Self-Esteem

The term self-esteem is used to describe a person's overall sense of self-worth and value. Most people's feelings about themselves change somewhat based on mood and daily life. Your self-esteem, however, is more fixed than the normal ups and downs. Low self-esteem can negatively affect your life and manifest itself in many different ways.  Individuals with poor self-esteem are extremely critical of themselves and may be perfectionists, hypersensitive, jealous, defensive, withdrawn, hostile or clingy. They often have trouble making decisions and care excessively about pleasing others. A mental health professional can help you develop tools to boost your self-esteem and inner confidence.  

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Our self-esteem is the foundation on which our sense of possibility and personal power is built. My approach to therapy is always to build on existing strengths and build new supports where we are still growing. I take it as a core principle to pay attention to self-esteem, and self-concept, in my work with all my clients -- including those challenged by a severe mental illness.

In childhood, we learn to value ourselves according to how others such as our parents value us. As adults, we can learn that true self-esteem derives from being our own authentic selves.

Feeling not good enough seems so prevalent in today\'s culture. I have successfully worked with individuals to recognize that they possess basic goodness within.

How do we feel like we are enough? It’s a simple idea that’s complex in the real world. I have experience helping clients navigate these murky waters to the source of low self-esteem and begin the healing process. Together we can discover, accept, and celebrate your authentic self while learning how to work with shame, self-criticism, and low confidence.

The inner critic is such a trickster. We hear its voice within and are hypnotized by the stories it tells us. Surprisingly, beneath this voice and all the terrible things it says to us, is an embodied truth that's essential to our healing process. Working somatically with a trained attachment therapist can help you drop beneath the stories to the truth. This is where real change is possible.

I have found that softening the way we judge ourselves is the most critical step toward building self-esteem. I work by building awareness around the inner critic, and helping clients tap into self-compassion through gentle practices.

I believe that self-esteem plays a huge role in who we are as individuals and how we see ourselves in this world. Individuals struggling with concerns of their self-esteem will journey together with me to uncover where a self-esteem injury occurred, and evaluate how to move past the injury. Through self inventories and discovery a new you will emerge.

Feelings of self-worth depend on the meaning we’ve given our life experiences. Exploring what we’ve come to believe about ourselves can be an exciting and rewarding journey. I bring a wealth of tools and strategies useful to creating the strong sense of self that underlies positive self-esteem, including creative strategies like journaling and collaging and body-centered tools like mindfulness.

Having a healthy sense of self is vital to feeling worthy and capable of manifesting the life you long for. We all experience wounds and hardships that serve to invalidate or diminish our sense of value. It is important that you understand the unique qualties that you possess and learn to move through the world holding your power, this is a process that can be reclaimed in our work together.

Self-esteem requires action, awareness, and acceptance of parts of self that once seemed undesired or unacceptable. Often, low self-esteem follows loss of agency...learned helplessness, oppression. We work together to reconnect parts of self, identify and separate from judgments, find peace with felt purpose, and gradually pursue that purpose.

I have learned specific interventions to help aid people in addressing self-esteem issues. I have experience over the last 5 years in helping people enhance self-esteem.

Messages about being & loving yourself abound these days, but to feel a sense of authentic self-worth these messages must be supported with deeper meaning! In my practice we focus on gently cultivating a greater awareness & acceptance of what makes you YOU, while exploring how to put those qualities, ideas, & concepts into self-caring practice that nurtures empowerment, compassion & integration!

Sometimes we face problems that are not easily categorized or labelled. We simply know we are unhappy or that we are not reaching goals we desire. To see me, you do not need to have a particular issue. I see people who are searching, moving into mid and later life and finding purpose and meaning. You are invited to call.

We come in as joy. Watch any toddler. But over time, we learn shame, inadequacy and comparison. We feel lesser-than, which undermines our sense of self-worth, worthiness and happiness. The mind turns on itself, and we plummet. What we were taught wasn\'t true! Therapy helps you recover your true self, and reclaim the enjoyment and sense of well-being that is your birthright!

Self-esteem can be a tricky issue to address. There are many things that can be affecting it. I am very proficient at working with clients to explore all possible reasons your self-esteem, self-worth or confidence feels low. If it's situational we will figure out how to move through it and if it's rooted in past experience we will bring it to the surface and learn how to leave it in the past.

Using CBT, I help clients identify thought patterns or processes that are negative and/or self-destructive, and replace the negative cognition with a neutral or positive statement. Other time, building self-esteem is a central building block to a healthier self.

I believe that finding, developing and healing your true self is one of the most fulfilling endeavors in life. It’s an ongoing process and if you’ve begun, then you know there’s no turning back now. If you haven’t started yet, I would be delighted to help you take the first step. FHT allows us to connect to the individuality of every petal and flower and to see our own special gifts.

There are times that we have it all together, we have self-confidence, self-love, and self-acceptance. Other times we don\'t believe in ourselves, we lose our relationship with ourselves, and find it difficult to gain the confidence back. Counseling can help reignite the love for yourself.

Who are you beneath who everyone tells you, you are? Together, we will unfold the layers of negative conditioning and rebuild the authentic self through, thought awareness exercises, values exploration and empowerment visualizations in a safe, non-judgmental space.

The dreaded 'shame voice'. We all have it, and lets admit, it gets in the way at times. I work with clients to learn to identify when shame has taken over and now in control, as well as learning to quiet that piece of ourselves and allow us to move forward in life feeling more confident and secure.

This concept is frequently ridiculed. However, when one feels confident and that they have value - great things happen.

Low self-esteem can be caused by a wide array of different life experiences. I guide people to identify the different aspects of their lives which have contributed to feeling bad about themselves, and I help them gain a new perspective where they can begin to welcome imperfection and accept self-love.

Most of us have an inner critical voice that keeps us in line, but for some of us that voice is punishing. Maybe your inner voice tells you that you're not good enough, that you look bad, and flings other criticisms at you. It's hard to live with a voice like that. I work to listen, to understand, and gradually help this voice soften so you can feel better in your life.

If you are feeling down on yourself and your life, know that this is something you can change and counseling can help. Life often leaves us feeling confused and not good enough, and learning to work through these periods will help restore integrity and esteem. I am here to help you work through this.

I enjoy helping individuals increase their self-esteem. It is one of the tasks that I feel the most confident will end with success. Low self-esteem is often about negative self-talk based on faulty beliefs about oneself due to past experience. These beliefs are often powerful and convincing. Therapy is about unmasking these beliefs, stealing their power and creating a new sense of self.

What holds you back in life? Feeling like you are not capable or good enough, or a strong sense of shame or inadequacy? I am experienced in helping clients navigate and understand the roots of low self esteem or not good enough-ness. Together we can understand and build compassion towards the parts of you that feel not enough and too much.

I focus on self-esteem issues in my practice. Lack of self-esteem and confidence can affect many areas of our lives and limit our ability to move forward and achieve our personal goals. I strive to help my clients gain more confidence so they can make progress and live the life they have been waiting to live.

Shame wrecks havoc on self-esteem. My work is deeply influenced by the power of naming shame. Together we'll find the courage and compassion to build resilience against it and live a life with greater ease.

Understanding yourself is the best way to feel whole and self-assured. People often feel stuck in self-defeating patterns and relationships which makes them feel self-critical. It can be particularly difficult to feel confident in times of transition. Therapy can help you know and access an authentic sense of self which is the best way to honor and value your strengths.

Self Esteem encompasses so many areas of our lives...communication, relating, making plans/goals in our close relationships and in our communities of work, family and play. I am certified in Brene\' Brown\'s curriculum of Shame Resilience to help us sort out the details and live our fuller and happier life.

Feelings of not being enough are often at the roots of depression and anxiety. Low self-worth can hold you back from leading the life you want, or pursuing the jobs and relationships you deserve. I use a combination of self-compassion techniques, and mindful exploration of your own intuitive knowing, to elicit and ground in your internal sense of self-worth.

At the root of many of life\'s challenges, be they partnerships, trust, intimacy, career aspirations, etc. is the feeling that you are not on solid ground with yourself. By sitting in a safe, non-judgmental, curious space with those feelings we can unpack the negative messages absorbed and embodied, fostering a decidely relational self rooted in strength, self-compassion and vulnerability.

When we don\'t feel good in our own skin or feel how deserving of love, respect, and joy we are, it can feel scary and almost impossible to move through the world. Together we will unearth the negative beliefs held in the mind and body and create new ways of relating with yourself that support all of who you are.

You deserve to feel good about yourself. The way you perceive yourself is the foundation for how you function in your world. However, your shame core can keep you stuck. It is very difficult to feel good about yourself when you are under stress, unable to achieve your goals, or when others treat you badly. As you work on building your self-esteem you will notice that you feel less shame.

Training in developmental theory and contemporary psychoanalytic theories provide a solid base of information and experience working with the complexities around vulnerabilities of self-esteem. There are different ways these problems manifest and having a broad understanding and flexible therapeutic style helps me meet the patient where they are to strengthen self esteem from the inside out.

To help clients address self-esteem concerns, I use a combination of mindfulness skills, cognitive strategies, and the development of supportive narratives. With these tools, I assist clients in integrating shame resiliency skills into their daily lives.

If you are dealing with self-esteem issues, then you know this: the views of ourselves can be distorted at times. Hypnotic work and a solution and strength focused intervention can help immensely to see yourself in a new clearer light and connect to your self-worth. This connection exceeds the theoretical rational knowledge of your worth. It is an experiential awareness of self-love and gratitude.

Many mental health issues contain elements of low self-esteem, and many diagnoses can contribute to feelings of low self-esteem. Thus, I investigate and explore issues of self-esteem with every one of my clients. Additionally, working with teenagers has provide hours of work focused solely on exploring self and identifying how individuals interact with the world around them.

Working with mindfulness to locate negative internal dialogue and cultivating self acceptance to increase self-esteem.

Self-esteem issues may arise in all of us at some point in our lives. Many of us come into counseling with negative schemas that we struggle to let go of. These are thoughts we have been battling for years sometimes and my hope is to support my clients to delve deep into these and access their inner strength so that they can tap into their internal joy and be inspired to attain cadence.

Our internal and external sources of praise and criticism form complex networks of motivations and self-evaluations. It is a difficult task for many to locate and feel the realistic, innate sources of self-esteem that constitute who you are, buoy your spirits, and provide you with energy for your work and relationships. Self-esteem issues are common and important components of therapy for many.

True Self-esteem comes from facing ourselves and realizing that we are deeply connected to the world around us. We are all here to walk the earth, and finding and discovering your particular way of walking is a life-changing experience.

I help clients stabilize their view of themselves, so that their identity is not rooted in their failures or their accomplishments. I help them gain a sense of grounded-ness in their lives that will stand the test of time through the good and the bad times of life.

Not many topics have produced as much advice and conflicting theories as self-esteem. How do you feel about who you are? This is the question I help clients answer in a healthy way. Healthy self-esteem is a balanced accurate view of yourself, including strengths and weaknesses. Alignment with your values in action contributes as well.

Self esteem allows you to follow your interests and passions, to live a full and rich life. Together, we'll deconstruct your self defeating thoughts. You will learn new ways of thinking, seeing yourself, and ways of interacting with the world. Imagine learning how to be a true friend to yourself. Imagine believing in yourself and your right to follow the life that calls to you.

We all have within an inner toolbox-reliable and trustworthy resources of self-love and self-regulation. But maybe during life's travails, we've lost connection and access to, or belief in this wellspring of knowing. And yet, we never lose our veritable tool box- we can just get reacquainted.

I use mindfulness, CBT and psychodynamic approaches to explore root causes of low self-esteem, working with you to create strategies to feel and appear more confident and feel more 'heard' in the workplace. Root causes can include post-work trauma, anxiety, stress, imposter syndrome, and fears around interviewing and public speaking.

Perhaps there is a story that you tell yourself about the person that you are, how others view you. You\'ve been practicing and refining this story for years. Perhaps there is a part of you that rebels, suspects the \'truth\' at the core of the narrative, insists you are worthy of love and competent in many areas of your life. Our sense of self forms early but is capable of continual evolution.

Self esteem (or lack of) is inherent in so many of our lives. My role is to help people identify the fears, beliefs (negative thoughts) that effect one\'s sense of self; and to help challenge the negative thoughts/beliefs with more accurate \'stories\'/ interpretations. The goal is to identify one\'s negative thoughts of self, and provide skills for the client reconstruct with healthier realities.

Self-esteem is the key to authentic engagement with oneself, interpersonally, and with the greater world

Difficulty building and maintaining self-esteem is at the root of so many symptoms and diagnoses. Often, caring deeply about ourselves is not a skill that is highly valued in our culture. I focus on identifying and removing blockages to self-esteem, while providing the space, empathy, and empowerment that you might need to experiment with building self-compassion again.

Your true self should not be obfuscated by the societal pressures that come from people of privilege and power. Becoming aware and prioritizing your values is essential to getting your needs met. Whether it's sexuality, intelligence, creativity, or confidence, we must find ways where you exude and embody those values. In that way, you are closer to connecting to people that invigorate you.

I don't know of a more pervasive and common human dilemma than low self-esteem. Can we accept ourselves as human and deeply flawed. Can we simultaneously take responsibility for making changes that will allow us to live in abundance and gratitude rather than despair and shame? We certainly can, but not without empathy and compassion walking beside us.

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