Relationship / Marriage Issues

Occasionally, fights and conflict within a relationship or marriage are a fact of life.  But when the conflicts in your relationship are threatening your health and wellbeing, it may be time to seek help. Most relationship problems are caused, at least in part, by communication difficulties.  Seeing a mental health professional with your partner can help you develop strategies to improve your overall happiness and communication or target a specific conflict like anger, infidelity, money, sex, or household duties.  Marriage counseling can also help you and your partner reach an informed decision when considering divorce. Seeing a therapist for premarital counseling can also be very beneficial and help you and your partner work through any major differences and set reasonable and healthy expectations for your marriage.

Local Experts in Relationship / Marriage Issues

I have been a student, teacher, trainer, and practitioner of family of origin theory and practice for 32 years. Couples get stuck in repetitive ,circular, damaging interactions that reflect often unmet childhood needs and unfinished business with family. I have seen couples move forward once they are able to understand this dynamic and unhook from reactivity.

I have completed Sue Johnson\'s Emotionally Focused Therapy Externship and continue to take advantage of ongoing training with Portland\'s local EFT Trainer Sharon Chatkupt Lee.

During our sessions we will review what is working and what is not working. We will identify your negative interaction cycle in the relationships, and take steps to break it down and improve it. I am trained in Emotional Focused Couples Therapy, through Edwards Psychotherapy. I also weave in Gottman strategies to build support. EFT Couples Therapy is highly regarded and extremely effective.

Relationship issues repeatedly surface in the clinical areas I specialize in (pregnancy, parenting, infertility, post-partum adjustment, dating, divorce). I also specialize in issues related to sexuality, for more info visit www.areyoucoming.net.

I frequently work with couples - gay, lesbian, trans, queer, straight - as they work to strengthen their relationship while also developing a greater sense of themselves and their individual identities. My post-graduate study has been based in the Family Systems approach.

I work with couples at all stages to facilitate secure, lasting bonds and find creative solutions for deeper and more fulfilling relationships. We will reinforce any preexisting positive bonds, identifying negative patterns in the relationships, establishing realistic ways to solve problems, expanding emotional awareness, and finding new ways to increase security, closeness and connection.

I believe that we are conceived in relationship and continue to move in, out, and through relationships our entire lives. These relationships teach us how to love, how to hurt, how to learn, how to exist in our bodies, how to judge and hold prejudice, how to forgive. They can bring. I am a dedicated relationship counselor and have pursued specific additional training for working with couples.

So many of our challenges are rooted in our relationships with our romantic partners. Our romantic relationships are often our most precious, triggering, rewarding and conflict-laden relationships. Many of our conflicts in these relationships will never be resolved. We must learn to support our partners toward their greatest selves and vice-versa.

Relationship difficulties often start small and we try not to notice them. At some point they become unavoidable and we have choices to make. There is hope for your relationship, you can change patterns and perceptions and find joy again.

My work with couples is very different from traditional couples work. Instead of seeing each other as the problem and trying to convince the other you are right and they are wrong, I am helping you shift into seeing each other as a team working together against the problem. It is not about I statement, it is about understanding and making meaning together.

I hold a Master's Degree in Couples, Marriage, and Family Therapy. Relationship issues are my area of specialization. I work with you in addressing the relationship challenges you face, understanding the underlying emotions, and building strategies for healthier communication.

Couple's Therapy can be sought for a multitude of reasons and one member of the couple may be more in favor than the other to seek out professional help. This is not unusual. I work with couples who are dating, married, same-sex, separating, divorcing, co-parenting-I believe that relationships are 'co-created' by the influence of each partner on the other and on the couplehood of the relationship.

I thoroughly enjoy helping couples move from pain and isolation to joy and connection. I have specific training and expertise working with couples and work collaboratively with you to deescalate negative cycles, restructure and rebuild trust, and practice strengthening the emotional bond. Please note that I do not accept insurance for couples work.

Every relationship experiences ebbs and flows, and while some degree of conflict is normal, at times it can get to a point where it seems impossible to solve it on your own. This is where a couples therapist can help. As a trained marriage and family therapist, I will help you better understand one another and reconnect to the love and excitement that made you fall in love in the first place.

Over time, we can lose the connection with our partner that brought us together in the first place. We become emotionally distant and out of touch with each other. By using emotion focused and non-violent communication, I strive to help you strengthen your connection to each other and deepen your relationship.

In my work with couples, I work primarily from a model called Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (often referred to simply as “EFT”). What I love about this model, simply put, is that it works. EFT has been well researched and has been demonstrated to be very effective with couples to facilitate lasting change.

Couples therapy is my practice speciality. Without a doubt my work with couples informs my personal relationship and vise versa. This reflexive quality invigorates me and keeps our work together alive and present. Because of my enthusiasm, I fly down to Oakland, California regularly to attend consultation seminars with Dan Wile, Ph.D. the originator of Collaborative Couple Therapy.

Extensive experience and training in relationship issues and tools related to improving relationship.

I help couples build the communication skills they need to respectfully resolve their conflicts while building emotional intimacy.

So much of our lived experience affects the way we can relate to each other, and how safe we feel being connected to others. If you are feeling lonely, disconnected, resentful, or frustrated in your interpersonal connections, this work can be an amazing space to uncover what you might need to feel safe and connected again.

I have training in emotionally-focused therapy, which helps couples recognize the painful pattern of fighting they get in repeatedly. This approach focuses on how to reconnect with your partner, enhancing the closeness you crave.

Whether it\'s premarital counseling, exploring non-monogamy, or ending a relationship that\'s no longer meeting your needs, every stage of a relationship comes with its own challenges. Using a couple\'s assessment, skill building, and an approach that treats each relationship\'s unique structure as equally valid and important, I will help you navigate the road ahead.

I approach this work by identifying patterns of interaction couples find themselves stuck in. Work includes focusing on understanding the needs of the other and learning to appreciate the differences. Work around infidelity consists of determining relationship commitment, examining the dynamics of the relationship before the affair, and rebuilding the trust of the hurt partner.

Relationship problems often stem from unrealistic expectations about what our partners are meant to do for us. Therapy helps transform expectation into appreciation. In the end, our romantic relationships can be wonderful and deeply intimate friendships of mutual support and care.

Relationships are a journey of navigating personal and shared life experience. I believe that couples are strengthened when they can address their difficulties, work towards a place of flexibility, and allow each individual to be themselves. I approach couples therapy as an opportunity for couples to learn about each other and to develop a shared vision of what they want their relationship to be.

Love demands the reassurance of touch. Most fights are really protests over emotional disconnection. Underneath the distress, partners are desperate to know: Are you there for me?\nBy Sue Johnson, published on January 01, 2009

I work with couples in any stage of commitment, whether you are dating, contemplating longterm commitment or marriage, need separation counseling for the wellbeing of children, or are in polyamorous relationships.

As a student of Terry Real\'s Relational Living, I embrace the principals of building and practicing respectful relationships, which often is learning to improve communication skills. Learning what you grew up in from your own family of origin suggests where some of the unhealthier attitudes grew out of.

I generally work with individuals, but what we talk about is their relationships. Like it or not how people related to us in our early life generally continues to impact our adult relating until we can recognize patterns & learn to manage the flood of emotions that can erupt when we are with the people you love most. Let\'s work together to repair old & more recent relationships.

Couples and family therapy can be great avenues to improve mental health.

I love working with couples, especially couples with children. We naturally shift between issues that come up in the marriage and issues that come up with the kids.

Much of my work with clients has centered on recognizing and building healthy relationships. This includes (and begins with) a healthy relationship with yourself, as well as relationships with family, friends, lovers, and the outside world. Much of our lingering suffering as well as our ability to heal and thrive is determined by the ways in which we relate to our inner and outer worlds.

Our current struggles are often rooted in our earliest attachment relationships. These early patterns live in our body, in how we perceive and interact. By attuning to these patterns in a collaborative and compassionate way, we can learn how to rewire them and discover renewed resilience and ease.

I use mindfulness tools, including Yoga in therapy work with couples to offer a unique approach to sorting through and healing within relationship and marriage. I have expertise in family dynamics and systems to cultivate clarity and empowerment around family and partner relationships.

Eclectic approach drawing from numerous trainings and years of experience to help couples build more resources together to reinforce a stronger relationship that helps each person flourish and feel more connected to one another and able to navigate life\'s stressors and relationship challenges.

Individual, Couple, and Family Therapy: I believe that the key to strong and enduring relationships is the development of a strong sense of self. While the goal for most couples is to create a deep sense of intimacy, developing a strong sense of self is a prerequisite to creating emotional connection. Initially, the primary focus in my work with individuals, couples, and families is the individual.

I have a focus on Non-Monogamous or open relationships. These partnerships can be difficult to navigate. Despite intentions, jealousy, fear and difficulties with self worth can easily be present. Often, understanding support can be difficult to find.

I have worked with many couples of all orientations to learn now to communicate and build a better life together. Here are some topics I work with most often: Navigating the path to intimacy, Effectively sharing and communicating emotions, Creating romance between best friends, Juggling career, children, and intimacy, Being vulnerable , and Building and repairing the safety of trust

Methods of treatment used are evidence-based, supported by research, and by the American Psychological Association (APA). Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy are highly effective in helping shift relationship issues, so are the main methods I use in working with clients.

My training and background focused on relationships. In accordance my practice has a heavy focus on couples along with teaching pre-marriage classes at Northwest Catholic Counseling Center as a non-denominational therapist.

Individuals grow in relationships and I am interested in helping couples develop loving, constructive and creative relationship environment in which growth can flourish in satisfying ways. Together we develop goals & strategies for cultivating positive changes. I utilize evidence-based Gottman methodology when working with my couples.

Relationships are complex. They require a lot of care & maintenance. I draw experience from my own 20+ years of marriage as well as facilitate couples forums where developing communication, connection, respect & strengthening the partnership are key. I have worked with couples that are dating, recently married, remarried couples, 'empty nest' couples, and same sex partners.

My training allows me to work with couples using a variety of approaches including Dan Wile's work, Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples, and Gottman's theories and techniques (though I'm not yet certified in EFT-C or Gottman therapy). Couples are unique, multifaceted, and complex, and I strive to help them understand and resolve their conflicts, needs, strengths, and relationship dynamics.

Sex and relationship therapy using various modalities to help achieve relationship satisfaction. Trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy and Gottman Method.

I\'m in your corner, whatever the hurdle. Relationships are tough, so is the process of finding a person who understands. I have extensive experience with non-traditional relationships including BDSM/ kink couples, non-monogamous, or other lifestyles. I take a collaborative, strengths focused approach using Gottman, EFT and systems approaches to reconnection.

Often times, coping skills that were helpful earlier in life become patterned ways of relating. While these can continue to serve us in certain situations, they can also get in the way of connecting meaningfully or can lead to conflict with those we love. In counseling, we can explore those patterns together and develop and practice new ways of relating and connecting.

None of us comes to any relationship in our lives unencumbered by what has gone before. Relationships can be so tricky because the complex system of one brain and personality and family meets another complex system. Relationships offer our best hope of feeling truly seen and understood by another. I would like to support you in your path to increased connection and safety.

I bring compassionate, practical tools and a common sense approach that enables you and your partner to improve your communication, deepen intimacy, build trust and resolve long-standing issues, in an environment that is safe and non-judgmental. I work collaboratively to provide tools and results that feel durable and long lasting.

Relationships are not easy. Gender roles, kids, fiances, addiction, loss of intimacy, work can all drain the life out of even the best relationships. Learning to listen with openness and communicate with compassion can lead to major breakthrough for couples.

Relationship is a path that demands humility and courage. Because the oldest and deepest wounds tend to surface in connection with a committed partner, it is here that you have the opportunity to bring deep healing. I have trained in the Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy (PACT), incorporating attachment work with functional neurobiology to offer you support toward healthy relationship.

When relationships become more difficult or unfulfilling, talking with a therapist can enable the couple to make changes. Improvement in communication and feeling connected to one another are reasonable goals for therapy.

Relationships are hard. Relationships are a fundamental part of being human. Together in our therapeutic relationship we can explore this tricky conundrum of building and maintaining your relationships with family and friends and co-workers and romantic partners. This can be some of the most rewarding and healing work in all of therapy!

I have treated individuals and couples with relationship issues for over twenty five years.

I have training in Hakomi and EFT approaches to couples work.

Joe was trained and has presented in \'Self-in-Connection\' theory as it relates to relationships including same gendered relationships. He works with poly/open and alternative relationships and is a \'kink aware\' therapist.

For the past eight years, I have worked with many couples on strengthening their relationship. We can work together on identifying the barriers that challenge your relationship and replacing them with behaviors that promote a positive fulfilling relationship.

I have a lifetime of experience, both personal and professional, with helping couples work through relationship issues. Struggling with communication, thinking about divorce/breaking up, or just fighting a lot? I can help.

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