Relationship / Marriage Issues

Occasionally, fights and conflict within a relationship or marriage are a fact of life.  But when the conflicts in your relationship are threatening your health and wellbeing, it may be time to seek help. Most relationship problems are caused, at least in part, by communication difficulties.  Seeing a mental health professional with your partner can help you develop strategies to improve your overall happiness and communication or target a specific conflict like anger, infidelity, money, sex, or household duties.  Marriage counseling can also help you and your partner reach an informed decision when considering divorce. Seeing a therapist for premarital counseling can also be very beneficial and help you and your partner work through any major differences and set reasonable and healthy expectations for your marriage.

Local Experts in Relationship / Marriage Issues

Gottman method, communication patterns, conflict resolution, restoring closeness and partnership, adapting to children, intimacy

EFT, Emotionally Focused couple counselor.

Conflicts can arise at any stage in a relationship. Sometimes these conflicts grow in complexity despite our best efforts to resolve them on our own. Whether you’re a new couple, a married couple, or a couple facing separation, I can work with you to navigate and resolve the challenges in your relationship. \n

Supporting multiple family members (adult siblings, parent/child, couples) in resolving conflict and increasing a sense of emotional safety and connection.

As a marriage and family therapist my primary expertise is in working with couples facing a variety of issues and concerns. I have experience working with emotional and physical infidelity, blended family concerns, communication differences, divorce and conscious un-coupling.

Relationships are complex. They require a lot of care & maintenance. I draw experience from my own 20+ years of marriage as well as facilitate couples forums where developing communication, connection, respect & strengthening the partnership are key. I have worked with couples that are dating, recently married, remarried couples, 'empty nest' couples, and same sex partners.

Relationship is a path that demands humility and courage. Because the oldest and deepest wounds tend to surface in connection with a committed partner, it is here that you have the opportunity to bring deep healing. I have trained in the Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy (PACT), incorporating attachment work with functional neurobiology to offer you support toward healthy relationship.

Borrowing from my training in the Gottman method, Imago and Emotionally Focused Therapies, I have been honored to be part of the healing for many couples in both traditional and non-traditional relationship orientations.

External integration coincides with internal integration. By focusing on differentiation we develop a more complete awareness of parts required for integration. To put the puzzle together, we first define the pieces and provide for individual needs, decreasing dependency and increasing mutual respect, freedom, and curiosity within the relationship.

There is no one-way to do relationship, though we often carry unspoken rules and legacies that may or may not fit who we are with our loved one(s). Sex, money, emotional labor, and parenting, are just a few places where we might get complacent or stuck. I have experience and interest in working with multicultural, and mixed-status partners. Special education in addressing sex and intimacy.

Co-dependency, narcissistic abuse, survivors of domestic abuse, divorce/break ups. Relationship improvement.

Whether it be issues with friends, siblings, parents, children, or within a couple, navigating one's needs and boundaries within a relationship requires attention and work. Learning to speak in ways that are more likely to get your needs met and developing new ways of responding to others is a primary focus.

I have attended training in Emotionally Focused Therapy in Seattle, NYC, and Portland. I have attended trainings by both Dr. Les Greenberg and Dr. Susan Johnson, author of Hold Me Tight, I am also familiar with the Gottman model.

Whether we committed to our partner knowing that they would help us grow or we were blindsided by the realization, it can be invaluable to have an outside perspective helping to navigate the tricky roads of modern relationships. My work has been primarily with couples considering parenthood or adjusting to parenting.

It is important for couple to have a place where they can identify patterns that may be disruptive to the relationship. A place where positive both parties can be heard and communication can be strengthened.

I help couples identify negative emotional interactional styles rather than assigning blame. One safety has strengthened, the underlying emotions or hurt, anger, fear, and sadness emerge that allow couples to more deeply communicate while re-establishing trust. With trust strengthened, we can negotiate differences, heal past wounds, and let go of disconnecting beliefs and attitudes.

I have a masters degree in marriage and family therapy. My training in couples counseling best fits couples that have been together a shorter time and would like to steer clear of repeating old unhealthy habits from past relationships. I see many couples that would like premarital counseling or couples that are newly married and experiencing some road bumps in their relationship.

I use mindfulness tools, including Yoga in therapy work with couples to offer a unique approach to sorting through and healing within relationship and marriage. I have expertise in family dynamics and systems to cultivate clarity and empowerment around family and partner relationships.

Relationships are a journey of navigating personal and shared life experience. I believe that couples are strengthened when they can address their difficulties, work towards a place of flexibility, and allow each individual to be themselves. I approach couples therapy as an opportunity for couples to learn about each other and to develop a shared vision of what they want their relationship to be.

I am trained as a Marriage Therapist and use a combination of EFCT, Gottman Method, and Sensorimotor Therapy to support couples in healing attachment injuries to developed a more attuned and satisfying relationship. Together we learn how to navigate conflict in a way that is productive rather than sweeping things under the rug. My goal is to help couples turn toward each other and develop trust.

I train both partners in meditation and mindfulness techniques so they learn to communicate without stress and use the relationship itself to enhance personal growth, awareness, and provide a lifelong spiritual path.

I try and help individuals realize what they can do to make their connections to others more useful and to help set clear boundaries. With couples work, it's navigating this directly with one's partner.

Relationships...the most complex of psychological work. My work with couples is geared to conscious living. I work with people on building healthy interactional patterns, in communication, affection and needs fulfillment. Giving clients tools to stop destructive patterns and develop patterns of connection and trust.

I have completed Sue Johnson\'s Emotionally Focused Therapy Externship and continue to take advantage of ongoing training with Portland\'s local EFT Trainer Sharon Chatkupt Lee.

\'Is the message received the same as the message delivered?\' More often then not our greatest challenges is deciphering the messages between our closest relationships. \'When our preferences, i.e; our likes and dislikes are in the way, we may be listening for our own agenda and giving the other person the attention or respect needed to clear up doubt, conflict and upset. Listen for understanding.

I have specific training in couples therapy and communication theory, and use my experience to help you identify patterns of communication/interaction that are harmful to your relationship. I incorporate tools from Emotion-Focused Therapy and the Gottman Method to help you build the relationship that you desire.

I have extensive experience working with couples and/or individuals dealing with relationship and marital issues. My analytic training with both attachment and relational theories provide the theoretical and technical skills that enable me to tailor a treatment approach that matches the individual or couple\'s needs. I am currently seeking consultation to expand my knowledge and skill level.

Hate each other? Just friends without sex? Looking outside your relationship to get your needs me? Are you entitled to happiness? I believe you are. I can help you locate the problems, work on them and ask tough questions about your current relationship(s) so that you can find a solution. Stay or go? Work on it or not? I am also a member of SASH, The Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health.

Relationships are the foundation of life. They are also where our greatest struggles arise. It is this complexity that can overwhelm and confuse us and entice us to lean on dysfunctional patterns. Through an exploration of present and past experiences, I make use of experiential modalities to create new experiences that allow for an expanded sense of what is possible in relationship.

I hold a Master's Degree in Couples, Marriage, and Family Therapy. Relationship issues are my area of specialization. I work with you in addressing the relationship challenges you face, understanding the underlying emotions, and building strategies for healthier communication.

I am passionate about working with couples to improve communication, behaviors and loving practices to develop partnerships that serve each individual. I rely heavily on attachment theory and the work of Gottman. I also provide a safe, sex-positive and shame-free space in which to explore sexual issues, desires and curiosities.

Attachment, intimacy, and connection are basic human needs that we all struggle to find and maintain in fulfilling ways. I support my clients in staying connected to their authentic self, while also cultivating an ability to connect and relate to others with more ease, whether it is with partners, family, friends, colleagues, or others.

I help couples build the communication skills they need to respectfully resolve their conflicts while building emotional intimacy.

Couples therapy is my practice speciality. Without a doubt my work with couples informs my personal relationship and vise versa. This reflexive quality invigorates me and keeps our work together alive and present. Because of my enthusiasm, I fly down to Oakland, California regularly to attend consultation seminars with Dan Wile, Ph.D. the originator of Collaborative Couple Therapy.

Communication breakdown? Infidelity? Addiction problems? Work/Play balance off? These things can push us to the brink when life is already stressful. What you need is someone who has been there and can guide the process naturally. I am confident that together we can create lasting changes in your most intimate relationship using a few simple principles.

I have training in Hakomi and EFT approaches to couples work.

So many of our challenges are rooted in our relationships with our romantic partners. Our romantic relationships are often our most precious, triggering, rewarding and conflict-laden relationships. Many of our conflicts in these relationships will never be resolved. We must learn to support our partners toward their greatest selves and vice-versa.

I believe that each couple has their own unique needs, challenges and history. I help couples to explore how their individual backgrounds, beliefs, thoughts and behaviors may be impacting their relationship in both positive and negatives ways. I help couples learn foundational tools for better conflict resolution, communication and understanding.

In my work with couples I use two most researched evidence-based approaches Gottman method and Emotionally-Focused therapy.

I am a Gottman Seven Principles trained educator and have completed the Gottman Level 1 couples training. Additionally, I have and continue to participate in graduate education and professional development in Interpersonal Neurobiology (IPNB). I incorporate the Gottman Method, IPNB, and Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT) in my work with couples.

I am trained and experienced in a variety of approaches to relationship and marital issues, including anger, cruelty, withholding, infidelity, sexual problems, addictions, trauma and emotional reactivity.

I only work with ADHD-nonADHD impacted relationships. There is hope!

Single and want to be coupled? Coupled and want more satisfaction? Co-dependant, too independent, anxious, avoidant? Relationships bring some of the biggest life challenges we face.

Training in Gottman Couples Therapy

Methods of treatment used are evidence-based, supported by research, and by the American Psychological Association (APA). Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy are highly effective in helping shift relationship issues, so are the main methods I use in working with clients.

Whether you're looking to strengthen your relationship, decrease conflict, resolve sexual problems, or reevaluate your committment together, I can support and guide you toward resolution. I am LGBTQ affirming and welcome any and all clients who seek a safe and constructive place to work toward resolution in their relationship(s).

I help partners identify undesired ways of relating, communicate in healthier and more connecting ways, and make different choices in relating. I use experiential and emotionally-focused counseling approaches to help couples experience better understanding, empathy, and skills in connecting with each other.

I am here to come alongside you in your marriage, family, career, and social relationships. Within our therapeutic relationship, we will integrate your mind, body, culture, and spiritual makeup, to assist you to gain a better understanding of your experiences, and work with you for healing. My approach is through intersubjectivity (IS) and emotion focused therapy (EFT), helping to guide you.

Sex and relationship therapy using various modalities to help achieve relationship satisfaction. Trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy and Gottman Method.

I work with couples at all stages to facilitate secure, lasting bonds and find creative solutions for deeper and more fulfilling relationships. We will reinforce any preexisting positive bonds, identifying negative patterns in the relationships, establishing realistic ways to solve problems, expanding emotional awareness, and finding new ways to increase security, closeness and connection.

Love demands the reassurance of touch. Most fights are really protests over emotional disconnection. Underneath the distress, partners are desperate to know: Are you there for me?\nBy Sue Johnson, published on January 01, 2009

Living with an intimate partner is difficult. Marriage, committed partnership, and even new relationships touch us deeply and bring out the best and worst in all of us. Skillful guidance from a trained professional helps couples navigate the inevitable challenges and natural transitions that are part of living in relationship.

I can help you identify core values, set boundaries with yourself and others, and live inline with your authentic self.

I love working with couples, especially couples with children. We naturally shift between issues that come up in the marriage and issues that come up with the kids.

I use techniques from attachment theory and mindfulness-based therapy to work with the underlying issues in a relationship. When attachment is getting the attention it needs, other issues can be problem-solved.

None of us comes to any relationship in our lives unencumbered by what has gone before. Relationships can be so tricky because the complex system of one brain and personality and family meets another complex system. Relationships offer our best hope of feeling truly seen and understood by another. I would like to support you in your path to increased connection and safety.

I have both the training and clinical experience to treat issues related to relationships, including interpersonal conflict, difficulty maintaining connections, problems with intimacy, sexual dysfunction, and divorce.

I generally work with individuals, but what we talk about is their relationships. Like it or not how people related to us in our early life generally continues to impact our adult relating until we can recognize patterns & learn to manage the flood of emotions that can erupt when we are with the people you love most. Let\'s work together to repair old & more recent relationships.

I focus on systemic struggles from culture to family to relationships. Having both people in the relationship helps to do work in the moment and make big changes.

I work with couples on issues such as addiction, affairs, premarital counseling, and general couple conflict. Through my training in the research-based Gottman Couples Therapy, I can help you to become better friends, offer you tools to manage conflict more effectively, and assist you in creating ways to support each other’s hopes for the future.

I have a focus on Non-Monogamous or open relationships. These partnerships can be difficult to navigate. Despite intentions, jealousy, fear and difficulties with self worth can easily be present. Often, understanding support can be difficult to find.

I work with women who would like to develop greater emotional intimacy in their close relationships. I help women feel more solid inside themselves, so they can speak their truth, and recognize their needs as legitimate. We increase awareness of old patterns that get in the way of authenticity & closeness. We explore how vulnerability creates connection and is fundamental to emotional intimacy.

In my work with couples, I use elements and insights from family systems, Gottman, and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) to guide my work with couples. I'm passionate about assisting couples as they navigate the complexity of interpersonal relationships. Healthy relationships take work and most couples face challenges at some point during their relationship.

We depend on one another, and each relationship requires maintainance and care. Although you may feel otherwise or heard otherwise there is nothing wrong with seeking support because relationships are challenging and each presents there own set of rules, negotiations, and conflicts. I can help you navigate your relationships.

Nothing saps the joy from life more than relationship conflict. I love having the opportunity to help couples hear each other, to see the relationship from each other's perspective and recognize the need to work together.

For me it's an exercise of cutting through all those arguments and disconnects on the surface to what we are feeling and needing underneath, and having the support to get to those and say them out loud to our loved one. The vulnerability in this allows us to connect with that person we fell in love with and feel that love again. And it is a model of getting through future struggles.

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