Relationship / Marriage Issues
Occasionally, fights and conflict within a relationship or marriage are a fact of life. But when the conflicts in your relationship are threatening your health and wellbeing, it may be time to seek help. Most relationship problems are caused, at least in part, by communication difficulties. Seeing a mental health professional with your partner can help you develop strategies to improve your overall happiness and communication or target a specific conflict like anger, infidelity, money, sex, or household duties. Marriage counseling can also help you and your partner reach an informed decision when considering divorce. Seeing a therapist for premarital counseling can also be very beneficial and help you and your partner work through any major differences and set reasonable and healthy expectations for your marriage.
Local Experts in Relationship / Marriage Issues
I have both the training and clinical experience to treat issues related to relationships, including interpersonal conflict, difficulty maintaining connections, problems with intimacy, sexual dysfunction, and divorce.
In my work with couples I use two most researched evidence-based approaches Gottman method and Emotionally-Focused therapy.
Relationships are a journey of navigating personal and shared life experience. I believe that couples are strengthened when they can address their difficulties, work towards a place of flexibility, and allow each individual to be themselves. I approach couples therapy as an opportunity for couples to learn about each other and to develop a shared vision of what they want their relationship to be.
I have completed Sue Johnson\'s Emotionally Focused Therapy Externship and continue to take advantage of ongoing training with Portland\'s local EFT Trainer Sharon Chatkupt Lee.
Relationships are fluid and ever changing. I work with couples and families identifying more effective ways to communicate and deal with conflicts. Conflicts are viewed as a means of asserting the need for balance in our personal and relational life. When these needs are communicated all parties involved work toward a compromise that is considerate of this balance.
Nothing saps the joy from life more than relationship conflict. I love having the opportunity to help couples hear each other, to see the relationship from each other's perspective and recognize the need to work together.
Relationships are the foundation of life. They are also where our greatest struggles arise. It is this complexity that can overwhelm and confuse us and entice us to lean on dysfunctional patterns. Through an exploration of present and past experiences, I make use of experiential modalities to create new experiences that allow for an expanded sense of what is possible in relationship.
My training and background is in marriage, couples, and family therapy through Lewis and Clark. This training includes looking at concerns and patterns of interactions through a systemic lens and supporting all parties in addressing concerns and communicating needs.
I have worked with relationships for most of my career and am passionate about the work. I focus on increasing awareness for interactional patterns, power dynamics, impact of trauma, attachment issues, and improved communication.
Training in Gottman Couples Therapy
The good news is that you can heal and learn healthy ways to interrelate. I will provide a safe and nurturing space for you to explore your own needs and desires. I will assist you in creating healthy boundaries to take care of yourself. You will learn to respectfully listen and trust yourself so you can create and be part of relationships that support you.
One of the most frightening prospects to many of us is exposing our true feelings to an intimate partner. Will I hurt them or be hurt? Our pasts often dictate what we feel allowed to expect from others. Opening space for our most acute sensitivities, we can seek to create secure attachments by acknowledging the underlying emotional vulnerability we tend to keep hidden from ourselves and others.
Being in close relationships often brings us the most joyful and yet challenging/hurtful experiences we may ever have. Many of us have big expectations, yet little training--high hopes yet heavy baggage from the past. Good relationships require skills that can be learned. I use Emotionally Focused Therapy combined with somatic-based approaches so couples may deepen love and connection.
I have treated individuals and couples with relationship issues for over twenty five years.
During our sessions we will review what is working and what is not working. We will identify your negative interaction cycle in the relationships, and take steps to break it down and improve it. I am trained in Emotional Focused Couples Therapy, through Edwards Psychotherapy. I also weave in Gottman strategies to build support. EFT Couples Therapy is highly regarded and extremely effective.
As a counselor trained specifically in couples, marriage, and family therapy, I specialize in relationship counseling. I support couples from the early stages in premarital counseling, all the way through the lifecycle of a relationship, potentially including divorce counseling.
Are you wondering if the relationship you are in will work out? Do you feel there are issues that you secretly wonder about, but you just don\'t know how to tell your partner? Has it been a while since your sex life has resembled anything you want it to? I can help you and your partner identify stuck patterns of functioning and communication, explore and heal past wounds and create positive change.
Couple's Therapy can be sought for a multitude of reasons and one member of the couple may be more in favor than the other to seek out professional help. This is not unusual. I work with couples who are dating, married, same-sex, separating, divorcing, co-parenting-I believe that relationships are 'co-created' by the influence of each partner on the other and on the couplehood of the relationship.
I work from the Gottman Method of couples therapy, which is research based and tested and considered by many in the field, the most effective roadmap for helping relationships to become stable and happy.
Relationship difficulties often start small and we try not to notice them. At some point they become unavoidable and we have choices to make. There is hope for your relationship, you can change patterns and perceptions and find joy again.
I have studied relationship research and have extra training from the Gottman Institute, completing the Level 1 Training for Gottman Relationship Counseling. I have also been a Gottman Bringing Baby Home Educator since 2013. Their research based and research tested methods show a high success rate for couples involved in this specific type of counseling.
I work with couples in any stage of commitment, whether you are dating, contemplating longterm commitment or marriage, need separation counseling for the wellbeing of children, or are in polyamorous relationships.
Relationships are complex. They require a lot of care & maintenance. I draw experience from my own 20+ years of marriage as well as facilitate couples forums where developing communication, connection, respect & strengthening the partnership are key. I have worked with couples that are dating, recently married, remarried couples, 'empty nest' couples, and same sex partners.
Skilled and compassionate, I will help you build trust, deepen connections and improve communication.
I have attended training in Emotionally Focused Therapy in Seattle, NYC, and Portland. I have attended trainings by both Dr. Les Greenberg and Dr. Susan Johnson, author of Hold Me Tight, I am also familiar with the Gottman model.
I approach this work by identifying patterns of interaction couples find themselves stuck in. Work includes focusing on understanding the needs of the other and learning to appreciate the differences. Work around infidelity consists of determining relationship commitment, examining the dynamics of the relationship before the affair, and rebuilding the trust of the hurt partner.
Years of doing therapy with couples
I am here to come alongside you in your marriage, family, career, and social relationships. Within our therapeutic relationship, we will integrate your mind, body, culture, and spiritual makeup, to assist you to gain a better understanding of your experiences, and work with you for healing. My approach is through intersubjectivity (IS) and emotion focused therapy (EFT), helping to guide you.
I have specific training in couples therapy and communication theory, and use my experience to help you identify patterns of communication/interaction that are harmful to your relationship. I incorporate tools from Emotion-Focused Therapy and the Gottman Method to help you build the relationship that you desire.
One of the techniques I use in counseling couples is EFT: Emotionally Focused Therapy. EFT has been shown to decrease fights and loneliness, increase affection and intimacy, and rebuild levels of trust after betrayal. You will grow into a deeper level of safety and trust, caring and respect.
There are countless models of healthy romantic relationships, from monogamous to polyamorous, and unique variations between partners. The scripts for dating and longterm relationships of previous generations may not be applicable to your relationship. But there is psychological research that shows that you can learn skills to create the conditions for healthy relationships.
My hope is to understand what is contributing to the relational issues at hand. I've gained experience meeting with couples in private practice and community mental health. Relationships are a reality of life and my desire is for you to experience more satisfaction and enjoyment with others in your life. I have been trained in the Gottman Couples Therapy approach and apply it to our sessions.
Marriages can be tricky. I pull from 18 years of personal experience and having had parents that were married for 47 years before the passing of my mother. Marriages are also often damaged by addicts choices - infidelity, isolation, deception. I work to support and rebuild marriages with healthy individuals.
I have worked with couples and families throughout my career. I have experience with crisis management, when couples are experiencing acute marital issues, and general problem solving for on-going concerns. I have a special interest in working with couples who have already been married to other people and are experiencing discord after combining their families.
Relationships are complicated and we often change as individuals when we decide to partner up. My goal with relationship therapy is to explore why we struggle with our partners and what individual needs should be met in order for us to have a successful partnership.
As a student of Terry Real\'s Relational Living, I embrace the principals of building and practicing respectful relationships, which often is learning to improve communication skills. Learning what you grew up in from your own family of origin suggests where some of the unhealthier attitudes grew out of.
Couples choose to work with me for many reasons, but my approach particularly aligns with couples who have concerns related to failing to connect and/or understand your partner, navigating differing values, personalities and habits, two-career households, co-habitating, work/life balance, thinking about and/or making a long-term commitment, and life transitions such as the addition of a new child.
I use attachment-orientated techniques from EFT and Gottman Method to help couples restore connection, goodwill, feel more loved/loving and handle disagreements more skillfully.
There is no perfect marriage/relationship, but there are interpersonal and communication skills that can be honed to manifest a healthier marriage/relationship for you and possibly your children. I am an excellent facilitator who can guide you through pre-marital counseling, marriage counseling, blending families, co-parenting, infidelity, sexual dysfunction etc.
How we experience our closest relationships can effect how we feel and behave. Feeling connected in our personal and romantic relationships can provide a sense of sanctuary and support in our lives, however when things go wrong we feel feelings that can be overwhelming. Increasing intimacy, experiencing feelings , finding new skills, and using open communication are my focus with couples.
My work is focused on the many ways we prevent intimacy and genuine connection with one another due to internal and external obstacles. I also specialize in sexual issues among couples. Along with my colleague, Gillian Chachere, I also provide a unique, integrative, co-facilitated approach to couples counseling. Learn more here: https://kerrycohenhoffmann.wixsite.com/icct
We want freedom and intimacy. We want to feel like we’re at home and at the same time we want spontaneity. We want the security of deeply knowing someone but we’re afraid to let that person in. We seek everything from one person that a whole village used to provide. There are plenty of reasons why you might be feeling unsatisfied or hurt or betrayed or all of the of the above in your relationship.
I have completed Level One of Stan Tatkin's PACT model of couples therapy and I'm currently in Level Two. This model supports couples to move towards a secure functioning relationship that is based on mutuality and connection. The focus of this model is on attachment theory, developmental neuroscience, and arousal regulation.
Relationship in work, family, or life can be central to our well being. I work with people who face challenge in finding or leaving a partner / spouse; who seek a stronger relationship with boss / co-workers; and with family members and others in life.
It is important for couple to have a place where they can identify patterns that may be disruptive to the relationship. A place where positive both parties can be heard and communication can be strengthened.
Studying relationships and how to help couples repair and build satisfying partnerships is one of my current passions. When working with couples I help them identify past resentments and current problematic behaviors that damage the relationship. I then help couples process those resentments and facilitate behavior change in session.
I have worked with many couples of all orientations to learn now to communicate and build a better life together. Here are some topics I work with most often: Navigating the path to intimacy, Effectively sharing and communicating emotions, Creating romance between best friends, Juggling career, children, and intimacy, Being vulnerable , and Building and repairing the safety of trust
For couples, my work will be focused on bringing you together around the strengths of your relationship. Within the hectic lives we lead, couples often struggle to communicate about their individual needs. Over time this leads to patterns of behavior between loving people that can spiral out of control. We will work to identify those patterns and stop them in their tracks.
Struggles in relationships often have to do with individual stories and histories that are interfering in the present. Therapy can help couples find clarity when navigating an impasse, when trying to decide whether a relationship should continue, and can be effective when a relationship has lost its spark and there is a desire to enliven intimacy and connection.
Has a previously fluid and easy connection dissolved into fighting, blaming, emotional disconnection, or indifference? Differences in values causing stress or resentment? Wanting to reestablish intimacy and closeness? I have specialized training to help couples and individuals break patterns that cause fighting, improve communication, and strengthen connection.
I have worked with couples, as well as polyamorous/open relationships for more than 10 years and have completed related trainings.
My education through graduate school at Lewis and Clark College was specific to working with couples and families and I am trained as a marriage and couples counselor. I work frequently with couples on a variety of issues including infidelity, conflict and premarital counseling.
Co-dependency, narcissistic abuse, survivors of domestic abuse, divorce/break ups. Relationship improvement.
I am a trained Level II Gottman Method therapist and a Gottman 7 Principles Program Educator using the world-renowned Gottman relationship therapy. This method combines wisdom from 4 decades of research with over 3000 couples. I help you learn how to be in relationship with your partner using what is proven to actually work. See my webpage for more info: portlandstateofmind.com.
Relationships are tough and rewarding. There are ups and downs that we might never have expected when we fell in love and decided to become a couple. I have training in marriage and family therapy , as well as, completing the level 1 and level 2 Gottman Marriage Counseling training.
Often times, coping skills that were helpful earlier in life become patterned ways of relating. While these can continue to serve us in certain situations, they can also get in the way of connecting meaningfully or can lead to conflict with those we love. In counseling, we can explore those patterns together and develop and practice new ways of relating and connecting.
I am trained and experienced in a variety of approaches to relationship and marital issues, including anger, cruelty, withholding, infidelity, sexual problems, addictions, trauma and emotional reactivity.
I have a focus on Non-Monogamous or open relationships. These partnerships can be difficult to navigate. Despite intentions, jealousy, fear and difficulties with self worth can easily be present. Often, understanding support can be difficult to find.
I have a lifetime of experience, both personal and professional, with helping couples work through relationship issues. Struggling with communication, thinking about divorce/breaking up, or just fighting a lot? I can help.
I specialize in couples therapy. I have received extensive training and supervision in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy. My caseload is comprised primarily of couples.