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Colin Wolf (he/him)

Licensed Professional Counselor

MA, LPC

Over 10 years of experience working with clients in polyamorous and open relationships, supporting individuals and relationship partners in developing more intimacy through expanding curiosity, improving communication and collaboration skills, reducing reactivity and increasing authentic connection.

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Taylor Kravitz (She/Her/Hers)

Licensed Marriage Family Therapist

MA, LMFT

I am affirming of ethical non-monogamy and have supported partners in opening their relationship. I will help you clarify your wants, need & boundaries, tune up your communication so you have a solid foundation, and develop tools for navigating the feelings that may come up on this journey.

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Andrea Mize (she/her)

Licensed Clinical Social Worker

I have a 20 year personal history with this identity. In addition I have attended numerous trainings over the last decade and continue to immerse myself in new developments taking place in the various communities attached to non-monogamy in it's many forms and manifestations.

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Renee Fitzpatrick (she/her)

Licensed Professional Counselor

Professional Counselor Associate

Individuals engaging in polyamorous and consensual nonmonogamous (CNM) relationships have been historically marginalized and pathologized in our society to due the halo affect of monogamous couples and nuclear-family values. However, less than 15% of families in the US today look like a nuclear family. I am both poly-knowledgeable and poly-focused in my practice, meaning that I serve clients who may be seeking therapy for polyamory/CNM-related reasons, or simply seeking poly-affirming care.

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Amanda Ball (she/her)

Professional Counselor Associate

MS

Exploring your relationship values can help you ground into what you really want and need, and create the relationship orientation that is right for you. I have knowledge of many different types and styles of polyamory, non-monogamy, and open relationships. I hold the belief that any type of relationship can be healthy with the consent and honestly of all partners.

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Lorraine Storm

Licensed Professional Counselor

Relationships are not one-size-fits-all and the ones you design yourself can be potentially the most fulfilling. Although non-traditional relationships face many of the same issues as traditional ones, they also have the potential to amplify or emphasize problems, especially around insecurity or jealousy. I affirming and knowledgeable of poly and open relationships.

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Caitlin Beckwith-Ferguson (she/her)

Marriage and Family Therapist Associate

Opening up a relationship can be both exciting and nerve-wracking. Together, we will explore ways to make this relationship feel safe and secure, as well as exciting and explorative. We will discuss your boundaries, needs, and desires. We will examine socio-cultural narratives about relationships to find what fits and what does not. We will unpack your emotional responses to this experience in order to create a deeper connection between you are your partner(s).

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Jamie Krahulec (she/they)

Professional Counselor Associate

MA, BA, #R7573

I have noticed that the biggest reason for relationship distress seems to come from communication and this is not unique to a type of relationship. I can help you learn how to find meaning in the empty spaces. I believe we all have capacity in our hearts to love more than one person and as long as the partnership is consensual then there is no reason why multiple relationships should be an issue for anyone not interested.

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Liz Powell (they/them)

Clinical Psychologist

CA PSY 27871; OR PSY 3068

I have over a decade of experience working with non-monogamous clients and have been non-monogamous myself for most of my adult life. I also recently published my first book, Building Open Relationships: Your Hands-On Guide to Swinging, Polyamory, & Beyond. In particular, I look at figuring out how to practice non-monogamy in a way that is ethical and in alignment with your own values/boundaries

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Heidi Savell (she/her)

Licensed Clinical Social Worker

CADC I

Finding competent care when in a consensually non-monogamous relationship can be a challenge. I provide therapy that honors the complexity, nuance, joys and challenges of navigating life and relationships within a non-monogamous context.

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Ajay Dheer (He/They)

Marriage and Family Therapist Associate

M.S. Marriage and Family Therapy

Nearly a quarter of my caseload has been centered around relationships that are practicing ethical non monogamy, transitioning into opening or closing their relationships, and other conversations around the impacts of society’s expectations for monogamy.

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Elizabeth Knutsen (she/her)

Clinical Social Work Associate

Are you in a non-monogamous relationship or are curious about what those relationship structures can look like for you? Get some support around building, maintaining and growing your most intimate connections all while building awareness around power dynamics, communication and wants and needs in your interpersonal relationships.

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Julia Perretta (She/Her)

Licensed Marriage Family Therapist

I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist trained in EFT and Gottman based approaches. I pull from theoretical paradigms such as attachment/interpersonal neurobiology and somatic experiencing.

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Jennie Hayes, LPC

Licensed Professional Counselor

LPC

I specialize in relationships that fall outside of the conventional models, and love helping individuals in those relationships explore and communicate their needs, learn to navigate challenges in a healthy way and build stronger bonds of trust and connection.

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Molz Wirtz (they/them)

Licensed Professional Counselor

MS, LMHC, LPC

Many of my clients have non-traditional ethical relationship structures, and I have lectured on polyam for other therapists ( the powerpoint presentation is still up on my website)

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