Self-Esteem

The term self-esteem is used to describe a person's overall sense of self-worth and value. Most people's feelings about themselves change somewhat based on mood and daily life. Your self-esteem, however, is more fixed than the normal ups and downs. Low self-esteem can negatively affect your life and manifest itself in many different ways.  Individuals with poor self-esteem are extremely critical of themselves and may be perfectionists, hypersensitive, jealous, defensive, withdrawn, hostile or clingy. They often have trouble making decisions and care excessively about pleasing others. A mental health professional can help you develop tools to boost your self-esteem and inner confidence.  

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How do we feel like we are enough? It’s a simple idea that’s complex in the real world. I have experience helping clients navigate these murky waters to the source of low self-esteem and begin the healing process. Together we can discover, accept, and celebrate your authentic self while learning how to work with shame, self-criticism, and low confidence.

The inner critic is such a trickster. We hear its voice within and are hypnotized by the stories it tells us. Surprisingly, beneath this voice and all the terrible things it says to us, is an embodied truth that's essential to our healing process. Working somatically with a trained attachment therapist can help you drop beneath the stories to the truth. This is where real change is possible.

It is difficult to feel allowed to be fully ourselves, this is often ties to how we feel about and look at ourselves.

There are times that we have it all together, we have self-confidence, self-love, and self-acceptance. Other times we don\'t believe in ourselves, we lose our relationship with ourselves, and find it difficult to gain the confidence back. Counseling can help reignite the love for yourself.

Self-esteem is essential for a sense of well-being. I have worked extensively with clients dealing with low self-esteem. I utilized various resources and a strength-based approach to assist clients with taking steps to increase their self-esteem.

I find that an inner critical voice often roars loudly in those who suffer from self-esteem problems. I work with softening that critical voice, and add in self-compassion techniques. Studies show that self-compassion can be even more effective than self-esteem at feeling better about oneself.

The dreaded 'shame voice'. We all have it, and lets admit, it gets in the way at times. I work with clients to learn to identify when shame has taken over and now in control, as well as learning to quiet that piece of ourselves and allow us to move forward in life feeling more confident and secure.

Who are you beneath who everyone tells you, you are? Together, we will unfold the layers of negative conditioning and rebuild the authentic self through, thought awareness exercises, values exploration and empowerment visualizations in a safe, non-judgmental space.

Feelings of self-worth depend on the meaning we’ve given our life experiences. Exploring what we’ve come to believe about ourselves can be an exciting and rewarding journey. I bring a wealth of tools and strategies useful to creating the strong sense of self that underlies positive self-esteem, including creative strategies like journaling and collaging and body-centered tools like mindfulness.

When we don\'t feel good in our own skin or feel how deserving of love, respect, and joy we are, it can feel scary and almost impossible to move through the world. Together we will unearth the negative beliefs held in the mind and body and create new ways of relating with yourself that support all of who you are.

Low self-esteem can be caused by a wide array of different life experiences. I guide people to identify the different aspects of their lives which have contributed to feeling bad about themselves, and I help them gain a new perspective where they can begin to welcome imperfection and accept self-love.

I have found that softening the way we judge ourselves is the most critical step toward building self-esteem. I work by building awareness around the inner critic, and helping clients tap into self-compassion through gentle practices.

I use mindfulness, CBT and psychodynamic approaches to explore root causes of low self-esteem, working with you to create strategies to feel and appear more confident and feel more 'heard' in the workplace. Root causes can include post-work trauma, anxiety, stress, imposter syndrome, and fears around interviewing and public speaking.

Self-esteem and confidence affects so many aspects of our lives, from our self image, to work, to relationships, to child rearing, etc. Many of us speak much worse to ourselves than we would tolerate from others, or do unto others. If you would like to be free from this self-torment, and feel more confidence and connected with your true self, I would love to help guide you in this.

Working with hypnosis for self-esteem is very powerful, as it allows you to access the memories, feelings, and beliefs that form your sense of self worth, and bring additional resources and understanding to those moments, and shift your feelings and beliefs towards more empowering ones. I work with this frequently, and have a program both for groups and individuals to increase core confidence.

Working with mindfulness to locate negative internal dialogue and cultivating self acceptance to increase self-esteem.

I work with girls and their families to help them see and believe in their abilities, strengths, and values, despite the messages they receive from the world.

We all have within an inner toolbox-reliable and trustworthy resources of self-love and self-regulation. But maybe during life's travails, we've lost connection and access to, or belief in this wellspring of knowing. And yet, we never lose our veritable tool box- we can just get reacquainted.

Shame wrecks havoc on self-esteem. My work is deeply influenced by the power of naming shame. Together we'll find the courage and compassion to build resilience against it and live a life with greater ease.

Self-esteem impacts almost every nook and cranny of our lives. Our self-confidence level determines so many things about how we live our lives and therapy can truly help us to build and maintain our sense of self in a world that sometimes seems bent on tearing us down. Everyone has great worth and therapy can be a good way to build that reminder into our cores!

Messages about being & loving yourself abound these days, but to feel a sense of authentic self-worth these messages must be supported with deeper meaning! In my practice we focus on gently cultivating a greater awareness & acceptance of what makes you YOU, while exploring how to put those qualities, ideas, & concepts into self-caring practice that nurtures empowerment, compassion & integration!

Self-esteem requires action, awareness, and acceptance of parts of self that once seemed undesired or unacceptable. Often, low self-esteem follows loss of agency...learned helplessness, oppression. We work together to reconnect parts of self, identify and separate from judgments, find peace with felt purpose, and gradually pursue that purpose.

Self esteem allows you to follow your interests and passions, to live a full and rich life. Together, we'll deconstruct your self defeating thoughts. You will learn new ways of thinking, seeing yourself, and ways of interacting with the world. Imagine learning how to be a true friend to yourself. Imagine believing in yourself and your right to follow the life that calls to you.

Having a healthy sense of self is vital to feeling worthy and capable of manifesting the life you long for. We all experience wounds and hardships that serve to invalidate or diminish our sense of value. It is important that you understand the unique qualties that you possess and learn to move through the world holding your power, this is a process that can be reclaimed in our work together.

Understanding yourself is the best way to feel whole and self-assured. People often feel stuck in self-defeating patterns and relationships which makes them feel self-critical. It can be particularly difficult to feel confident in times of transition. Therapy can help you know and access an authentic sense of self which is the best way to honor and value your strengths.

Sometimes we hear things about ourselves and without even consciously noticing it, we have heard those things and we now believe it. Through our work together, you will have an opportunity to discover a deeper aspect of you that is solid, strong and highly functional.

True Self-esteem comes from facing ourselves and realizing that we are deeply connected to the world around us. We are all here to walk the earth, and finding and discovering your particular way of walking is a life-changing experience.

Traditional, fixed ideologies of manhood and masculinity are embedded in our makeup from birth and give rise to issues that impact relationships, self-concept, and life satisfaction. In treating such issues, I aim to help men gain awareness/insight into their problems and broader, more fulfilling life experience by utilizing mindful self-compassion, reality therapy, and nonviolent communication.

Identity, compassion, strengths, finding SELF, being heard, discovering values, (re)discovering who you are, women, teens, children, understanding past trauma

Self-esteem can be a tricky issue to address. There are many things that can be affecting it. I am very proficient at working with clients to explore all possible reasons your self-esteem, self-worth or confidence feels low. If it's situational we will figure out how to move through it and if it's rooted in past experience we will bring it to the surface and learn how to leave it in the past.

Self-acceptance combined with a growth mindset means everything in terms of your success and your happiness. Using strengths-based assessments and coaching I can help you achieve a sense of self-love and help you to feel passionate about who you are becoming.

We often take on other people\'s criticisms of us and use them against ourselves, over and over again. I support you with becoming aware of patterns of self-abuse and offer ways to create a more compassionate way to relate to yourself.

Learning to trust that you are good enough is a powerful step in finding your peace and happiness. Understanding the effects of shame, self-doubt and perfectionism and how to free yourself from these binds can open up a whole new experience of life.

Not many topics have produced as much advice and conflicting theories as self-esteem. How do you feel about who you are? This is the question I help clients answer in a healthy way. Healthy self-esteem is a balanced accurate view of yourself, including strengths and weaknesses. Alignment with your values in action contributes as well.

Despite our best efforts, self-esteem is not something that we can \'will\' into place. It cannot be bestowed upon us from outside. And it doesn\'t magically appear when we whisper affirmations to ourselves. Rather, self-esteem develops when we feel genuinely seen and cared about and can begin to practice compassion and forgiveness toward ourselves. Therapy can support this process.

What does it mean to be you? How and when did you learn to value or not value yourself? When you can understand why and how you came to see yourself the way you do, it gives you space to make new choices and to see yourself in new supportive and helpful ways.

I have learned specific interventions to help aid people in addressing self-esteem issues. I have experience over the last 5 years in helping people enhance self-esteem.

Perhaps there is a story that you tell yourself about the person that you are, how others view you. You\'ve been practicing and refining this story for years. Perhaps there is a part of you that rebels, suspects the \'truth\' at the core of the narrative, insists you are worthy of love and competent in many areas of your life. Our sense of self forms early but is capable of continual evolution.

I believe that we can only have good relationships with others if we first have a good relationship with ourselves. Through research, training, and my own growth work, I have a rich understanding of some of the common ways we lose our connection to ourselves and how to get it back.

Most of us have an inner critical voice that keeps us in line, but for some of us that voice is punishing. Maybe your inner voice tells you that you're not good enough, that you look bad, and flings other criticisms at you. It's hard to live with a voice like that. I work to listen, to understand, and gradually help this voice soften so you can feel better in your life.

In childhood, we learn to value ourselves according to how others such as our parents value us. As adults, we can learn that true self-esteem derives from being our own authentic selves.

If you're struggling with self worth, not feeling good enough, or negative self-talk, there are strategies and habits that Heather can help you build to feel better. Counseling will help you recognize your strengths and feel worthy, even if you don't think you have any or aren't used to this. Once you feel better about yourself, a lot can change.

I help clients stabilize their view of themselves, so that their identity is not rooted in their failures or their accomplishments. I help them gain a sense of grounded-ness in their lives that will stand the test of time through the good and the bad times of life.

The act of bullying (for both kids & adults) seems to be existing at an all-time high. Self-esteem plays a huge role with the culture of bullying, both for 'the bullies' and their victims. Learning how to understand and accept ourselves instead of only comparing ourselves to others, is an important start to decreasing this culture of bullying and low self-esteem.

Our internal and external sources of praise and criticism form complex networks of motivations and self-evaluations. It is a difficult task for many to locate and feel the realistic, innate sources of self-esteem that constitute who you are, buoy your spirits, and provide you with energy for your work and relationships. Self-esteem issues are common and important components of therapy for many.

Using CBT, I help clients identify thought patterns or processes that are negative and/or self-destructive, and replace the negative cognition with a neutral or positive statement. Other time, building self-esteem is a central building block to a healthier self.

At the root of many of life\'s challenges, be they partnerships, trust, intimacy, career aspirations, etc. is the feeling that you are not on solid ground with yourself. By sitting in a safe, non-judgmental, curious space with those feelings we can unpack the negative messages absorbed and embodied, fostering a decidely relational self rooted in strength, self-compassion and vulnerability.

This concept is frequently ridiculed. However, when one feels confident and that they have value - great things happen.

Sometimes we face problems that are not easily categorized or labelled. We simply know we are unhappy or that we are not reaching goals we desire. To see me, you do not need to have a particular issue. I see people who are searching, moving into mid and later life and finding purpose and meaning. You are invited to call.

If you are dealing with self-esteem issues, then you know this: the views of ourselves can be distorted at times. Hypnotic work and a solution and strength focused intervention can help immensely to see yourself in a new clearer light and connect to your self-worth. This connection exceeds the theoretical rational knowledge of your worth. It is an experiential awareness of self-love and gratitude.

I provide a safe and affirming place to heal from current and past pain that has lead to low self worth. I come from a personal empowerment perspective helping each client to discover and express their authentic selves.

I believe that counseling is a collaboration, and much of that means finding hidden strengths and building skills. Knowing more about yourself and feeling stronger in who you are helps to build self-esteem, self-acceptance, and self-compassion.

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