Meghan O'Connor

Meghan O'Connor (they/them/she/her)

Licensed Marriage Family Therapist

MA, MFT

I help clients to strengthen their boundaries in relationship and harness more energetic autonomy by resolving post-traumatic patterning.

Client Status

accepting clients

Contact

503 446 3683

4531 SE Belmont Street

Suite 204

Portland, 97215

At a Glance

Me

Rate: $190-$200

Provides free initial consultation

Provides telehealth services

Practicing Since: 2013

Languages: English

Services

  • Individual
  • Group
  • Relationship

Insurances Accepted

  • Out of Pocket
  • Out of Network

What I Specialize In

Codependency is a pattern of chronic appeasement and dislocation from Self. It's a strategy of relating to others that is typically the result of developmental and socialized trauma. We get spun up in attempting to master things we can't control. It feels automatic. Life, and all its creative potential, atrophies. This pattern creates symptoms - resentment, dissatisfaction, deadness, depression, overwhelm, bitterness, anxiety, and even self-harm. With the right help, focusing on both nervous system and the root events that birthed these strategies of relational survival, we can create relief from the preoccupation and obsession with others, and find ourselves again, perhaps, for the first time.

My Approach to Helping

I'm queer and my roots are working class. I came out as gay in 2002, thus beginning a long journey of holding a marginal space in the culture, spurring an activist life. I believe the queer mind body is innately wild and precious, a place where the seed of difference sews a deeply philosophical life. Yet occupying a marginal space creates pain and alienation. We have a specific healing task that those who live comfortably in the dominant culture do not, armor we can not simply toss away. Yet how do we also soften and find belonging? I am white bodied. I grew up in a multi-ethnic, multi-racial environment that was overtly racist, unlike Portland, which has a different flavor of covert racism that I witness both baffle and deeply harm people in the BIPOC community. I am genuinely attuned to these issues and do my best to hold a safe space for that reality. I encourage you to browse my website to learn more about me and my work - https://www.meghanoconnortherapy.com

Issues I Treat

Specialties

  • Codependency External link

    Codependency is simple by definition - It's a pattern of chronic appeasement and dislocation from Self. It's a strategy of relating to others that is typically the result of developmental and socialized trauma. This pattern creates symptoms - resentment, dissatisfaction, deadness, depression, overwhelm, bitterness, anxiety, and even self-harm. We can create relief from the preoccupation and obsession with others, and find ourselves again, or perhaps, for the first time.

  • PTSD External link

    Trauma is an experience that overwhelms your system. Childhood experiences can continue to impact us in a number of ways - unstable relationship to oneself and others, panic attacks, depression, addiction, anger, anxiety, feeling out of body, chronic destructive habits, memory loss. Talk therapy alone rarely does the trick. I work with you through Somatic interventions, EMDR, and parts work, to mitigate chronic nervous system arousal, helping you to feel more safely engaged with the world.

  • Relationship / Marriage Issues External link

    Has a previously fluid and easy connection dissolved into fighting, blaming, emotional disconnection, or indifference? Differences in values causing stress or resentment? Wanting to reestablish intimacy and closeness? I have specialized training to help couples and individuals break patterns that cause fighting, improve communication, and strengthen connection.

  • Coronavirus/COVID-19 External link

    This, like any crisis, holds both tragedy and opportunity. As we all attempt to cope with and apprehend this large scale global event, we are learning quickly what is and isn't working on both a personal and collective level; Many are wondering, with a sense of pre-emptive despair, if we will integrate these lessons. I am available to those who are seeking support around these sudden shifts.

  • Depression External link

    Depression can be an all-encompassing mental, emotional, and bodily state. The word itself reveals much about its nature - something is being 'depressed,' and the symptoms can be a scary experience - lack of joy, chronic fatigue, numbness, negative thought patterns. The effects of depression are compounded by social stigma. I work with you to stabilize your moods and recover a sense of aliveness.

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