Ray Nelson (He/Him)

My Approach to Helping

My work is relational, present-centered, and grounded in an Existential-Humanistic framework. That means we slow down and pay attention to how you’re experiencing the world, yourself, and others. I hold space for deep exploration without judgment or agenda. This work centers your lived experience, honors your autonomy, and rejects pathologizing frameworks in favor of authenticity, meaning, and personal truth. I don’t see you as a problem to be fixed. I see you as a person with history, depth, and wisdom — even if things feel messy right now. I’m trained as a holistic sex therapist and bring a sex-positive, body-aware perspective to the work when it’s helpful. That might look like untangling internalized shame, exploring desire, or reconnecting with your sense of self in a deeper way. I welcome all identities, orientations, and expressions into the room.

My Personal Beliefs and Interests

I’m a queer man. I love the Pacific Northwest, cold weather, rain, and city life. I lived in Portland for over a decade before moving to Washington. Before becoming a therapist, I worked in the trades as a DC power engineer and general contractor. In my spare time, I enjoy bottoming for home renovation projects, being snobbish about craft beer, and watching terrible shark movies. I used to be more outdoorsy, but chronic pain and injury have shifted how I move through the world. I work remotely with clients in Oregon and Utah.