Self-Esteem

The term self-esteem is used to describe a person's overall sense of self-worth and value. Most people's feelings about themselves change somewhat based on mood and daily life. Your self-esteem, however, is more fixed than the normal ups and downs. Low self-esteem can negatively affect your life and manifest itself in many different ways.  Individuals with poor self-esteem are extremely critical of themselves and may be perfectionists, hypersensitive, jealous, defensive, withdrawn, hostile or clingy. They often have trouble making decisions and care excessively about pleasing others. A mental health professional can help you develop tools to boost your self-esteem and inner confidence.  

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Your true self should not be obfuscated by the societal pressures that come from people of privilege and power. Becoming aware and prioritizing your values is essential to getting your needs met. Whether it's sexuality, intelligence, creativity, or confidence, we must find ways where you exude and embody those values. In that way, you are closer to connecting to people that invigorate you.

Self-esteem is a term that has been used so much that it's partially lost its meaning. When we consider our esteem for others, it often has a much different and more important feeling than 'self-esteem.' What happens when we frame it as having esteem, admiration, and reverence for ourselves?

Low self esteem can make it hard to believe that you even deserve to feel good, and to have support in getting to a stronger, happier place. Maybe you don't even believe it's possible. I have seen these positive changes happen many times, and I believe it can happen for you, too. I invite you to schedule a free half hour meeting to talk about working together to make things better.

Self Esteem encompasses so many areas of our lives...communication, relating, making plans/goals in our close relationships and in our communities of work, family and play. I am certified in Brene\' Brown\'s curriculum of Shame Resilience to help us sort out the details and live our fuller and happier life.

Developing a secure and accepting sense of individuality involves building confidence, identifying false truths, setting boundaries, and expressing one\'s self authentically. I collaborate with clients so they may identify hardwired shame messages and become self-empowered to love and treat themself with kindness and grace.

I have found that softening the way we judge ourselves is the most critical step toward building self-esteem. I work by building awareness around the inner critic, and helping clients tap into self-compassion through gentle practices.

We live in a cultural paradigm that conditions us with all sorts of fear-based, limiting and destructive beliefs. Many of us internalize these fears and beliefs, and are convinced that it is about us- that somehow we are wrong or bad. Let's unlearn this false conditioning and access the truth of our wholeness and organicity.

Self-esteem can be a tricky issue to address. There are many things that can be affecting it. I am very proficient at working with clients to explore all possible reasons your self-esteem, self-worth or confidence feels low. If it's situational we will figure out how to move through it and if it's rooted in past experience we will bring it to the surface and learn how to leave it in the past.

Understanding yourself is the best way to feel whole and self-assured. People often feel stuck in self-defeating patterns and relationships which makes them feel self-critical. It can be particularly difficult to feel confident in times of transition. Therapy can help you know and access an authentic sense of self which is the best way to honor and value your strengths.

Life is hard enough as it is. Why make it harder by beating yourself up? Self-worth is one of the most consistently reported gains I hear from my clients. It’s hard to hate yourself when you spend an hour a week talking to someone who sees what’s uniquely miraculous about you - and that’s my gift.

Having a healthy sense of self is vital to feeling worthy and capable of manifesting the life you long for. We all experience wounds and hardships that serve to invalidate or diminish our sense of value. It is important that you understand the unique qualties that you possess and learn to move through the world holding your power, this is a process that can be reclaimed in our work together.

Self-acceptance combined with a growth mindset means everything in terms of your success and your happiness. Using strengths-based assessments and coaching I can help you achieve a sense of self-love and help you to feel passionate about who you are becoming.

Despite our best efforts, self-esteem is not something that we can \'will\' into place. It cannot be bestowed upon us from outside. And it doesn\'t magically appear when we whisper affirmations to ourselves. Rather, self-esteem develops when we feel genuinely seen and cared about and can begin to practice compassion and forgiveness toward ourselves. Therapy can support this process.

How do we feel like we are enough? It’s a simple idea that’s complex in the real world. I have experience helping clients navigate these murky waters to the source of low self-esteem and begin the healing process. Together we can discover, accept, and celebrate your authentic self while learning how to work with shame, self-criticism, and low confidence.

I provide a safe and affirming place to heal from current and past pain that has lead to low self worth. I come from a personal empowerment perspective helping each client to discover and express their authentic selves.

Our sense of self is directly corollated to how much we have felt valued and loved and understood in our lives. It is never too late for reparenting ourselves and my somatic tools are excellent in tapping into earlier attachment styles that were not secure enough to allow a healthy self-esteem to develop.

Difficulty building and maintaining self-esteem is at the root of so many symptoms and diagnoses. Often, caring deeply about ourselves is not a skill that is highly valued in our culture. I focus on identifying and removing blockages to self-esteem, while providing the space, empathy, and empowerment that you might need to experiment with building self-compassion again.

Finding your self-worth. It\'s there, right inside. Your worth is buried under the voice that says mean, horrible things that may feel true, but just aren\'t. Self-understanding, self-compassion and faith in yourself is what we will seek together.

If you are dealing with self-esteem issues, then you know this: the views of ourselves can be distorted at times. Hypnotic work and a solution and strength focused intervention can help immensely to see yourself in a new clearer light and connect to your self-worth. This connection exceeds the theoretical rational knowledge of your worth. It is an experiential awareness of self-love and gratitude.

I have learned specific interventions to help aid people in addressing self-esteem issues. I have experience over the last 5 years in helping people enhance self-esteem.

Our self-esteem is the foundation on which our sense of possibility and personal power is built. My approach to therapy is always to build on existing strengths and build new supports where we are still growing. I take it as a core principle to pay attention to self-esteem, and self-concept, in my work with all my clients -- including those challenged by a severe mental illness.

I help clients discover and affirm the deepest truths of who they are. You may have internalized critics or abusers from your family or society, or you may have had adverse experiences which cause you to doubt your self-worth. You may also have gifts and capacities which don't fit into a mainstream mold, causing you to doubt your own value rather than question the mold itself.

Not many topics have produced as much advice and conflicting theories as self-esteem. How do you feel about who you are? This is the question I help clients answer in a healthy way. Healthy self-esteem is a balanced accurate view of yourself, including strengths and weaknesses. Alignment with your values in action contributes as well.

Problems with self-esteem touch many people and are at the root of many mental health problems, such as depression and anxiety. I believe strengthening self-esteem is at the heart of successful therapy. I will get to know you without judgment and help you cultivate a more compassionate relationship with yourself so you are empowered to act on your strengths and make the changes you want in life.

I enjoy helping individuals increase their self-esteem. It is one of the tasks that I feel the most confident will end with success. Low self-esteem is often about negative self-talk based on faulty beliefs about oneself due to past experience. These beliefs are often powerful and convincing. Therapy is about unmasking these beliefs, stealing their power and creating a new sense of self.

I find that an inner critical voice often roars loudly in those who suffer from self-esteem problems. I work with softening that critical voice, and add in self-compassion techniques. Studies show that self-compassion can be even more effective than self-esteem at feeling better about oneself.

Using CBT, I help clients identify thought patterns or processes that are negative and/or self-destructive, and replace the negative cognition with a neutral or positive statement. Other time, building self-esteem is a central building block to a healthier self.

Identity, compassion, strengths, finding SELF, being heard, discovering values, (re)discovering who you are, women, teens, children, understanding past trauma

Relational, attachment based treatment to increase insight into self and build strong sense of identity and self worth

Perhaps there is a story that you tell yourself about the person that you are, how others view you. You\'ve been practicing and refining this story for years. Perhaps there is a part of you that rebels, suspects the \'truth\' at the core of the narrative, insists you are worthy of love and competent in many areas of your life. Our sense of self forms early but is capable of continual evolution.

If you're struggling with self worth, not feeling good enough, or negative self-talk, there are strategies and habits that Heather can help you build to feel better. Counseling will help you recognize your strengths and feel worthy, even if you don't think you have any or aren't used to this. Once you feel better about yourself, a lot can change.

My favorite line in the Desiderata poem (Max Ehrmann, 1927) is: 'Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here.' It is a profound and powerful notion that you, as you already are, are valuable and worthy of love and respect. I am committed to helping others to realize and embrace this.

This concept is frequently ridiculed. However, when one feels confident and that they have value - great things happen.

At the root of many of life\'s challenges, be they partnerships, trust, intimacy, career aspirations, etc. is the feeling that you are not on solid ground with yourself. By sitting in a safe, non-judgmental, curious space with those feelings we can unpack the negative messages absorbed and embodied, fostering a decidely relational self rooted in strength, self-compassion and vulnerability.

Self esteem allows you to follow your interests and passions, to live a full and rich life. Together, we'll deconstruct your self defeating thoughts. You will learn new ways of thinking, seeing yourself, and ways of interacting with the world. Imagine learning how to be a true friend to yourself. Imagine believing in yourself and your right to follow the life that calls to you.

Self-esteem and identity are siblings. How we view ourselves and how we feel about ourselves are inextricably intertwined. So much of my work with clients involves an intentional untangling of all the threads that make up identity—what parts of ourselves do we like? What parts of ourselves are not serving us well? Taking an objective view of our identity helps solidify self-esteem.

Our internal and external sources of praise and criticism form complex networks of motivations and self-evaluations. It is a difficult task for many to locate and feel the realistic, innate sources of self-esteem that constitute who you are, buoy your spirits, and provide you with energy for your work and relationships. Self-esteem issues are common and important components of therapy for many.

Learning to trust that you are good enough is a powerful step in finding your peace and happiness. Understanding the effects of shame, self-doubt and perfectionism and how to free yourself from these binds can open up a whole new experience of life.

Shame wrecks havoc on self-esteem. My work is deeply influenced by the power of naming shame. Together we'll find the courage and compassion to build resilience against it and live a life with greater ease.

The development of a solid sense of self with the confidence to enact change, set boundaries, and assert one's self is central to my approach. I work with people to empower their individuality and move through shame and the impacts of negative experiences.

The dreaded 'shame voice'. We all have it, and lets admit, it gets in the way at times. I work with clients to learn to identify when shame has taken over and now in control, as well as learning to quiet that piece of ourselves and allow us to move forward in life feeling more confident and secure.

Messages about being & loving yourself abound these days, but to feel a sense of authentic self-worth these messages must be supported with deeper meaning! In my practice we focus on gently cultivating a greater awareness & acceptance of what makes you YOU, while exploring how to put those qualities, ideas, & concepts into self-caring practice that nurtures empowerment, compassion & integration!

Who are you beneath who everyone tells you, you are? Together, we will unfold the layers of negative conditioning and rebuild the authentic self through, thought awareness exercises, values exploration and empowerment visualizations in a safe, non-judgmental space.

Feeling like we are not enough - essentially not good enough usually indicates some layer of shame underneath -- something's wrong with me. When we feel like this, we need someone who can help us face these vulnerable feelings with compassion and gentle curiosity - who leads us down a path that eventually cultivates a sense of self-acceptance and self-love.

Training in developmental theory and contemporary psychoanalytic theories provide a solid base of information and experience working with the complexities around vulnerabilities of self-esteem. There are different ways these problems manifest and having a broad understanding and flexible therapeutic style helps me meet the patient where they are to strengthen self esteem from the inside out.

You deserve to feel good about yourself. The way you perceive yourself is the foundation for how you function in your world. However, your shame core can keep you stuck. It is very difficult to feel good about yourself when you are under stress, unable to achieve your goals, or when others treat you badly. As you work on building your self-esteem you will notice that you feel less shame.

Feeling not good enough seems so prevalent in today\'s culture. I have successfully worked with individuals to recognize that they possess basic goodness within.

Low self-esteem is caused by the negative messages we tell ourselves. We will explore these messages to discover what could be the causes, then work to create new neural pathways of what is true about who you are.

Working with mindfulness to locate negative internal dialogue and cultivating self acceptance to increase self-esteem.

Traditional, fixed ideologies of manhood and masculinity are embedded in our makeup from birth and give rise to issues that impact relationships, self-concept, and life satisfaction. In treating such issues, I aim to help men gain awareness/insight into their problems and broader, more fulfilling life experience by utilizing mindful self-compassion, reality therapy, and nonviolent communication.

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