Attachment Theory

Attachment theory was first developed by psychologist John Bowlby and focuses on the importance of early emotional bonds. Attachment theory investigates the nature of a person’s initial relationship with their primary caregiver (such as a parent) and how it influences their social and emotional development. Therapists using attachment theory can help a client to identify their individual attachment style. Attachment styles influences how individuals relate to each other in intimate relationships. Knowing your attachment style can be a powerful tool in understanding your strengths and weaknesses in a relationship.

Local Experts in Attachment Theory

Have trained in attachment theory and believe it is a sound, helpful framework for psychotherapy.

Acceptance, attunement, and responsiveness. Though our earliest exchanges provide the blueprint for our ways of being with others throughout our lives, these qualities in therapy can help you process those relational experiences that were most difficult and strengthen your sense of closeness and security among others.

Learning to understand our early attachment experiences and how they shaped our current relationship dynamics.

We all want to feel connected, we just don't always know how. I draw heavily from attachment theory as well as training with the M.E.T.A. Institute in attachment focused techniques to bring this knowledge into our work. Profound life changes can take place when we face our fears of vulnerability and connection in a safe and supportive relationship.

From family work (family crisis and adoptions) to the most vulnerable peoples (Emergency Department social work), I know that our attachment templates are primary. I keep this awareness close and utilize attachment theory in my work, always.

I have been certified as a court expert in attachment.

Humans learn attachment from their primary caregivers. This relationship we have with our parents directly reflects our relationships with our friends, other family members, co-workers, and intimate partners. I work with clients to identify their attachment, and how it can help or hinder their personal success in creating and maintaining relationships.

Whether you find your attachment tendencies to be secure, ambivalent-insecure, avoidant-insecure, or even disorganized, working with attachment concerns in counseling can cultivate amazing results. Healthy attachment in our relationships leads to all kinds of proactive and prosocial behavior throughout the lifespan. You were made to be in secure relationships, I believe it's your birthright.

Attachment theory looks at the ways our earliest relationships affect how we connect and bond to others as adults. This lens can provide a framework for understanding and gaining awareness around patterns, behaviors, thoughts, and feelings that come up as we form and maintain relationships.

I have a certificate in Interpersonal Neurobiology (IPNB) from Portland State University. IPNB studies what it means to be human through looking at the interplay of mind, brain and relationships. Attachment theory is at the core of IPNB.

The quality of our relationships has a huge impact on how happy we are in our lives. When our relationships aren’t going well, we can feel helpless, overwhelmed, frustrated and despairing for the future. Generally there are three types of attachment — secure, anxious, or avoidant. Being aware of what have shaped us can give us a clue to our past, our present, and our future.

The field of psychotherapy is gaining more understanding every day about the role of attachment in our development and how this impacts our adult lives. Insight into our attachment style improves our relationship with ourselves as well as those we love. Without this knowledge, our attempts at relationship and closeness with others can be incredibly unsatisfying. Knowledge is power.

My approach recognizes that we all have an innate need to feel connected and attached to significant others in secure and close relationships. I help clients to work through their attachment wounds and experience more security in themselves and satisfaction in their relationships.

Addiction is often referred to as a relationship disorder - to heal from addiction is to restore our capacity for intimacy

I have been trained in Experiential Attachment Psychotherapy. I have a passion for working with those wanting to find more security in their attachment style and in their relationships.

Attachment and schema driven therapy were cornerstones of my graduate education program. I believe that the attachment, or lack there of, to our primary caregivers plays an integral part in shaping who we are and how confident and capable we feel. \nI have many years of experience working with individuals with Borderline Personality Disorder, which I see as a disorder rooted in attachment trauma.

I believe deeply in the power of human connection and how it shapes us. Our earliest significant relationships heavily influence how we learn to see ourselves and relate to others and the world. These dynamics evolve over our adult lives. It can be tremendously helpful to look at these histories and patterns to learn about ourselves and make change from a deeper place of self-understanding.

Attachment theory helps us untangle the complex web of early learning that can make engaging in fulfilling adult relationships difficult and painful. I hold special training in a method called Experiential Attachment, which naturally elicits the infant/caregiver attachment system, allowing for examination of early attachment wounding and engagement in a process of repair.

Our attachment is rooted in our early experiences within the family. These are unique and varied, and can be made aware of and integrated in order to achieve greater, conscious intimacy.

Secure attachment requires a solid base, safety to explore and return to that base. Within the body and mind, we may feel that people cannot be trusted, will betray or abandon us, or even hurt us. Fortunately, we can re-build a secure attachment by exploring these very real fears and finding stable, safe people to bond with.

Our earliest relationships help construct a map for how we expect future relationships to unfold. Our sense of safety--both internal and shared--has its roots in how we were parented. All of this is changeable, as our brains grow and change for our whole lives; the greatest factor of influence is how and with whom we connect. That's attachment: Getting our needs met, in a dance with others.

I often find that a person's attachment style is one of the strongest factors in how they related to the world and other people. When working with children I always hold their early experiences in mind and take them into account when working toward goals. The issues that couples face can often be traced to their attachment pattern. My role is to help translate each person's needs to their partner.

Attachment theory relates to the long-term interpersonal relationship style we have and how it affects our present day relationships with others. It\'s based on the general premise that attachment styles we developed in our early years influence our patterns of interacting in close relationships in later years.

Attachment is all about how we live in the context of a symbiotic relationship with the world around us. We are at our best when we can mutually recognize and help to meet the needs of our loves ones and community, and they ours.

I have researched and trained in various attachment-based theories related to parenting, adoption, couples and families.

Through the study of Interpersonal Neurobiology (IPNB) we have a great new understanding of the restorability of wholeness where emotional damage was done from unresponsive, unconscious, or even violent caretakers. Our work is in the relationship, as the \'interpersonal\' actually enables a new neurologic wiring as well as new realizations of worthiness and value.

In my work I focus energy on helping children and caregivers increase feelings of attachment. I see children's behaviors as attempts to get needs met and believe that many treatment issues can be addressed through helping parent and child build positive experiences together in a playful and joyful way. Many times parents have tried hard to do this on their own but want some support and guidance.

I believe our attachments to our first caregivers offer us a window into how we feel and function in our current relationships and life endeavors. Using narrative and discussion to understand the complex web of attachment-based emotions and experience in the world, I can help you feel empowered and in charge of your life choices and behaviors.

I work off attachment theory to help individuals and couples. This gives us an understanding how we interact with people in our lives and how we can change our patterns.

My Masters in Clinician Mental Health and ongoing post-Masters intensive trainings feature a fundamental understanding of how our childhood attachment relationships profoundly shape our sense of self, others and the world. I am currently participating in an 18 month training intensive that focuses primarily on supporting clients to repair and transform their childhood attachment wounds.

Our early childhood attachments with our caregivers creates a template for how we respond and relate with ourselves, and our relationships. They inform our beliefs about the world and from this, we internalize relational patterns. We can cultivate understanding of why we attached the way we did and how we can utilize neuro-plasticity to create new templates to get our emotional needs met.

My theoretical focus is through the lens of attachment – that is, how the bonds we create are effective, or ineffective, in our current lives (John Bowlby). In addition to attachment bonds that we experience, I also support my clients collaboratively to better understand life’s stressors and patterns of interaction that may or may not be promoting his or her well-being.

Patterns of thought and ways of being in relationships with others are largely put in place prior to acquiring the ability to verbalize our experience. As such much of what we know and how we know it are implicit. Nonetheless these embedded patterns can effectively addressed by counseling in an atmosphere of empathic collaborative dialogue.

A thorough grasp of attachment theory is foundational to understand most forms of dysregulation or mental illness. I consider attachment patterns as I seek to tune in to each client\'s suffering. I also have training in attachment-based therapeutic techniques.

Each of us has an attachment style and this style can change throughout our lives. From the moment we are born factors contribute to our attachment. As a marriage, couple and family therapist I investigate the numerous factors and help identify an attachment style.

We each have a particular attachment style that determines how comfortable we are in proximity to others. Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) helps couples understand the attachment style of each partner and the dynamic that exists between them.

Issues related to how we form attachments with others, and difficulties in relationships

Attachment theory and its connection to the field of interpersonal neurobiology is exciting in its implications for treatment! I help children and families build the skills of reflection, empathy and validation that are needed for children to develop secure attachment and healthy self-confidence. When life's challenges have injured these primary relationships, our work is essential for healing.

Attachment theory is a way of getting to the heart of how you grew up, why you do what you do, and how your relating to others is affecting your relationships. I have seen the way people really build insight into what's going on and I can say from experience, it's amazing!

Extensive study of Bowlby and subsequent attachment theorists.

Attachment theory teaches us that a person\'s experiences and bonding with a primary caregiver during early childhood impact our relationships with ourselves, others and the world around us later in life. We develop ways of viewing the world and the people in it based upon these early pre-language experiences.

Our earliest relationships form the templates for how we interact and what we expect from others. These patterns live in our body and in the ways that we engage with (or avoid) others. Over the past 10 years, I have learned how to recognize and work with individual attachment styles and relationship patterns through my in-depth studies with Bonnie Badenoch, PhD, LMFT.

The way in which we try to connect with others informs not only how we interact with others, but also a lot of things about the world and our own identity. I find that using this theory can help clients better understand their motivations and how to get what they need from life in better and more productive ways.

I have received specialized education around interpersonal neurobiology, which is the science of attachment theory. It is the foundational theory for all of my work with both individuals and couples.

I\'ve studied attachment theory in numerous trainings (Circle of Security; Wait, Watch, and Wonder; RIE Foundations; and more), paying special attention to parent-infant relationships, and taught attachment theory at the NUNM. It\'s in relationship that we come to understand ourselves as persons, and it\'s in relationship that we can heal attachment wounds.

Attachment theory provides an explanation of how early relationships continue to emerge and impact our present day lives and current relationships. Understanding how family of origin can be especially meaningful in creating insight and compassion, giving clients life altering awareness and new found coping skills.

The tone of our early relationships with caregivers sets the stage for how we relate to others and how we experience the world around us throughout our lives. Attending to attachment styles in therapy helps heal old wounds and helps you feel better in your relationships. I trained in attachment-oriented couples and individual therapy both in graduate school and post-grad.

Our formative experiences with the caretakers in our lives lay the foundation to how we attach and form relationships with the people in our lives. Understanding our early relationships we are able to recognize patterns of behavior and make decisions to change these patterns and create successful bonds.

As with systems theory, I find attachment theory to be an extremely helpful model in supporting clients. We are indelibly marked by our early bonds with caregivers and typically, what we learned in those relationships sets our beliefs about the world and determines the patterns we follow in future relationships. Not that we can't change, attachment theory just helps us understand why.

Ever wonder why you tend to have similar behavior patterns in your relationships with people? We each have survival strategies created in childhood to protect ourselves. Attachment theory gives us grounded research to know the likely effect of our early bonds on later relationships. Since relationships in our life determine a great degree of happiness, this is crucial to explore.

Our relationships in adulthood reflect our earliest relationships in life: those with our families of origin. While those early relationships may not have been terrible (in fact, they may have felt great!), the way that we learned to attach to them may not be working in the types of relationships we want now. Understanding how and why we attach is a pathway to choosing healthier relationships.

Attachment theory is all about love and safety. How we experience that from an early age influences the coping skills we develop for all of our relationships, especially during times of conflict and struggle. I love that we can change how we feel about ourselves, our relationships and the world at large through the context of new, safe, reparative experiences.

Our relationship with our selves and others begins with our experience of attachment. Attachment is a huge part of our behaviors in relationship with everyone in our lives- our partners, children, parents, families, and friends.

Our early relationships often shape how we are as adults. If we lacked secure early attachments, if we didn't learn our own sense of worth, or lacked a sense of safety, we may experience relational problems as adults. Through empathetic, attachment-informed therapy, however, we can learn a sense of security in relationship, leading to more stable, nurturing, and balanced interactions with others.

Attachment Theory is about discovering that how a person was cared for & related to in their early years still effects us. When we were young we learned if the world was safe or not. To make us feel safe we isolated or became people pleasers. These patterns continue on into adulthood & can be very disruptive to relationships. There are ways to feel emotionally safe so you can thrive.

Attachment theory is focused on the relationships and bonds between people, particularly long-term relationships including those between a parent and child and between romantic partners. Psychologist John Bowlby was the first attachment theorist describing attachment theory. He describes attachment as a lasting psychological and emotional connectedness between human beings.

I help individuals and couples create safe, stable, and intimate relationships where each partner learns to trust and rely on their partner and themselves to meet their deepest wants and needs. You'll also learn how to identify your own and your partner's triggers and use this knowledge to prevent fights and repair the damage when things go awry.

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