Relationship / Marriage Issues

Occasionally, fights and conflict within a relationship or marriage are a fact of life.  But when the conflicts in your relationship are threatening your health and wellbeing, it may be time to seek help. Most relationship problems are caused, at least in part, by communication difficulties.  Seeing a mental health professional with your partner can help you develop strategies to improve your overall happiness and communication or target a specific conflict like anger, infidelity, money, sex, or household duties.  Marriage counseling can also help you and your partner reach an informed decision when considering divorce. Seeing a therapist for premarital counseling can also be very beneficial and help you and your partner work through any major differences and set reasonable and healthy expectations for your marriage.

Local Experts in Relationship / Marriage Issues

As a Marriage and Family Therapist, I place high value in relationships. Identifying and removing barriers to connection is foundational in working on relationships in therapy. It is important to understand where the barriers have come from to assure they do not reappear later. This work is for anyone in any stage of relationship, ranging from dating to divorced and co-parenting.

Relationships are the color in our lives. When they are going well, we tend to live healthier, longer, and more satisfied lives. I use Emotional Focused Therapy in working with couples.

We want freedom and intimacy. We want to feel like we’re at home and at the same time we want spontaneity. We want the security of deeply knowing someone but we’re afraid to let that person in. We seek everything from one person that a whole village used to provide. There are plenty of reasons why you might be feeling unsatisfied or hurt or betrayed or all of the of the above in your relationship.

Couples often come to therapy with the goal of improving patterns of conflict in their relationships and increasing their intimacy and connection with their partners. My work with couples incorporates behavioral interventions (CBT), emotionally-focused techniques, mindfulness (ACT, DBT) and attachment theory to help clients build healthier relationships.

Relationship and marriage issues repeatedly surface in the clinical areas I specialize in (adoption, infertility, post-partum adjustment, post-traumatic stress). I see relationship challenges as opportunities to deepen into existential questions and desires for more authentic self-expression.

I work with clients who are dealing with relationship or marital problems through Gottman Relationship Therapy tools and training experience. This approach is very successful in helping people get beyond their complaints and find a sense of renewed admiration and love with their partners.

Relationships...the most complex of psychological work. My work with couples is geared to conscious living. I work with people on building healthy interactional patterns, in communication, affection and needs fulfillment. Giving clients tools to stop destructive patterns and develop patterns of connection and trust.

Misunderstandings, disappointments, and the pressures of life can result in distance and conflict between loved ones. Relationship counseling can improve already strong relationships, or surface and address problems in conflictual ones. I can help your family navigate through challenges that seem too difficult to handle on your own.

External integration coincides with internal integration. By focusing on differentiation we develop a more complete awareness of parts required for integration. To put the puzzle together, we first define the pieces and provide for individual needs, decreasing dependency and increasing mutual respect, freedom, and curiosity within the relationship.

Relationships are complex. They require a lot of care & maintenance. I draw experience from my own 20+ years of marriage as well as facilitate couples forums where developing communication, connection, respect & strengthening the partnership are key. I have worked with couples that are dating, recently married, remarried couples, 'empty nest' couples, and same sex partners.

My therapy practice is focused on building and sustaining meaningful and mutually empowering connection. I am trained in relational cultural therapy as well as emotionally-focused couples therapy. I can work with you on relationship and marriage issues either as an individual, or coming in with your partner(s).

I have extensive experience working with couples and/or individuals dealing with relationship and marital issues. My analytic training with both attachment and relational theories provide the theoretical and technical skills that enable me to tailor a treatment approach that matches the individual or couple\'s needs. I am currently seeking consultation to expand my knowledge and skill level.

Relationships are the foundation of life. They are also where our greatest struggles arise. It is this complexity that can overwhelm and confuse us and entice us to lean on dysfunctional patterns. Through an exploration of present and past experiences, I make use of experiential modalities to create new experiences that allow for an expanded sense of what is possible in relationship.

I generally work with individuals, but what we talk about is their relationships. Like it or not how people related to us in our early life generally continues to impact our adult relating until we can recognize patterns & learn to manage the flood of emotions that can erupt when we are with the people you love most. Let\'s work together to repair old & more recent relationships.

Gottman method, communication patterns, conflict resolution, restoring closeness and partnership, adapting to children, intimacy

Integral psychotherapy encourages an individual's investment in intimate relationships, understanding that an individual's well-being is often correlated to the wholesomeness of their social environment. I work with individuals to develop the communication skills, self-efficacy, and coherence to work towards establishing intimate relationships that are healthy and feel meaningful.

Supporting multiple family members (adult siblings, parent/child, couples) in resolving conflict and increasing a sense of emotional safety and connection.

My training is exclusively on couples and relationship work. In addition, I have experience working with the following issues affection couples: sexuality, polyamory and non-monogramy, parenting, infidelity and addictions.

I've worked with couples--both in relationship and marriage--for years, combining elements of Emotion Focused Therapy, Imago Relationship Therapy, and the Gottman Method in order to provide a compassionate yet pragmatic approach.

I work with couples on issues such as addiction, affairs, premarital counseling, and general couple conflict. Through my training in the research-based Gottman Couples Therapy, I can help you to become better friends, offer you tools to manage conflict more effectively, and assist you in creating ways to support each other’s hopes for the future.

One of the techniques I use in counseling couples is EFT: Emotionally Focused Therapy. EFT has been shown to decrease fights and loneliness, increase affection and intimacy, and rebuild levels of trust after betrayal. You will grow into a deeper level of safety and trust, caring and respect.

I have attended training in Emotionally Focused Therapy in Seattle, NYC, and Portland. I have attended trainings by both Dr. Les Greenberg and Dr. Susan Johnson, author of Hold Me Tight, I am also familiar with the Gottman model.

We are social creatures and thus we have a multitude of relationships of all sorts in our lives. I am very helpful with marriage and romantic relationship issues as well as with any interpersonal relationships (friends, bosses, relatives, acquaintances) that have become problematic.

I value and enjoy helping people create and maintain happy supportive relationships in which they can be at their best. I work with same-gender and male-female relationships as well as parent-child, sibling and work relationships. I have training in Gottman and other approaches such as dialogue. In relationship work, I am directive and support the relationship as my client where possible.

I am trained in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy and I lean heavily on John Gottman's work to help move couples from the hopelessness of stuck patterns (fighting cycles, disconnection) to the empowerment of learning new skills to reclaim health and love in the relationship.

My goal in couples counseling is never about taking sides; it is about helping you each to understand each other better. I help couples restore the strength back to their relationships, by giving you the practical and realistic tools to use when your not in the therapy room.

Every relationship experiences ebbs and flows, and while some degree of conflict is normal, at times it can get to a point where it seems impossible to solve it on your own. This is where a couples therapist can help. As a trained marriage and family therapist, I will help you better understand one another and reconnect to the love and excitement that made you fall in love in the first place.

I'm not interested in picking sides or looking for blame. If your relationship isn't going well, I think that you both have played a role in contributing to the disfunction overall. I'd want to help identify and clarify the negative dynamic between the two of you and help you both find new ways of relating so that each of you can experience more trust, openness, communication and understanding.

I have worked with couples and families throughout my career. I have experience with crisis management, when couples are experiencing acute marital issues, and general problem solving for on-going concerns. I have a special interest in working with couples who have already been married to other people and are experiencing discord after combining their families.

Relationship is a path that demands humility and courage. Because the oldest and deepest wounds tend to surface in connection with a committed partner, it is here that you have the opportunity to bring deep healing. I have trained in the Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy (PACT), incorporating attachment work with functional neurobiology to offer you support toward healthy relationship.

Whether it be issues with friends, siblings, parents, children, or within a couple, navigating one's needs and boundaries within a relationship requires attention and work. Learning to speak in ways that are more likely to get your needs met and developing new ways of responding to others is a primary focus.

I primarily help individual women to enhance their intimate relationships by teaching them communication skills they can use with their partners, even if those partners are unwilling to participate in therapy. I also offer couples therapy on a case by case basis to highly motivated couples.

Communication breakdown? Infidelity? Addiction problems? Work/Play balance off? These things can push us to the brink when life is already stressful. What you need is someone who has been there and can guide the process naturally. I am confident that together we can create lasting changes in your most intimate relationship using a few simple principles.

I have training in emotionally-focused therapy, which helps couples recognize the painful pattern of fighting they get in repeatedly. This approach focuses on how to reconnect with your partner, enhancing the closeness you crave.

In our individual or couples counseling sessions you can learn: How to communicate your needs to your partner in a more effective way; What are your spouse’s triggers and how do you use this knowledge to prevent fights and also learn to repair the damage when things go awry; How to treat your partner with compassion and empathy to foster greater understanding, respect, and acceptance.

Relationships can be challenging. I can help you to improve communication skills.

I offer coaching for relationship decisions, or for other big decisions that you want to tackle as a team. The focus of our work will always be your decision situation. I will not try to change you or your partner, nor your relationship. Rather, we will work together to find creative solutions and achieve your goals.

My foundation as a therapist is all relational. When we are stuck in ourselves, we are stuck in our relationships, and vice versa. I have a lot of specific trainings in couples work to help open up emotional dynamics so that places that feel tight, restricted and even hopeless can begin to open and change .

I draw on Crucible® Therapy [ http://crucibletherapy.com/approach-marital-sexual-therapy ] and Integrative Body Psychotherapy to support couples to feel healthy differentiation, embodied presence & vulnerability in intimacy, & to engage in healthy communication to increase honesty and authenticity. I support each partner to be responsible for their own experience, freeing up the relational dynamic

Marital issues often arise when couples have to deal with a crisis or a loss of intimacy. Couples therapy can be a supportive place to address power issues, improve direct communication, and re-establish intimacy.

Training in Gottman Couples Therapy

I am here to come alongside you in your marriage, family, career, and social relationships. Within our therapeutic relationship, we will integrate your mind, body, culture, and spiritual makeup, to assist you to gain a better understanding of your experiences, and work with you for healing. My approach is through intersubjectivity (IS) and emotion focused therapy (EFT), helping to guide you.

If you have every thought “we could never see a couple’s therapist, all we would do is argue the whole time”; then you are in the right place. I help combative couples begin to explore the emotions, thoughts and beliefs behind the arguing and yelling.

Love demands the reassurance of touch. Most fights are really protests over emotional disconnection. Underneath the distress, partners are desperate to know: Are you there for me?\nBy Sue Johnson, published on January 01, 2009

Relationships are a journey of navigating personal and shared life experience. I believe that couples are strengthened when they can address their difficulties, work towards a place of flexibility, and allow each individual to be themselves. I approach couples therapy as an opportunity for couples to learn about each other and to develop a shared vision of what they want their relationship to be.

I work with women who would like to develop greater emotional intimacy in their close relationships. I help women feel more solid inside themselves, so they can speak their truth, and recognize their needs as legitimate. We increase awareness of old patterns that get in the way of authenticity & closeness. We explore how vulnerability creates connection and is fundamental to emotional intimacy.

Nothing saps the joy from life more than relationship conflict. I love having the opportunity to help couples hear each other, to see the relationship from each other's perspective and recognize the need to work together.

Couples and family members are first trained in very basic active listening skills. Each client is then given 30 minutes to express their feelings, opinions and beliefs, while the other client responds using only active listening. Along with ensuring both clients adhere to the format and time limits, the therapist\'s role is to remain objective while pointing out behavioral observations.

I focus on understanding the underlying issues that may be contributed to current problems in relationships. I help my clients gain understanding and skills to communicate better and deal with conflict more effectively.

I have significant educational and training experiences in Couples Therapy, Attachment, Family Systems and Family of Origin therapies. I have treated many couples dealing with relationship and marital issues.

When relationships become more difficult or unfulfilling, talking with a therapist can enable the couple to make changes. Improvement in communication and feeling connected to one another are reasonable goals for therapy.

Trained as a marriage and family therapist, I specialize in relationship counseling. My approach is based in emotion-focused, family systems and Gottman principles, and our work provides a safe space for each of you to express yourself in new ways, using dynamic, in-the-room exercises to help interrupt hurtful patterns and create momentum towards a healthier partnership.

I am a Gottman Seven Principles trained educator and have completed the Gottman Level 1 couples training. Additionally, I have and continue to participate in graduate education and professional development in Interpersonal Neurobiology (IPNB). I incorporate the Gottman Method, IPNB, and Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT) in my work with couples.

Methods of treatment used are evidence-based, supported by research, and by the American Psychological Association (APA). Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy are highly effective in helping shift relationship issues, so are the main methods I use in working with clients.

None of us comes to any relationship in our lives unencumbered by what has gone before. Relationships can be so tricky because the complex system of one brain and personality and family meets another complex system. Relationships offer our best hope of feeling truly seen and understood by another. I would like to support you in your path to increased connection and safety.

I use attachment-orientated techniques from EFT and Gottman Method to help couples restore connection, goodwill, feel more loved/loving and handle disagreements more skillfully.

I have specific training in couples therapy and communication theory, and use my experience to help you identify patterns of communication/interaction that are harmful to your relationship. I incorporate tools from Emotion-Focused Therapy and the Gottman Method to help you build the relationship that you desire.

Partner relationships are SO very important in our lives. These relationships offer us the opportunity to grow and evolve as people and find the kind of connections and love that are life sustaining. For that very reason, they are also often the HARDEST relationships! I can help you and your partner work through the challenges and find the connection underneath.

As a counselor trained specifically in couples, marriage, and family therapy, I specialize in relationship counseling. I support couples from the early stages in premarital counseling, all the way through the lifecycle of a relationship, potentially including divorce counseling.

Communication is often a road block to a satisfying relationship. Understanding what you and your partners attachment style is can be eye opening. Whatever your issue in your relationship is, gaining perspective on how best to speak to your partner so they can hear you is a powerful beginning.

During our sessions we will review what is working and what is not working. We will identify your negative interaction cycle in the relationships, and take steps to break it down and improve it. I am trained in Emotional Focused Couples Therapy, through Edwards Psychotherapy. I also weave in Gottman strategies to build support. EFT Couples Therapy is highly regarded and extremely effective.

Often times, coping skills that were helpful earlier in life become patterned ways of relating. While these can continue to serve us in certain situations, they can also get in the way of connecting meaningfully or can lead to conflict with those we love. In counseling, we can explore those patterns together and develop and practice new ways of relating and connecting.

Relationships can be the most heart breaking, complicated and rewarding parts of our lives. Whether you are fresh out of a break up, ambivalent about the future of your relationship, unsure of how to find and connect with someone or just confused about the feelings that are coming up for you, I can help.

Couples Counseling becomes a safe place where both you and your partner can find and rest in the deeper connection of the love you both share. Healthy committed relationships and marriages are about balancing connection & intimacy with independence & autonomy. Ideally, each influences and helps the other. Couples therapy helps to achieve this balance in your relationship.

I work with couples at various stages in their relationship. Couples counseling is hard work and I am honored to join forces with couples to help them heal, find strength and calm, and move forward in the best way for them. I like to pull from John Gottman and Sue Johnson’s work with couples.

I have experience helping individuals reflect on their own relationship histories and acquire new skills.I have done work with couples and families throughout my career. I use a mixture of emotionally focused couples work, gottman research, attachment perspective and trauma informed work. I also have extensive experience helping couples in non-monagamous and other alternative style relationships.

In addition to formal education working with couples and families, I have experience helping couples through relational and family concerns. I help partners identify when an undesired way of relating is happening, communicate in healthier and more connecting ways, and make different choices in relating. I am also completing a Marriage and Family Counseling Certificate at Portland State.

The difference between a quality interaction and a disconnected experience can result in either a sense of passion and enthusiasm or feelings of defeat and frustration. In uncertain times, when we seem to stand alienated from the meaning of life itself, remains a shining beacon that illuminates the path to growth-fostering relationships.

I have studied extensively the work of Susan Johnson and Les Greenberg, who are important figures in the field of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy. This theory looks at negative reaction patterns as they relate to the underlying experience of attachment. I find it to be the most effective approach that I've applied in my work with couples

I love working with couples, especially couples with children. We naturally shift between issues that come up in the marriage and issues that come up with the kids.

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