Relationship / Marriage Issues

Occasionally, fights and conflict within a relationship or marriage are a fact of life.  But when the conflicts in your relationship are threatening your health and wellbeing, it may be time to seek help. Most relationship problems are caused, at least in part, by communication difficulties.  Seeing a mental health professional with your partner can help you develop strategies to improve your overall happiness and communication or target a specific conflict like anger, infidelity, money, sex, or household duties.  Marriage counseling can also help you and your partner reach an informed decision when considering divorce. Seeing a therapist for premarital counseling can also be very beneficial and help you and your partner work through any major differences and set reasonable and healthy expectations for your marriage.

Local Experts in Relationship / Marriage Issues

All couples are welcome at Refresh Therapy. Whether you are dating, living together, engaged, married or anything in between—couples therapy can be a great way to improve your relationship. We believe that each couple has its own unique challenges and history, and we tailor our services to meet your specific needs.

I have worked with many couples of all orientations to learn now to communicate and build a better life together. Here are some topics I work with most often: Navigating the path to intimacy, Effectively sharing and communicating emotions, Creating romance between best friends, Juggling career, children, and intimacy, Being vulnerable , and Building and repairing the safety of trust

My work is focused on the many ways we prevent intimacy and genuine connection with one another due to internal and external obstacles. I also specialize in sexual issues among couples. Along with my colleague, Gillian Chachere, I also provide a unique, integrative, co-facilitated approach to couples counseling. Learn more here: https://kerrycohenhoffmann.wixsite.com/icct

I focus on systemic struggles from culture to family to relationships. Having both people in the relationship helps to do work in the moment and make big changes.

I have completed Level One of Stan Tatkin's PACT model of couples therapy and I'm currently in Level Two. This model supports couples to move towards a secure functioning relationship that is based on mutuality and connection. The focus of this model is on attachment theory, developmental neuroscience, and arousal regulation.

As a Marriage and Family Therapist, I place high value in relationships. Identifying and removing barriers to connection is foundational in working on relationships in therapy. It is important to understand where the barriers have come from to assure they do not reappear later. This work is for anyone in any stage of relationship, ranging from dating to divorced and co-parenting.

Whether it\'s premarital counseling, exploring non-monogamy, or ending a relationship that\'s no longer meeting your needs, every stage of a relationship comes with its own challenges. Using a couple\'s assessment, skill building, and an approach that treats each relationship\'s unique structure as equally valid and important, I will help you navigate the road ahead.

Trained as a marriage and family therapist, I specialize in relationship counseling. My approach is based in emotion-focused, family systems and Gottman principles, and our work provides a safe space for each of you to express yourself in new ways, using dynamic, in-the-room exercises to help interrupt hurtful patterns and create momentum towards a healthier partnership.

I believe relationships are the cornerstone of all human development. Our development has everything to do with our ability to have long, stable, and loving relationships.

I work with clients who struggle with both peer and romantic relationships. Increasing awareness of one's own wants, needs, emotions, and sexual desires builds the foundation for clear communication with others, creating the opportunity for more satisfying, supportive relationships. I work with couples to improve their mutual understanding, clear road blocks, and increase satisfaction.

Do you like your love outside of the box? Have you had trouble finding a counselor who does not pathologize your sexual expression? Are you poly, kinky, or employed in the sex industry? Avoid the pitfalls of sex in the shadows; the guilt, shame, and dishonesty that can wreck our lives. Come work with a professional counselor who supports you and your right to sexual autonomy and self-expression.

We are social creatures and thus we have a multitude of relationships of all sorts in our lives. I am very helpful with marriage and romantic relationship issues as well as with any interpersonal relationships (friends, bosses, relatives, acquaintances) that have become problematic.

I work with couples who are in the early stages of their relationships.

Much of my work with clients has centered on recognizing and building healthy relationships. This includes (and begins with) a healthy relationship with yourself, as well as relationships with family, friends, lovers, and the outside world. Much of our lingering suffering as well as our ability to heal and thrive is determined by the ways in which we relate to our inner and outer worlds.

I've been with my wife for over 18 years. I have learned the struggles and the joys, the ups and downs, and everything else that goes into a healthy relationship. I offer my experiences and learned knowledge to help you navigate the tough times and get back to a happy and connected relationship.

I work with clients who are dealing with relationship or marital problems through Gottman Relationship Therapy tools and training experience. This approach is very successful in helping people get beyond their complaints and find a sense of renewed admiration and love with their partners.

Whatever path lies ahead for you and your partner(s), I am up for playing a role of facilitator of your best selves. We will access each of your strengths to support your relationship goals. We will develop vital skills to support communication, self-advocacy, bold requests and more.

Relationships add beauty and complexity to our lives. The challenge often lies in understanding and honoring ourselves while striving to understand and honor our partner. Although it can be tempting to try and solve every issue on your own, in counseling I offer support, hope and insight to navigate conflicts and strengthen your intimacy.

I love providing couples counseling. I have had advanced training in the work of John Gottman, Dan Wile, and Harville Hendrix. I was involved in a two year training program for Imago Therapy. To me, nearly all couples need to find new ways to communicate so that conflict can bring them closer to each other.

There is no one-way to do relationship, though we often carry unspoken rules and legacies that may or may not fit who we are with our loved one(s). Sex, money, emotional labor, and parenting, are just a few places where we might get complacent or stuck. I have experience and interest in working with multicultural, and mixed-status partners. Special education in addressing sex and intimacy.

I am a trained Level II Gottman Method therapist and a Gottman 7 Principles Program Educator using the world-renowned Gottman relationship therapy. This method combines wisdom from 4 decades of research with over 3000 couples. I help you learn how to be in relationship with your partner using what is proven to actually work. See my webpage for more info: portlandstateofmind.com.

I am a Marriage & Family Therapist by education which looks at Family dynamics within context. This helps look at patterns, themes and find solutions!

I train both partners in meditation and mindfulness techniques so they learn to communicate without stress and use the relationship itself to enhance personal growth, awareness, and provide a lifelong spiritual path.

For the past eight years, I have worked with many couples on strengthening their relationship. We can work together on identifying the barriers that challenge your relationship and replacing them with behaviors that promote a positive fulfilling relationship.

Relationships are complicated and we often change as individuals when we decide to partner up. My goal with relationship therapy is to explore why we struggle with our partners and what individual needs should be met in order for us to have a successful partnership.

Everyone needs others in their life, yet everyone is unique. This can contribute to conflict and other difficulties. These difficulties can be most pronounced in romantic relationships and it's easy for bad habits of communication to lead to deep hurt. I want to help you understand your role in these dynamics in order to increase your ability to have successful and resilient bonds with others.

I help partners identify undesired ways of relating, communicate in healthier and more connecting ways, and make different choices in relating. I use experiential and emotionally-focused counseling approaches to help couples experience better understanding, empathy, and skills in connecting with each other.

I offer couples counseling to partners of all orientations and genders. Relationships are hard, and sometimes we need someone to help us hear and be heard. I establish firm ground rules and maintain them, making sure that everyone feels safe being vulnerable.

I am trained in Gottman therapy (level 2) and use this as my primary therapy with couples and non-monogamous relationships. This method has over a decade of research understanding what makes long-term relationships work. I find this to be a highly effective therapy for building better communication, deepening intimacy, and learning how to resolve conflicts.

I offer coaching for relationship decisions, or for other big decisions that you want to tackle as a team. The focus of our work will always be your decision situation. I will not try to change you or your partner, nor your relationship. Rather, we will work together to find creative solutions and achieve your goals.

Marriages can be tricky. I pull from 18 years of personal experience and having had parents that were married for 47 years before the passing of my mother. Marriages are also often damaged by addicts choices - infidelity, isolation, deception. I work to support and rebuild marriages with healthy individuals.

We depend on one another, and each relationship requires maintainance and care. Although you may feel otherwise or heard otherwise there is nothing wrong with seeking support because relationships are challenging and each presents there own set of rules, negotiations, and conflicts. I can help you navigate your relationships.

Advanced training in Emotion-Focused Couples Therapy

I have experience helping individuals reflect on their own relationship histories and acquire new skills.I have done work with couples and families throughout my career. I use a mixture of emotionally focused couples work, gottman research, attachment perspective and trauma informed work. I also have extensive experience helping couples in non-monagamous and other alternative style relationships.

Marital issues often arise when couples have to deal with a crisis or a loss of intimacy. Couples therapy can be a supportive place to address power issues, improve direct communication, and re-establish intimacy.

I help couples identify negative emotional interactional styles rather than assigning blame. One safety has strengthened, the underlying emotions or hurt, anger, fear, and sadness emerge that allow couples to more deeply communicate while re-establishing trust. With trust strengthened, we can negotiate differences, heal past wounds, and let go of disconnecting beliefs and attitudes.

I have specific training in couples therapy and communication theory, and use my experience to help you identify patterns of communication/interaction that are harmful to your relationship. I incorporate tools from Emotion-Focused Therapy and the Gottman Method to help you build the relationship that you desire.

Methods of treatment used are evidence-based, supported by research, and by the American Psychological Association (APA). Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy are highly effective in helping shift relationship issues, so are the main methods I use in working with clients.

Studying relationships and how to help couples repair and build satisfying partnerships is one of my current passions. When working with couples I help them identify past resentments and current problematic behaviors that damage the relationship. I then help couples process those resentments and facilitate behavior change in session.

I only work with ADHD-nonADHD impacted relationships. There is hope!

Intimacy and commitment are going through tremendous changes in our modern world. Our evolving roles and expectations are transforming how we understand partnership. Trained as a marriage & family therapist, I specialize in couples counseling for today’s complex relationships. I combine EFT and experiential methods to help couples explore vulnerable issues, communicate in new ways, and reconnect.

External integration coincides with internal integration. By focusing on differentiation we develop a more complete awareness of parts required for integration. To put the puzzle together, we first define the pieces and provide for individual needs, decreasing dependency and increasing mutual respect, freedom, and curiosity within the relationship.

Is your relationship changing? Are you at the point where you need to make a decision and have no idea where to begin? By working to explore and identify your needs and desires, you can move from being completely stuck to having clarity and peace. I can help you take that first step, whatever that step may be.

My hope is to understand what is contributing to the relational issues at hand. I've gained experience meeting with couples in private practice and community mental health. Relationships are a reality of life and my desire is for you to experience more satisfaction and enjoyment with others in your life. I have been trained in the Gottman Couples Therapy approach and apply it to our sessions.

I have training in emotionally-focused therapy, which helps couples recognize the painful pattern of fighting they get in repeatedly. This approach focuses on how to reconnect with your partner, enhancing the closeness you crave.

Experienced practice working with couples to resolve conflict based on communication and shared values

Would you like to set clearer boundaries in your relationships? Want to further your ability to communicate clearly and effectively? I teach skills for building healthy relationships and mutual empathy.

I frequently work with couples - gay, lesbian, trans, queer, straight - as they work to strengthen their relationship while also developing a greater sense of themselves and their individual identities. My post-graduate study has been based in the Family Systems approach.

Couples Counseling becomes a safe place where both you and your partner can find and rest in the deeper connection of the love you both share. Healthy committed relationships and marriages are about balancing connection & intimacy with independence & autonomy. Ideally, each influences and helps the other. Couples therapy helps to achieve this balance in your relationship.

Couples choose to work with me for many reasons, but my approach particularly aligns with couples who have concerns related to failing to connect and/or understand your partner, navigating differing values, personalities and habits, two-career households, co-habitating, work/life balance, thinking about and/or making a long-term commitment, and life transitions such as the addition of a new child.

Relationships hold our greatest learnings and help us to know ourselves more fully. Through them we get to experience love, joy, excitement, but also pain, conflict, and confusion. With my experience facilitating relationship conflict, both individual and two-party, I find there is a trove of valuable information in all that arises, which we will use to heal old dynamics and seed new growth.

My passion is helping people build strong, healthy systems of communication in their relationships. All relationships have strengths, weaknesses, and patterns of communication. At different points in time, these patterns can feel negative or frustrating, leaving couples feeling stuck and distant. I am here to help re-establish healthy patterns and increased satisfaction in your relationship.

In my work with couples I use two most researched evidence-based approaches Gottman method and Emotionally-Focused therapy.

Interpersonal communication is the process by which people exchange information, feelings, and meaning through verbal and non-verbal messages: it is face-to-face communication. Interpersonal communication is not just about what is actually said but how it is said and the non-verbal messages sent through tone of voice, facial expressions, gestures and body language.

Our current struggles are often rooted in our earliest attachment relationships. These early patterns live in our body, in how we perceive and interact. By attuning to these patterns in a collaborative and compassionate way, we can learn how to rewire them and discover renewed resilience and ease.

Struggles in relationships often have to do with individual stories and histories that are interfering in the present. Therapy can help couples find clarity when navigating an impasse, when trying to decide whether a relationship should continue, and can be effective when a relationship has lost its spark and there is a desire to enliven intimacy and connection.

I hold a Master's Degree in Couples, Marriage, and Family Therapy. Relationship issues are my area of specialization. I work with you in addressing the relationship challenges you face, understanding the underlying emotions, and building strategies for healthier communication.

I believe that we are conceived in relationship and continue to move in, out, and through relationships our entire lives. These relationships teach us how to love, how to hurt, how to learn, how to exist in our bodies, how to judge and hold prejudice, how to forgive. They can bring. I am a dedicated relationship counselor and have pursued specific additional training for working with couples.

I approach this work by identifying patterns of interaction couples find themselves stuck in. Work includes focusing on understanding the needs of the other and learning to appreciate the differences. Work around infidelity consists of determining relationship commitment, examining the dynamics of the relationship before the affair, and rebuilding the trust of the hurt partner.

Extensive experience and training in relationship issues and tools related to improving relationship.

Years of doing therapy with couples

My professional career has been devoted to the mystery of what it takes to have great relationships. After all, what is more important in life? I have trained intensively with John Gottman and Dan Wile, widely recognized experts in this field, and can help you quickly switch from ineffective to effective habits and behaviors, to bring you the loving relationship you deserve.

I use techniques from attachment theory and mindfulness-based therapy to work with the underlying issues in a relationship. When attachment is getting the attention it needs, other issues can be problem-solved.

The good news is that you can heal and learn healthy ways to interrelate. I will provide a safe and nurturing space for you to explore your own needs and desires. I will assist you in creating healthy boundaries to take care of yourself. You will learn to respectfully listen and trust yourself so you can create and be part of relationships that support you.

In my work with couples, I work primarily from a model called Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (often referred to simply as “EFT”). What I love about this model, simply put, is that it works. EFT has been well researched and has been demonstrated to be very effective with couples to facilitate lasting change.

I work from the Gottman Method of couples therapy, which is research based and tested and considered by many in the field, the most effective roadmap for helping relationships to become stable and happy.

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