Polly Gravely MS, LPC, MFT

Polly Gravely MS, LPC, MFT (she/her)

Licensed Professional Counselor

Nationally Certified Counselor

At some point in life we get stuck. We either have anxiety or depression we can’t shake, or our relationships have problems we can’t resolve. I can help. I help you identify the underlying issues so that you can move out of this stuck place and instead feel more ease, happiness, and connection.

Client Status

not accepting clients



5319 SW Westgate Dr.

Suite 246

Portland, 97221


At a Glance


Rate: $150-$180

Provides free initial consultation

Provides telehealth services

Practicing Since: 2011

Languages: English


  • Individual
  • Relationship

Insurances Accepted

  • Out of Pocket
  • Out of Network
  • PacificSource

My training and skills are in relationships. We are having relationships with those we are close to, but most importantly, we are also having a relationship with ourselves. Anxiety, sadness, body image issues, emotional connection with our partner, all of these are founded in relationship. I work to track how you do these relationships, your way of understanding about love and care, and with couples, how you are doing this dynamic within and without. For all of us there are ways we are constricted. I help by developing awareness about your way of being in the world, how you understand love and how you get loved. Then, I work gently to open up these places so that gradually you get to have more possibility in life, an easier, healthier way of relating to yourself and to those you love. I have helped hundreds of people resolve issues of overwhelming anxiety and sadness, and in relationships to rekindle a strong and loving connection.

I'm a nationally certified counselor trained to work with individuals, couples and therapy groups. I have a Master's degree in counseling with a specialty in Marital, Couple, and Family Therapy, which means I have extensive training in relational dynamics. I have additional, long-term training in Emotion Focused Therapy for Individuals & Couples. I am former adjunct instructor at PSU where I facilitated therapy groups for students. My orientation and training is an integrated approach of psychodynamic (to understand how your formative years shaped your perception of the world) and Emotion-Focused Therapy (emotions help us know what we need, but often we’re not aware of what’s really going on inside). I also have a Master’s degree from Columbia University in journalism, and a B.A. from the University of Virginia. I really enjoy my work as a counselor and I am humbled by the courage shown and growth attained by the clients I see.

Techniques I Use


  • Couples Counseling External link

    My degree (M.S. in Marriage and Family Counseling) is specifically focused on relational dynamics and I have extensive training in couples' work. I can help you understand how your relationship ran into trouble and how to find the way back again.

Issues I Treat


  • Coronavirus/COVID-19 External link

    This is a massively stressful and devastating time. Sadly many of us are cut off from our usual sources of connection which help us get through hard times. I can help. I know strategies to relieve anxiety and sadness. I'm skilled at sorting through and mending fractured relationships. I can offer guidance with parenting. And I can be a kind companion to get through these troubled times.

  • Self-Esteem External link

    Most of us have an inner critical voice that keeps us in line, but for some of us that voice is punishing. Maybe your inner voice tells you that you're not good enough, that you look bad, and flings other criticisms at you. It's hard to live with a voice like that. I work to listen, to understand, and gradually help this voice soften so you can feel better in your life.

  • Relationship / Marriage Issues External link

    My foundation as a therapist is all relational. When we are stuck in ourselves, we are stuck in our relationships, and vice versa. I have a lot of specific trainings in couples work to help open up emotional dynamics so that places that feel tight, restricted and even hopeless can begin to open and change .

  • Anxiety External link

    Life is always happening to us and it can feel overwhelming. We may want to get some control of things, but we can't so the anxiety escalates. I can help you reduce the symptoms, and develop an awareness about the anxiety so that gradually it softens and you can better live life.

  • Depression External link

    Life is full of ups and downs, we live that all the time, but sometimes life can feel too much. I can assist you using a combination of symptom relief and self-exploration so that gradually the sadness can lift and you can feel better able to cope.

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