Codependency

Marina Nelson, MC (she/her/hers)

Licensed Professional Counselor

Oregon LPC, Washington LMHC

I have extensive training in codependency and have facilitated family groups for people with family members in recovery as well as provided services to individuals on this topic.

Emalee Assenberg, MS, NCC

Licensed Professional Counselor

Many of us were set up for codependency by our childhood dynamics and past trauma. We rely on others for a sense of worth and self approval. I am a relational therapist who specializes in helping track and change unhealthy, toxic, and limiting beliefs and patterns. I understand how trauma can affect intimacy and trust. I help people transform their relationship with self and others.

Helene Goode LPC, CADC I (she/her)

Licensed Professional Counselor

MS, CADC I

Is your world getting smaller? Do you have less time and energy for other meaningful relationships or hobbies? I will encourage and cheer you on as you redirect your life energy. We will review your priorities and values as well as examine how your choices support them. We will work on widening your circle of activities and friendships, focusing on self balance.

Benita Munson (she/her)

Licensed Professional Counselor

LPC, CRC, CADC I

Are you co-dependent in your relationship? I can help you to identify the warning signs of a one-sided, emotionally destructive and/or abusive relationship. Together we can rebuild your identity and self worth, weaving in self compassion and exploration of your family of origin, as well as necessary boundary work.

Elizabeth Knutsen (she/her)

Licensed Clinical Social Worker

How do you show up in relationships? Do you flee intimacy? Do you cling to emotionally unavailable people? You might feel interested in learning more about your attachment style(s) and how attachment shows up in your relationships.

Brad Creel (he/him)

Licensed Professional Counselor

I have both attended and facilitated three separate long-term codependent groups and meetings. I focus on male codependency and it's relationship to addictive behavior.

Julie Osburne (she/they)

Professional Counselor Associate

M.A.

I think of codependency as the ways in which we unconsciously make agreements with others in which both parties get their needs met in indirect (and sometimes harmful) ways. Working through codependency involves getting in touch with our true motivations, realizing where we have charged others with our care, and taking ownership of our own feelings and needs. My approach is influenced by my studies in Nonviolent Communication and the 12-step philosophy.

Gary Alexander (he/him)

Licensed Marriage Family Therapist

MFT, CADC III, NCC

Codependency can be defined as the tendency to put others needs before your own; accommodating to others to such a degree that you tend to discount or ignore your own feelings, desires and basic needs. In codependency our self-esteem depends largely on how well we please, take care of and/or solve problems for someone else (or many others). In a sense, then only really know yourself through your role with others. Moving towards greater balance between self and others is possible!

C.J. Sanders (she/her)

Licensed Marriage Family Therapist

OR #T2235

Have you lost yourself in your relationship? One of the most difficult struggles modern humans have in connecting is how to maintain their sense of “me” in a “we”. Most people’s instinct is to pull away from the relationship to find themselves again but we can do it in a way that promotes growth in each individual as well as the relationship.

Caitlin "Caity" Lynch (She/Her)

Marriage and Family Therapist Associate

MS, NCC

Many people grow up in situations where having needs and expressing them in a healthy way is a challenge. Sometimes families and romantic partners fall into unhealthy habits that they swore they would not repeat. I'll approach your healing from codependency with compassion for how it served you previously, and a hopeful lens for practical steps you can take to regain healthy relational boundaries.

JESSICA VAN DER MERWE (She/Her)

Licensed Professional Counselor

LMHC, LPC

Often we find ourselves in relationships and situations where we feel used, resentful and hurt, waiting for the other person to notice our efforts and give us the love we need. It is in these relationships we often betray our own boundaries and needs in exchange for supporting the needs of others. This cycle can leave us exhausted and hopeless. I work with you to gain insight and form new patterns of relating to finally get your needs met.

Stuart Malkin

Licensed Professional Counselor

MS, LPC

I work with clients to help them see how they contribute to co-dependent relationships, where they learned it, and support them to help break the cycle.

Celine Redfield

Licensed Marriage Family Therapist

MA, LMFT, Certified Havening Practitioner, EFT Master, Practitioner

If you have difficulty with control issues, wanting things to be a certain way and needing to be perfect, you may struggle with codependency. I have worked and helped many clients to find freedom from this pattern. I helped them to feel more fulfilled in their lives by learning to concentrate on themselves instead of others.

Jenna Washburn (she / her)

Professional Counselor Associate

MA: Mental Health Counseling - Specialization in Addictions

As a recovered codependent, I understand the struggles of codependency. And I also truly believe in our power to heal from it. Codependency can sometimes be hard to spot and a person can quickly fall into a codependent relationship without realizing. I offer a counseling program called Focused Therapy that helps to address issues of codependency along with skill-building techniques to cultivate awareness and eventually bring about healthy connection with others.

Jeff Guenther (he/him)

Licensed Professional Counselor

LPC

Studying codependent relationships and personalities has always been the most interesting part of psychology to me. How people become attached in relationships and when it tips into an unhealthy or toxic attachment is what I specialize in. Much of my expertise come from studying relationships in graduate school where I obtained a masters in marriage and family therapy.

Megan Miller (she/her)

Licensed Marriage Family Therapist

LMFT, Holistic Coach

I'm finding this theme is showing up a lot in my practice these days! Codependency can mean a lot of different things- it could look like people-pleasing or perfectionistic behaviors, putting the needs of others before your own, having trouble separating your emotions from those of others, or constantly questioning yourself in your relationships. This also applies to individuals who have struggled in relationships that involved frequent manipulation and gaslighting.

Kathy Hardie-Williams M.Ed MS DC LPC LMFT

Licensed Professional Counselor

M.Ed MS DC LPC LMFT

While the goal for most relationships is to create a deep sense of intimacy, developing a strong sense of self is a prerequisite to creating emotional connection. Initially, the primary focus in my work with individuals is the individual growth and differentiation of each person in order to increase a strong sense of self. My work with clients then moves toward increasing their capacity to accept and tolerate differences, a process that must occur prior to increasing the emotional bond.

Destry Stoner LPC, CADCIII (he/him)

Licensed Professional Counselor

CADCIII

It is human nature to be in relationship with other people. Unfortunately sometimes people lean on us to heavily in areas that they are lacking and need support. In order to be there on this level for other people we sacrifice what is important to us. This causes a lot of problems that are often not easy to detect and understand.

Melinda Norman (She/Her)

Licensed Professional Counselor

Codependency has many roots which often stem from childhood abandonment or lack of development. We can work together on healing these traumas and creating new behavioral patterns which allow you to live independently of others.

Christine Finucane (She/her/hers)

Licensed Clinical Social Worker

LCSW, SUDP, LICSW, SEP

Codependency has become a catchall term and has somewhat lost its meaning. It often involves caretaking of others, often family members, and this pattern often originates in childhood. Control is another issue often present for those in codependent relationships. I work with people to identify their own needs and desires, to establish healthy boundaries in their relationships which can then allow freedom to attend to their unmet needs and desires and ultimately to healing and freedom.

Erin Carney Moline

Licensed Professional Counselor

LPC

I enjoy working with clients to find healthy boundaries and a sense of self that is loving and connected. Healing codependency brings us home to ourselves, and gives us the gift of healthy community and relationships. My approach to codependency is informed by my antiracism work and understanding of white supremacy culture and its violence, both internally and externally.

Julia Chapman (she/her)

Licensed Marriage Family Therapist

LMFT T1622

I have completed trainings by the Meadows developed by Pia Mellody. I work with clients to build self-esteem and confidence by learning to set boundaries in relationships, ask for what they want, gain acceptance and understanding of themselves, and build satisfying relationships.

Emma Stern (she/her/hers)

Professional Counselor Associate

R7893

Codependency is very misunderstood in pop culture. Codependents are generally folks who grew up around challenging or dysfunctional relational dynamics and needed to prioritize others above themselves or walk on eggshells to avoid abuse or turbulence. This dynamic can lead to self-sacrifice, challenges around control and being controlled, people pleasing, and lack of boundaries. Codependency is common for folks who grew up around addiction or any form of abuse (especially narcissistic abuse).

Bethany Ingram (she/her)

Licensed Clinical Social Worker

LCSW

Codependency typically looks like hyper-vigilance towards the emotional states of others, fear of disappointing others, difficulty setting boundaries, and tending towards "people pleasing" or "rescuing/fixing" others. I enjoy helping people learn to listen to and trust themselves, focus on their own emotions and perspectives, and set necessary boundaries for themselves and in their relationships.

Anthony Marchant

Licensed Professional Counselor

Extensive experience working with relationship dynamics and training in communication skills.

Lindsay Anderson (She/Her)

Professional Counselor Associate

M.A., NCC, Professional Counselor Associate, MCHA

When you give so much of yourself to others, it can feel like you lose parts of yourself in the process You might find it difficult to set boundaries or voice your true inner feelings. Together, you can learn to recognize and honor your inner voice, trust your intuition, and integrate the different parts of yourself enabling you to live life more fully and authentic to who you are.

Meghan O'Connor (they/them/she/her)

Licensed Marriage Family Therapist

MA, MFT

Codependency is simple by definition - It's a pattern of orienting yourself around others rather than being your own center of gravity. This creates what we call, symptoms - resentment, dissatisfaction, deadness, depression, overwhelm, bitterness, anxiety, obsession, and self-aggression. I help clients to strengthen their boundaries in relationship and cultivate more self-awareness.

Jennifer Stratton (She/Her/Hers)

Licensed Professional Counselor

LPC

Codependency at a basic level is a deeply personal misunderstanding of needs and boundaries with misguided attempts to connect, to receive love and to feel valued. Learning to understand oneself and one's needs can be a rich experience. Learning to develop a compassionate, loving core of self is a priority in this work. My training in Mindful Self Compassion has been a solid foundation of training for this type of work.

Carewell Portland Carewell Portland/Julie Berman (she/her)

Licensed Professional Counselor

LPC

Trouble drawing boundaries? Can't say no? It's time to put the self first and your relationships will change. Where did you learn that you are not important?

Korina Jochim

Licensed Marriage Family Therapist

LMFT

If you have noticed a pattern of codependency in your relationships (family, work, intimate partners) and/or have experienced harm from relationships with people who suffer from addictions or personality disorders, I can help you empower yourself to make more self-caring choices.

Sarah Blaszczak, M.A, LMFT (She, her, hers)

Licensed Marriage Family Therapist

LMFT T1554

So many marginalized populations and folks who grow up with abuse or addiction in their households adapt by living life from the outside in-adjusting to what they have been told implicitly and explicitly to be for other people in order to access love and resource. This also happens to be a symptom of codependency, a normal reaction to abnormal circumstances. I can help you reorient to yourself.

Jon Fox

Licensed Professional Counselor

LPC

If you tend to regularly sacrifice your own needs in a relationship to meet your partners and feel resentful about this, you may be using a codependent strategy in your life. Over time, this can lead to depression, anger, anxiety, lack of self-esteem and sense of who you are. Your needs are important too. I like helping individuals and couples create more balanced and rewarding relationships.

Deborah Ranker (she/her)

Licensed Clinical Social Worker

LCSW

Being a deeply caring and empathetic person can make it difficult to figure out how to maintain healthy boundaries in relationships and often leads to burnout and resentment. I enjoy helping people with high amounts of empathy figure out how to build confidence in themselves, maintain compassion for others, and develop the life-serving boundaries and skills needed to have thriving relationships.

Kimberly Dudley (she/her)

Licensed Professional Counselor

LMHC, LPC, NCC

Codependency is most easily identified in this way: one person carrying the majority of the weight and responsibility of the relationship in order to meet a deep need of approval and acceptance. It often leaves people feeling overwhelmed and undervalued.

Colleen Burke-Sivers, LPC (She/her)

Licensed Professional Counselor

Your kindness and generosity are positive traits, but they often get out of control to the point that no one ever seems to be considerate of you. Codependency becomes a problem when your needs are never getting met in relationships, friendships, or even with acquaintances. I will help you look at the roots of your codependent behaviors and find new ways of relating in the world.

Kelley O'Gorman (she/her)

Licensed Professional Counselor

MFT LPC

I think we all have a tinge of codependency. The reason I work with is so often is many clients come from a background where codependency helped them survive. My goal is to break that habit & learn to love you.

Pearl Waldorf

Licensed Professional Counselor

Setting clear boundaries as adults has everything to do with how we were reflected and tended to as little ones. It's easy to mix ourselves up with others, if we were not valued for simply being our unique selves. We can't learn our own yeses and nos in a vacuum. What's exciting, is we can learn differentiation as an adult, with the guidance of a skilled attachment therapist.

Jeremy McAllister (He/Him)

Licensed Professional Counselor

LPC

Codependency coincides with attachment trauma and ongoing struggles in intimate relationships. This shows up as automated reaction loops with partners and can often prove to be an unbreakable pattern in the absence of calm and regulated external intervention.

Kaijah Bjorklund (she/her)

Licensed Professional Counselor

Nationally Certified Counselor

Unhealthy and repeated patterns are a continual source of suffering if you don't understand how you entered into the cycle. I support clients in understanding the roots of unhealthy relationships with my training in Emotionally Focused Therapy and identify how to meet their true needs in relationships. You are capable of creating new patterns of loving and relating with others. If you were never taught how to have a healthy relationship how would you know how? You can learn.