Relationship / Marriage Issues

Occasionally, fights and conflict within a relationship or marriage are a fact of life.  But when the conflicts in your relationship are threatening your health and wellbeing, it may be time to seek help. Most relationship problems are caused, at least in part, by communication difficulties.  Seeing a mental health professional with your partner can help you develop strategies to improve your overall happiness and communication or target a specific conflict like anger, infidelity, money, sex, or household duties.  Marriage counseling can also help you and your partner reach an informed decision when considering divorce. Seeing a therapist for premarital counseling can also be very beneficial and help you and your partner work through any major differences and set reasonable and healthy expectations for your marriage.

Local Experts in Relationship / Marriage Issues

Trained in Gottman Method Couples Therapy.

I am trained and experienced in a variety of approaches to relationship and marital issues, including anger, cruelty, withholding, infidelity, sexual problems, addictions, trauma and emotional reactivity.

Years of doing therapy with couples

I have worked with couples and families throughout my career. I have experience with crisis management, when couples are experiencing acute marital issues, and general problem solving for on-going concerns. I have a special interest in working with couples who have already been married to other people and are experiencing discord after combining their families.

From the second we're born, relationships challenge us at our deepest level. Safety, vulnerability, shame, betrayal, commitment: they hit on our greatest fears and meet our fundamental needs. It's a place where we can grow the most and the fastest. I love working with couples because it's all right there in the room, in the moment, to be explored and unpacked and learned from.

I have training in emotionally-focused therapy, which helps couples recognize the painful pattern of fighting they get in repeatedly. This approach focuses on how to reconnect with your partner, enhancing the closeness you crave.

I love creating a safe space for couples to talk through difficult issues and restore or improve their love relationships. I have been married for 26 years and raised 4 children, so I know all too well that life can get very difficult and overwhelming at times.

So many of our challenges are rooted in our relationships with our romantic partners. Our romantic relationships are often our most precious, triggering, rewarding and conflict-laden relationships. Many of our conflicts in these relationships will never be resolved. We must learn to support our partners toward their greatest selves and vice-versa.

Intimacy and commitment are going through tremendous changes in our modern world. Our evolving roles and expectations are transforming how we understand partnership. Trained as a marriage & family therapist, I specialize in couples counseling for today’s complex relationships. I combine EFT and experiential methods to help couples explore vulnerable issues, communicate in new ways, and reconnect.

I believe that we are conceived in relationship and continue to move in, out, and through relationships our entire lives. These relationships teach us how to love, how to hurt, how to learn, how to exist in our bodies, how to judge and hold prejudice, how to forgive. They can bring. I am a dedicated relationship counselor and have pursued specific additional training for working with couples.

Much of my work with clients has centered on recognizing and building healthy relationships. This includes (and begins with) a healthy relationship with yourself, as well as relationships with family, friends, lovers, and the outside world. Much of our lingering suffering as well as our ability to heal and thrive is determined by the ways in which we relate to our inner and outer worlds.

One of the techniques I use in counseling couples is EFT: Emotionally Focused Therapy. EFT has been shown to decrease fights and loneliness, increase affection and intimacy, and rebuild levels of trust after betrayal. You will grow into a deeper level of safety and trust, caring and respect.

How we experience our closest relationships can effect how we feel and behave. Feeling connected in our personal and romantic relationships can provide a sense of sanctuary and support in our lives, however when things go wrong we feel feelings that can be overwhelming. Increasing intimacy, experiencing feelings , finding new skills, and using open communication are my focus with couples.

Intimate relationships can be a great source of joy in our lives, but they can also be fraught with challenge. I utilize my training in systemic therapies to address relationship issues through individual and couple sessions. I welcome all types and forms of relationships in my practice, including LGBTQi and polyamorous.

For me, relationships make the world go 'round! I am passionate about couples, helping them grow, heal, and feel fulfilled in the context of their relationships. My work includes: partners who are dating, newlyweds experiencing challenges, empty nesters spicing things up, partners wrestling with separation, married, unmarried, traditional and non-traditional relationships.

I only work with ADHD-nonADHD impacted relationships. There is hope!

Whatever the relationship issue is you are facing, we will work together to address the root causes of the pain. Since our past informs our future and issues with our family of origin often play out in our current relationships, we will identify and explore potential unresolved issues that are preventing you from having the relationship you desire so you can make changes that support well-being.

I work from the Gottman Method of couples therapy, which is research based and tested and considered by many in the field, the most effective roadmap for helping relationships to become stable and happy.

I value and enjoy helping people create and maintain happy supportive relationships in which they can be at their best. I work with same-gender and male-female relationships as well as parent-child, sibling and work relationships. I have training in Gottman and other approaches such as dialogue. In relationship work, I am directive and support the relationship as my client where possible.

I help individuals who struggle in relationships with their romantic partners, friends, family, co-workers and anyone else that is relevant in their life.

Gottman method, communication patterns, conflict resolution, restoring closeness and partnership, adapting to children, intimacy

In relationships you grow as a couple and as individuals. My work with couples focuses on strengthening the relationship, identifying problematic patterns, learning new ways of interacting, and increasing communication skills. I incorporate tools from The Gottman Institute to help facilitate these changes.

I have worked with couples, as well as polyamorous/open relationships for more than 10 years and have completed related trainings.

I try and help individuals realize what they can do to make their connections to others more useful and to help set clear boundaries. With couples work, it's navigating this directly with one's partner.

Single and want to be coupled? Coupled and want more satisfaction? Co-dependant, too independent, anxious, avoidant? Relationships bring some of the biggest life challenges we face.

As a counselor trained specifically in couples, marriage, and family therapy, I specialize in relationship counseling. I support couples from the early stages in premarital counseling, all the way through the lifecycle of a relationship, potentially including divorce counseling.

Do you like your love outside of the box? Have you had trouble finding a counselor who does not pathologize your sexual expression? Are you poly, kinky, or employed in the sex industry? Avoid the pitfalls of sex in the shadows; the guilt, shame, and dishonesty that can wreck our lives. Come work with a professional counselor who supports you and your right to sexual autonomy and self-expression.

It\'s time for relationship counseling when you stop talking, when affection is withheld as punishment, when you see your partner as your enemy, when you keep secrets, when you are physically, emotionally, or financially unfaithful, when you just want your partner to change, or when you sex life changes significantly. Most couples wait too long before seeking help. Sooner is better than later.

I\'m in your corner, whatever the hurdle. Relationships are tough, so is the process of finding a person who understands. I have extensive experience with non-traditional relationships including BDSM/ kink couples, non-monogamous, or other lifestyles. I take a collaborative, strengths focused approach using Gottman, EFT and systems approaches to reconnection.

I use mindfulness tools, including Yoga in therapy work with couples to offer a unique approach to sorting through and healing within relationship and marriage. I have expertise in family dynamics and systems to cultivate clarity and empowerment around family and partner relationships.

I specialize in couples therapy. I have received extensive training and supervision in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy. My caseload is comprised primarily of couples.

My training and background focused on relationships. In accordance my practice has a heavy focus on couples along with teaching pre-marriage classes at Northwest Catholic Counseling Center as a non-denominational therapist.

Interpersonal communication is the process by which people exchange information, feelings, and meaning through verbal and non-verbal messages: it is face-to-face communication. Interpersonal communication is not just about what is actually said but how it is said and the non-verbal messages sent through tone of voice, facial expressions, gestures and body language.

My training allows me to work with couples using a variety of approaches including Dan Wile's work, Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples, and Gottman's theories and techniques (though I'm not yet certified in EFT-C or Gottman therapy). Couples are unique, multifaceted, and complex, and I strive to help them understand and resolve their conflicts, needs, strengths, and relationship dynamics.

I have worked with couples of many different varieties and am passionate about helping couples have better relationships. I have done additional training through the International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy and the Gottman Institute. I also have a passion for the science behind relationships, also known as Interpersonal Neurobiology.

I love providing couples counseling. I have had advanced training in the work of John Gottman, Dan Wile, and Harville Hendrix. I was involved in a two year training program for Imago Therapy. To me, nearly all couples need to find new ways to communicate so that conflict can bring them closer to each other.

In our individual or couples counseling sessions you can learn: How to communicate your needs to your partner in a more effective way; What are your spouse’s triggers and how do you use this knowledge to prevent fights and also learn to repair the damage when things go awry; How to treat your partner with compassion and empathy to foster greater understanding, respect, and acceptance.

Methods of treatment used are evidence-based, supported by research, and by the American Psychological Association (APA). Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy are highly effective in helping shift relationship issues, so are the main methods I use in working with clients.

I frequently work with couples - gay, lesbian, trans, queer, straight - as they work to strengthen their relationship while also developing a greater sense of themselves and their individual identities. My post-graduate study has been based in the Family Systems approach.

There are countless models of healthy romantic relationships, from monogamous to polyamorous, and unique variations between partners. The scripts for dating and longterm relationships of previous generations may not be applicable to your relationship. But there is psychological research that shows that you can learn skills to create the conditions for healthy relationships.

For clients struggling with intimate relationships I utilize emotion focused therapy to facilitate opportunities for sustained growth and renewed connection. Discover the patterns that are appearing in your relationship which you hope to change. Develop the tools necessary to make yourself feel heard and to better hear what your partner is struggling to say.

Couples often come to therapy with the goal of improving patterns of conflict in their relationships and increasing their intimacy and connection with their partners. My work with couples incorporates behavioral interventions (CBT), emotionally-focused techniques, mindfulness (ACT, DBT) and attachment theory to help clients build healthier relationships.

I have specific training in Relationship and Marriage Issues from Portland State University. I work on daily basis with individuals, couples, and families on relationship issues.

Individuals grow in relationships and I am interested in helping couples develop loving, constructive and creative relationship environment in which growth can flourish in satisfying ways. Together we develop goals & strategies for cultivating positive changes. I utilize evidence-based Gottman methodology when working with my couples.

Is your relationship changing? Are you at the point where you need to make a decision and have no idea where to begin? By working to explore and identify your needs and desires, you can move from being completely stuck to having clarity and peace. I can help you take that first step, whatever that step may be.

Has a previously fluid and easy connection dissolved into fighting, blaming, emotional disconnection, or indifference? Differences in values causing stress or resentment? Wanting to reestablish intimacy and closeness? I have specialized training to help couples and individuals break patterns that cause fighting, improve communication, and strengthen connection.

Couples choose to work with me for many reasons, but my approach particularly aligns with couples who have concerns related to failing to connect and/or understand your partner, navigating differing values, personalities and habits, two-career households, co-habitating, work/life balance, thinking about and/or making a long-term commitment, and life transitions such as the addition of a new child.

Relationships are complicated and we often change as individuals when we decide to partner up. My goal with relationship therapy is to explore why we struggle with our partners and what individual needs should be met in order for us to have a successful partnership.

I am a Gottman Seven Principles trained educator and have completed the Gottman Level 1 couples training. Additionally, I have and continue to participate in graduate education and professional development in Interpersonal Neurobiology (IPNB). I incorporate the Gottman Method, IPNB, and Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT) in my work with couples.

Though it may seem like therapy cliche, exploration of our attachment style in our family of origin is critical in the illumination of adult relational patterns. How secure we are in the world of relationships is influenced by our earliest attachments.  Are we trusting?  Or are we in anticipation of a betrayal?  Can we be authentic and transparent?  Or do we fear abandonment and rejection?

Everyone needs others in their life, yet everyone is unique. This can contribute to conflict and other difficulties. These difficulties can be most pronounced in romantic relationships and it's easy for bad habits of communication to lead to deep hurt. I want to help you understand your role in these dynamics in order to increase your ability to have successful and resilient bonds with others.

My education through graduate school at Lewis and Clark College was specific to working with couples and families and I am trained as a marriage and couples counselor. I work frequently with couples on a variety of issues including infidelity, conflict and premarital counseling.

For couples, my work will be focused on bringing you together around the strengths of your relationship. Within the hectic lives we lead, couples often struggle to communicate about their individual needs. Over time this leads to patterns of behavior between loving people that can spiral out of control. We will work to identify those patterns and stop them in their tracks.

Often times, coping skills that were helpful earlier in life become patterned ways of relating. While these can continue to serve us in certain situations, they can also get in the way of connecting meaningfully or can lead to conflict with those we love. In counseling, we can explore those patterns together and develop and practice new ways of relating and connecting.

One of the most frightening prospects to many of us is exposing our true feelings to an intimate partner. Will I hurt them or be hurt? Our pasts often dictate what we feel allowed to expect from others. Opening space for our most acute sensitivities, we can seek to create secure attachments by acknowledging the underlying emotional vulnerability we tend to keep hidden from ourselves and others.

I generally work with individuals, but what we talk about is their relationships. Like it or not how people related to us in our early life generally continues to impact our adult relating until we can recognize patterns & learn to manage the flood of emotions that can erupt when we are with the people you love most. Let\'s work together to repair old & more recent relationships.

I work with couples at all stages to facilitate secure, lasting bonds and find creative solutions for deeper and more fulfilling relationships. We will reinforce any preexisting positive bonds, identifying negative patterns in the relationships, establishing realistic ways to solve problems, expanding emotional awareness, and finding new ways to increase security, closeness and connection.

I have studied relationship research and have extra training from the Gottman Institute, completing the Level 1 Training for Gottman Relationship Counseling. I have also been a Gottman Bringing Baby Home Educator since 2013. Their research based and research tested methods show a high success rate for couples involved in this specific type of counseling.

I have been a student, teacher, trainer, and practitioner of family of origin theory and practice for 32 years. Couples get stuck in repetitive ,circular, damaging interactions that reflect often unmet childhood needs and unfinished business with family. I have seen couples move forward once they are able to understand this dynamic and unhook from reactivity.

Marriages can be tricky. I pull from 18 years of personal experience and having had parents that were married for 47 years before the passing of my mother. Marriages are also often damaged by addicts choices - infidelity, isolation, deception. I work to support and rebuild marriages with healthy individuals.

Relationships are the foundation of life. They are also where our greatest struggles arise. It is this complexity that can overwhelm and confuse us and entice us to lean on dysfunctional patterns. Through an exploration of present and past experiences, I make use of experiential modalities to create new experiences that allow for an expanded sense of what is possible in relationship.

I have treated individuals and couples with relationship issues for over twenty five years.

I have worked with relationships for most of my career and am passionate about the work. I focus on increasing awareness for interactional patterns, power dynamics, impact of trauma, attachment issues, and improved communication.

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